A sorry excuse of a man expresses interest in me. I’ve been taking FDS to heart and vetted him for a week before I gave him my number. Only 4 years older than me, in school, doesn’t live with parents, has a job... the basics were covered. We go on a few dates the first two are great on the third all hell breaks loose.

Apparently I’ve been his girlfriend since our first date, never was asked was simply told. He’s mad I’m not wanting to have sex yet even though “it’ll grow our connection”. He tells me he loves me! ON THE THIRD DATE! He takes pictures and videos of everything we do and creates a highlight on insta. Needless to say I was terrified this man was going to lock me in a closet somewhere. I tell him I want some space and he gets mad. Won’t talk to me at all unless I want to initiate the conversation. Luckily this was over thanksgiving so I was too busy with family to notice his pouting.

If you thought it was over we’re only halfway there! He sends me a brick of a message. Three screen shots worth. Telling me I’m trying to change him, I’m criticizing him, what female doesn’t like to be posted on social media. Every issues I had with him was somehow twisted into me attacking him. The only think I asked of him was to go slow. I’ve never been in a relationship before so obviously I’m going to need a bit of time to adjust to dating. Nope unacceptable for him I need to belong to him immediately because he’s just so in love with me.

This man walks out of work “because of me”. How is it me fault you’re so sad you can’t even look at me?!! Of course he has the audacity to show back up at THE JOB HE WALKED OUT OF get his job back and request that he never sees me at work. I’m a server and he works in the kitchen. We don’t interact and I hardly would see him in general. My manager tells me to stay out of the kitchen because he’s so sad he can’t do his job. So now it’s my fault he can’t work because I exist?!? Also because he can’t see me my schedule has been cut in half. So I’m having to go into my savings because I can’t pick up shifts and I’m not scheduled for my normal amount of hours.

I love my job too much to quit. I started there first. I’m a better worker. If he’s so mad at my existence he can transfer to another store. We work in a damn chain it’s not that hard. If I hadn’t found this sub I’d probably still be his “girlfriend” because I would have thought it was charming he was so obsessed with me instead of creepy. Y’all have saved another 22 year old from becoming a forever girlfriend!