Men as always excusing their objectification of women by claiming they are "visual creatures"

ASeaOfQuotes · 2020-12-07T17:27:23+00:00

”Well, we could probably help it, but we don’t want to.”

The truth is always there. There’s no denying people like to look at beautiful things, but men aren’t just looking, they’re objectifying, leering, staring, stalking, harassing, and scheming up ways to make young women uncomfortable on a daily basis for their pleasure and enjoyment.

InappropriateSonora · 2020-12-07T17:50:34+00:00

men are visual creatures

Yet when it comes to literally any physical object or image that is not a naked woman then they need a woman to tell them what looks okay.

chateauduchat · 2020-12-07T18:23:32+00:00

I too, am a visual creature. I am always visually looking at men’s wardrobe and his tax brackets, as well as what class of Mercedes he is driving. Visually, I prefer men with fatter wallets.

What? It’s only biology... 🤷🏻‍♀️

HaveNoIdeaWhatToPick · 2020-12-07T18:01:56+00:00

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/aug/18/mens-fixation-on-young-women-is-another-sign-of-masculinity-in-crisis Okay, I'm even more disgusted now. Another article, but this time about how men mainly seek women below the age of 18 on dating apps. "Researchers looked at nearly 200,000 heterosexual users and found that while men’s sexual desirability peaks at age 50, women hit their prime at 18. And then it’s all downhill from there apparently. Can I just remind you that 18-year-olds are teenagers, and so this study is basically saying that straight men don’t find women attractive; they like girls" and " A recent study, published in the Journal of Sex Research found that “men whose partners had less emotional stability reported better sexual function” I need an eyebleach.

SuitablePerformance3 · 2020-12-07T20:24:14+00:00

Okay,but I have eyes too, and I don't feel like staring at a troll in my day to day. So kindly move along while I look out for an ACTUAL attractive man.

Aocwannabe · 2020-12-08T00:28:53+00:00

Men are visual. And so are women. But women are also socialized to: A. lower her standards and let a guy win her over with his “personality”. Men never feel bad when they’re not attracted to a woman. A lot of women settle for men they are not attracted to because he has other redeeming qualities. Sex is important to me so I’m not having it with a man that makes my skin crawl. B. Women are socialized to emotionally bond with other humans in a way a lot of men are not. We don’t want to have control over our romantic partners. A lot of men have bizarre control issues. C. Women are taught to be “realistic” whereas men are encouraged to bat outside of their league.

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-07T18:03:41+00:00

You know, sometimes I really wonder about these women who say they are completely ignored and invisible to men because they're older. Some of them start saying it as young as 30! And I'm thinking wtf? that has not been my experience at all nor the experience of damn near anyone I know.

But look at how she talks about herself. She "was" self-absorbed, and shallow, and inexperienced, and over-sensitive and dull. So she was ass and tits pickme supreme? She had no personality and just told men they could fuck her in the ass? I know we're supposed to build other women up but I honestly wonder, did she have NOTHING else going for her besides her youth? NOTHING?

Because if that's the case, no wonder she's invisible. I wouldn't want to hang out with a woman who did nothing but long to be younger and gripe that all men only want 25 year olds.

And it's always about attracting "men" as in multiple. Why the fuck would we want that? We're not collecting harems. The guy she's talking to is a gross dick and fucks his friend's children. She needs to stop taking advice from disgusting men and focus on herself and find a man who actually fits with her, not long for gross stares from disgusting degenerate pedophiles in public.

This just pisses me off on so many levels. WTF is wrong with people?

BleuRaspbery · 2020-12-07T19:34:06+00:00

Don’t cater to the male gaze anymore. I have stopped and started living for me and wearing what I want, and I feel so much better.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-12-07T21:26:40+00:00

Why would she write this? She's admitting patriarchy brainwashed her.

boredbitch2020 · 2020-12-07T23:36:18+00:00

Visual but that can't see half the shit around them. I don't buy it. They have poor visual processing on average. That, or my visual processing is far above average

disposable20201129 · 2020-12-08T07:04:21+00:00

Just last week a guy friend in his mid 20s told me he'd like to date an older woman if she'd let him. Old man, just because you don't appreciate women your age, doesn't mean that's "just facts".

spiderunderweb · 2020-12-09T00:04:15+00:00

If men are visual creatures (I dislike the use of creature, it unhumansises someone), maybe they should look in a mirror and start there 🤢

Toot--Sweet · 2020-12-08T18:28:39+00:00

I agree old men are sleazy, but the woman who wrote this article sounds like a huge pickme, implying that young women are shallow, vapid creatures who don't read books (unlike her dowdy yet cultured self) and advertising how low maintenance she is like it's a selling point. 🙄 She seems to have internalised the sexist notion that beauty and brains are mutually exclusive in a woman.

Title	Men as always excusing their objectification of women by claiming they are "visual creatures"
Author	HaveNoIdeaWhatToPick
Upvotes	145
Comments	26
Date	December 7, 2020 5:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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