Possible red flags in guy im talking to, help!

Mcccy · 2021-05-30T17:35:12+00:00

Sis you should drop him. Like yesterday.

1) If he doesn't text first, he just doesn't care enough.

2) If he wanted something serious he'd delete tinder by now, don't chase a man. Ever.

3) Ngl I also don't agree with the 'not expecting it back' thing.

4) Following insta bikini models?! C'mom.

D R O P H I M

foodgrowerfoodeater · 2021-05-30T17:39:39+00:00

Based on your description, he clearly doesn't respect you. Also can I ask why you would ask him for money?

stormy-serenity · 2021-05-30T17:36:50+00:00

If he’s never been in a relationship before I would pass. Don’t take on starter projects! He also sounds pretty low value, if he follows thirst trap/bikini accounts that’s an automatic no. Probably a porn addict.

divination__ · 2021-05-30T18:23:07+00:00

Drop him - following bikini girls is already a red flag enough.

You shouldn't be telling a guy that you expect him to pay or that you expect money from him - it'll be easy for him to then make out that you're a massive b****, a gold digger, whatever. When this relationship ends, he'll likely think it's all down to that and you're the shallow one and he's the victim. Never lay out your expectations, simply see what he offers you and if it aligns with your expectations. There are plenty of men who will pay for everything and provide for you without you needing to ask for it. Never complain, never explain, simply leave if they don't match your expectations.

nom-de-plume_12 · 2021-05-30T17:36:13+00:00

Drop him sis, he isn't relationship material or hubby material for that matter. Following scantily clad women on Insta is a huge no-no for me and I bet he watches porn too. He is being low effort from the beginning itself and the time he takes to text you back in the meanwhile he is texting other chicks so you aren't his priority and so, you remove yourself from being one of his options.

europoor24 · 2021-05-30T17:48:17+00:00

Sis you should drop him. Learn from us.

It's only the beginning and he:

- is not texting first (he's not that into you)

- is already telling you he would always expect something back if he was your bf and he paid for you..? What? Me and my SO take turns paying/doing things for each other because we want to but we're never keeping count. WTF.

- It's only the beginning and he's not treating you a bit and already asking for money back? this is weird...

-He follows way too many bikini girls? fuck boy alarm

- Why has he never had a relationship before.. hmm I think his attitude might tell you

- It's been two months and he's still chatting to girls on tinder ? uh..

This situation stinks. Don't be as stupid as we were. He's wasting your time, after only two months it should still be smooth sailing and not give you so many doubts.

engineergorl · 2021-05-30T18:37:28+00:00

If you’re making a post on Reddit, then your gut feeling is probably right. Yeah, listen to everyone here and drop him.

elferiss · 2021-05-30T17:40:56+00:00

Drop him now and don't waste anymore time on him.

The only thing I am worried about for you is this:

-i asked him for money and he gave it to me, but expects me to pay him back...

Is he only still talking to you because he's waiting for you to pay him back? Is he going to retaliate in someway if he doesn't get his money back? Please take care

staywiththecrown · 2021-05-30T19:32:40+00:00

Glad you're dropping him. Like FDS says, if a guy is making you Google or make a post about his behavior, he's not the one for you. Trust yourself more.

PinturaMagnifica · 2021-05-30T18:12:46+00:00

Drop him~ He ain't it, sis.

goatismycopilot · 2021-05-30T18:37:42+00:00

Cut him loose.

Human_Summer_1709 · 2021-05-30T18:42:41+00:00

drop him

huevos_and_whiskey · 2021-05-30T18:50:26+00:00

If it feels like a red flag, it’s a red flag. Trust yourself.

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2021-05-30T20:41:54+00:00

Are we talking to the same guy?! Is his name Jared by any chance lmfao. Seriously though, you two have been talking for a while. He should’ve taken you out by now and got off tinder. He should be courting you.

waddamelone · 2021-05-30T20:45:02+00:00

Should’ve dropped him in april babygirl.

_electrafire · 2021-05-30T22:08:02+00:00

Block & delete. I only met my bf in the middle of February and he’s already taken me on vacation with his parents and never had tinder in the first place. I’ve never had to text first and he won’t go hours without texting unless he knows I’m at work and don’t want any distractions. Never followed any ig models either. Literally not even one.

You have a lot of work to do in terms of leveling up mentally! It’s not as if I didn’t run into trash before meeting my bf. In fact, before meeting my bf I was sleeping with a guy who was following an onlyfans account that I’m pretty sure was paid. However, once I found out I blocked him, and waited like 3 weeks to send the screenshots to mortify him then block again before he could reply, and by that time, me and my current bf were already getting pretty serious. Before that went on dates w a guy who ghosted me. And another who used me for sex once and kept texting me daily despite not wanting something serious - very frustrating waste of time: It’s not like these guys aren’t treating me like shit too - the difference is that they’re already blocked. This is the only reason why I have a healthy and happy relationship. And if this guy hasn’t made it official by now (an offer you shouldn’t accept anyway) it will literally never happen. Don’t take their behavior personally but hold yourself accountable for tolerating it and having too much empathy for trash men. This isn’t okay, you are too good for this

Softrito · 2021-05-30T18:33:09+00:00

Honestly, just block. Don't bother to pay him back.

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