I’m really glad I’ve found this sub. I’ve recently decided to end my 16 year marriage to my NVM and this is exactly the energy I need to stay strong.

I’ve lost so much of my spirit to men, starting with my completely absent father. My mother trained me to be a pick me like her and I was constantly hurt by “boyfriends” until I met my husband at 23. He love bombed me and I fell for it hook, line and sinker. I raised his daughter, put him through school and was always there to soothe him through his temper tantrums. When things were bad, I always tried to fix myself to make him love me like he did in the beginning. Honestly, his daughter was the main reason I toughed it out. Her mother had completely bailed and I didn’t want to leave her alone with her drunk ass POS father. We are super close now that she’s an adult and I am so proud of the young woman she is.

But now it’s just me, him and our young daughter in the home and he has completely abandoned even the pretense of being a decent person.

What started as disrespect and selfishness has mushroomed into gaslighting, drugs and flagrant cheating. I’m ashamed to even know him.

I was really at my lowest. I felt completely drained, broken and worthless. I wanted to die. And then I found this sub. And you know what?

Fuck THAT!

I am fucking rad. I am smart. I am driven. I am hilarious. I am kind. I’m a great friend and excellent mother. I am gorgeous - a literal beauty queen. How could this gremlin faced black hole of a person make me forget that?

NEVER AGAIN will I put up with bullshit and disrespect.

I’m am truly grateful for all the awesome women who created and contributed to this sub. It’s rekindled the queen energy inside me that was almost lost. I know it’s going to be a tough road, but nothing has been easy. My freedom is worth it. My daughters are worth it. I’m worth it.