Selectively Ignoring What You Say

arwenagon24999 · 2021-05-13T20:21:29+00:00

This used to confuse the heck out of me until I realized they were doing it on purpose. I felt like I had to dumb myself down and repeat myself or risk them saying I was being naggy 🥴 No more feeling confused, issa block from me.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-05-14T00:14:53+00:00

If you feel confused just making basic plans it’s a wrap.

Professional-Ad-457 · 2021-05-14T01:08:51+00:00

I get the ignoring request for a screener call a lot. In fact they will ghost me rather than chat on the phone even though they apparently want to spend a few hours face to face in my company. Any ideas why they are so against a pre-date call? It baffles me.

modernmedusaa · 2021-05-14T01:18:35+00:00

Idk who is schooling these grown clowns but I’ve had men asking me for a drink date 2 lines in??

Ermmmm I haven’t spoken to you to know whether I want to even agree to a date yet and I never do drinks on the first date either.

How it should go is....several back and forth convos then a screen call/s then a date is set.

Thirsty wolves. This is why I stay away from OLD. Too many men diving in the fast lane. Bores me.

Squeakendorf · 2021-05-14T03:53:01+00:00

Oh, or my favorite, when you send a text that has more than one topic and they only address one and completely ignore the other(s).

2021-05-14T09:10:27+00:00

This is a redpill technnique called "Fogging". They do it in arguments to leapfrog critical points you are making.

They also feel entitled to do it when casually talking.

Basically, the filter out any information that is not relevant to them personally.

Redpill douche alert.

wrice05 · 2021-05-14T15:15:45+00:00

This can be super insidious. I've had guys remember minute details of things I've said and then bring them back up, and then I think, "Wow! He really remembers what I say! He's different!" But then they don't remember and just straight up ignore what I say when it would require him to do literally anything that he doesn't want to. My last situationship brought up things from our first conversation 2 years prior, but when I asked him twice to please respect my time by not being a half hour or more late every time we hung out, it was like he was deaf. The casual disrespect, yo. God.

asoww · 2021-05-14T07:28:19+00:00

Lol yeah I don't even bother answering to these

Interesting_Day1188 · 2021-05-15T01:23:31+00:00

This happened to me on New Years.

A guy was texting ME, asked what I was doing. All I said was that I might go to this cool outdoor bar at midnight near my house, but that's it.

He then goes 'oh, well I already have plans, so I'll take a rain-check'.... I immediately said, OK, that's cool, but I didn't ask you to come hang out. I don't know you. I'd like to talk on the phone first and keep chatting via text if you don't mind, have to be careful with Covid.

He got nasty and tried to tell me I just asked him to come hang out with me... a few days later I told him I had another date, but thanks for his time... he just blocked me. Thankfully I did actually have a date, but man, that guy was classic gas-lighting/intentionally ignoring what I said to get what he wanted.

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Title	Selectively Ignoring What You Say
Author	haunted_vcr
Upvotes	445
Comments	28
Date	May 13, 2021 7:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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