Signs he's doing the minimum possible in order to hook you/sleep with you

30137509 · 2020-02-03T00:03:43+00:00

When texting - only seems like you got his full attention if the conversation is getting steamy.

yumiia · 2020-02-03T00:45:12+00:00

Casually insulting something about you. Trying to lightweight make you feel bad about something that might be a possible insecurity. I had a rando dm me and ask how tall I was. I’m about an inch taller than the average women. But he said wow you’re really tall for a girl. I’m guessing his expectation was for me to ask him if I really was and seek validation from him. But instead of that, I told him I wished I was taller. That definitely threw him off. Usually when men try to bs me I go off. But now I subtly tell them it ain’t going to work so they can’t talk shit about me to other people.

k20_4 · 2020-02-03T02:07:43+00:00

He refers to you as "a girl" when talking to his friends. He forgets special occasions like birthdays or holidays or sends hurtfully thoughtless gifts (e.g. a gas station sympathy card as a birthday card). He makes you pay for half/everything early on. The only time you two hangout is at night at his place. You do all of the driving. Basically my last "situationship."

VictoriaCTO · 2020-02-03T00:43:12+00:00

how about “wyd” or “wys”?! Never settle for a boy who cant type full sentences ☝🏻

intrepidis_dux · 2020-02-03T03:50:15+00:00

Inconsistent in how often they contact you with no explanation. Flaky with dates. Ugh. No thanks to all that nonsense.

I had a guy text me at 3am once saying he was sick. I didn't get it till morning, but it was annoying to read his whining to me first thing in the morning. I don't like being the involuntary emotional dumping grounds. Add that to the list too!

redbirdflies · 2020-02-03T04:52:00+00:00

Keeps conversation limited. Never talks about anything of substance.

Worst of the lvms only or mostly want to talk about sex

Other lvms, bad but not as bad as the porn sick sex obsessed ones, will wait for you to initiate and when you don’t, they’ll send funny videos or memes instead of inquiring about your life or making plans

They never ask you how you are.

They never text before 11pm.

They never want to go out to eat

Netflix and chill

Firefly10886 · 2020-02-03T06:39:32+00:00

He introduces you to friends and family by your first name only, instead of, this is my girlfriend, Firefly....and you’ve been a couple for 8 months.

butterflymeadowzz · 2020-02-03T00:06:11+00:00

Trying to use what you’re attracted to against you-to make himself more appealing.

When I was 18, I was at this party with these college guys and my friends as well, and I got stuck in a room, probably to drink with one of the guys who owns the apartment. We got into this conversation about me loving the Doors and apparently he thought I was so drunk that he could compare himself and suggest that he looked like Jim Morrison, enough for me to go for it. Of course, I knew he wanted me to sleep with him, he looked NOTHING like Jim Morrison (not gonna lie-if he did, my Pickmeisha ass probably would’ve went for it then) and I dipped out and I’m telling you, he was salty. I think he even talked some shit on my way out, real quietly and I just kept it moving. Goes to show how stupid guys think you are too when they just want to have sex with you.

2020-02-03T13:47:01+00:00

Last minute plans

Suggests dates at his place or in his neighbourhood/wants to come over to your place

If you suggest a date or activity, says he'll "get back to you"

Leaves you on read, then replies a day or two later - might have an apology or lame ass excuse

Asks you to text him (when you get home, how your day went, etc) and doesn't reply when you do

exhalotrophe · 2020-02-03T04:50:10+00:00

If you’re questioning a mans worth, Ask yourself this ladies: Is he engaging you on an intellectual level? Has he voiced interest in your hobbies and passions? What has he done lately to make himself useful to you?

cannedboelyn · 2020-02-03T04:24:43+00:00

I’ll list some. When I use to wear makeup on the train I had guys give me a piece of paper with their number on it and just walk away without saying a word

When I went to a community college in downtown I had this happen to me while I was on the computer too. I always threw them away.

In text: “What you doing?” I had a guy ignore me for days after I responded to that question

Title	Signs he's doing the minimum possible in order to hook you/sleep with you
Author	Whateverrr_345
Upvotes	101
Comments	29
Date	February 2, 2020 11:50 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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