Ever notice how certain men love to take “breaks” before certain holidays where there’s an underlying expectation that he needs to do something for his partner?

Ever notice how fights randomly appear around this time, and you’re blind sighted when he suggests to “take a break”?

This isn’t some weird coincidence, this is a cheap method of trying to get out of doing something nice for you. He knows there’s a societal expectation involved, and he doesn’t value you enough to acknowledge that. Bonus points if you’ve been dating a while and he ends things over text or a phone call with you although he lives close enough to have an adult conversation.

When a man suggests a break, it’s his poor excuse of telling you that he wants to see other people but wants to keep you on the back burner in case it doesn’t work out with the other women he’s pursuing. A real relationship involves open and honest communication. A man who truly loves you and values you is willing to talk about his issues and challenges with you. A man who isn’t into you however, will shut you out and ask to take a break, which is the cowards way of asking to break up.

Don’t fall into the trap of “breaks”. Very rarely do breaks actually work out. Very rarely do people get back together and are happier than ever. Very rarely does a man actually stay committed to you and focus on himself and his challenges while he spends time away from you. That is not how a majority operate.

If someone suggests a break to you, respectfully end the relationship right then and there. There’s no need to continue dragging it out. There’s no need to continue antagonizing over him and replaying every scene in your end as to why he suddenly changed on you.

Take a deep breath and exit the situation. Be happy it happened now than down the line with years invested. Don’t feel tempted to reach out to him at all. If he has shit at your place, mail it to him.

Do yourself a favour and enjoy your new found singledom. You deserve to be happy with someone who truly loves you and is willing to work through your challenges and fight for you.