~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
Cosmictears83
[–]Sage_PlanterFDS Disciple200 points201 points202 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
He knows he loves me.
Who wouldn't love a full-time nanny, tutor, cook, and driver who pays half of your living expenses to boot?
She's not even doing those tasks for free at this point - she's paying him to do take care of his responsibilities for him.
GIRL RUN.
[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple31 points32 points33 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Right? She sacrificed everything to become a convenient slave, who not only provides free services, but EVEN PAYS a huge chunk of her income to be used and taken advantage of. Of course he loves that for himself and tries to shut down her concerns that maybe obviously this is beyond unfair and not her responsibility at all?! Poor naive girl was still hoping and believing that scrotes are better than this, capable of actual reciprocating love, being decent human beings, and not just using women for convenience and comfort, while being busy jerking off themselves.
[–]ReignRain95FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True
[–]royaldetourFDS Newbie97 points98 points99 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She rearranged her whole life to her great detriment to take over his responsibilities. He doesn't cheat/ beat me is never enough of a reason to stay. Like damn, sis. That little girl probably loves her too, it's just heartbreaking. Never do wifey shit before he proves himself worthy and offers you a real commitment.
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist72 points73 points74 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At 23 she really threw her life away with both hands to be some dudes mommy bangmaid and raise his kid. And she's shocked this happened? This is a hard lesson for her.
[–]4E4MEFDS Apprentice62 points63 points64 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Good comments so far but what I want to know is she says they contribute 50/50 to the bills but do they make the same amount of money? Because I would bet a dollar to a bag of donuts that she makes less than him, so percentage-wise she's contributing a higher percent of her salary to the household expenses.
I think there are a lot of things that he loves about her, but I don't think he loves her.
And that poor daughter too.
[–]Alma00019FDS Newbie48 points49 points50 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not only that, but it sounds like she left a BETTER PAYING job to accommodate his schedule.
Plus she doing all these chores for free. And she gets zero emotional support, emotional bonding, and companionship out of this. she literally getting negative benefits from this relationship.
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
And she shouldn't be paying half the expenses, she should be paying 1/3rd of the expenses; at most. She didn't bring a third person (the child) into the household, he did.
Also - Not only is she contributing a higher percent of her salary to the household expenses, the household expenses are likely inflated due to the presence of the child. It's probably a bigger house they need to live in; a bigger vehicle; more groceries, etc. A lot of child-free people who were happily supporting themselves in an apartment or condo that suited them and they could easily afford on their own, hook up with a single parent and suddenly find themselves living in some 3 or 4 bedroom house in the burbs, expected to help pay for family-sized levels of rent, mortgage, property taxes, utilities, gas, etc etc.
Edit: All of this is just to say: Never move in with some guy.
[–]perkytitssolidshitsFDS Newbie53 points54 points55 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a good example of why we don’t give wife benefits to boyfriends. She also took on a mother role/nanny to soon. This isn’t a relationship, he shuts down because he doesn’t want to loose all these benefits. Oh man he is using her good. Someone needs to show her the light.
[–]TululahJayneFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm still digesting..."Treats me okayish..." Like, ladies, PLEASE, love yourselves more. Damn. This is beyond depressing.
[–]IAmGoingToBeBetterFDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She needs to dump his ass immediately. She should have left after the first time he ignored her feelings.
[–]Partnerofaddict00FDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When "doesn't beat me, doesn't cheat on me and treats me okay-ish" is the bar.
[–]blackcherry333FDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was just going to say. THESE are the requirements!? Wow.... don't go crazy, wouldn't want to overwhelm him.
[–]ApartPersonalityFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She’s literally volunteering to be a free babysitter at this point.
[–]Alma00019FDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not volunteering. Paying to be his babysitter. And maid.
[–][deleted] 23 points24 points25 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😳
[–]WkndwhorechataFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can't even.
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
"He doesn't beat me." The bar isn't low it's in Hell now.
[–]loudest_gussetFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That's what shocked me too. Like how low is the bar??? I'm supposed to be grateful to not get beat? Is this normal?
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
To be honest my first husband was abusive so when my second husband came along I was so grateful that he didn’t threaten to kill me all the time that I didn’t see how low value he was too, just in other ways. It’s sad when we rate these guys by comparison because it’s all we know.
[–]loudest_gussetFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm aware this happens, it's just so crushing how normalized this kind of thing is and that not being abused means that you're lucky. I wish that not being abused was considered the bare minimum, not a partner going above and beyond. I'm happy to hear that these two men no longer seem to be in your life!
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Me too sis! I’m grateful that there are so many women here that are figuring it out early and not learning the hard way after decades of mistakes like me. This sub is such a gift.
[–]ReignRain95FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Idk is it?
[–]coolestgirlyouevermeFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When I broke up with my ex the first thing he said was "I don't understand...but I'm so happy with you"
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah mine was like “but I don’t wanna lose you” like I’m sure you don’t, I'd hate to lose me too.
[–]helppleasekkFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://i.imgur.com/KaIZ5Bn.jpg
(sorry for the low effort comment but... big yikes)
[–]gcthrowaway2019FDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Leave sis and make sure it's as inconvenient to him as possible. Her saving grace is that she moved in with him. Find a day you have the house to yourself and disappear.
I can see it now..."She never told me she was unhappy! She just left out of the blue one day!"
[–]Alma00019FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
this has to be a troll. "is this relationship worth sticking out?" no one can be that dense.
[–]JasmineAndClovesFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is why I won’t live with a man again prior to engagement or marriage. I’m not going to have wife-like expectations thrust upon me by a boyfriend. Moving in together is just some weird tourist trap along the highway of dating that seems like it will be awesome, but then it’s not. And, you didn’t even get a t-shirt.
Don’t detour in Pickmeville, guys. Just keep it moving.
[–]EclecticBarbarellaFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve never been in love, but I can’t imagine it’s good enough to be worth sticking around for the shit that women stick around for. I read these and just dont understand why they stay when it’s literally just a laundry list of negatives and then “bUt LoVe”.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"He doesn't beat/rape me" The bar has reached the center of the Earth
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–]Sage_PlanterFDS Disciple200 points201 points202 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple31 points32 points33 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]ReignRain95FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]royaldetourFDS Newbie97 points98 points99 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist72 points73 points74 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]4E4MEFDS Apprentice62 points63 points64 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Alma00019FDS Newbie48 points49 points50 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Summerisle7FDS STRATEGY COACH8 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]perkytitssolidshitsFDS Newbie53 points54 points55 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]TululahJayneFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]IAmGoingToBeBetterFDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Partnerofaddict00FDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]blackcherry333FDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ApartPersonalityFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Alma00019FDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 23 points24 points25 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]WkndwhorechataFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice18 points19 points20 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]loudest_gussetFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice6 points7 points8 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]loudest_gussetFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ReignRain95FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]coolestgirlyouevermeFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]elementalviragoFDS Apprentice6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]helppleasekkFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]gcthrowaway2019FDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Alma00019FDS Newbie10 points11 points12 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]JasmineAndClovesFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]EclecticBarbarellaFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link