What makes a man commit?

MaizeMalaise · 2020-01-27T19:02:37+00:00

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SureEmployment4 · 2020-01-27T19:10:40+00:00

Ask yourself why you think basic affection from this man means ANYTHING at all. You’ve been having sex with him for 2 years- but a forehead kiss somehow indicates real intimacy?

If he hasn’t locked you down by now he doesn’t want to. And he’s not going to. A man that wants you would not even give you the space to potentially be taken off the market by another man.

I would say this is wasted energy. Since you have feelings it is best that you end it and explain why. Maybe that will light up a fire in him to commit, but I wouldn’t count on it. And honestly I wouldn’t want a man that could spend 2 years with me but not progress the relationship.

drragonbones · 2020-01-27T19:22:49+00:00

In what way is this man who hasn't committed to you but is happy to get free sex for two years your soulmate? Seems like he knows a good thing when he's got it. Seems like you're setting yourself up for an emotional rollercoaster. YOU CAN'T MAKE SOMEONE LOVE YOU, COMMIT OR DO ANYTHING. They will or they won't. And he isn't.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-27T20:21:48+00:00

What makes a man commit?

Fear of losing someone who matters to him.

End of story.

When they value you, they will lock that shit down.

psychsense · 2020-01-27T19:05:42+00:00

I thought the same way about my FWB for almost 2 years. He even said he loved me. But at the end of the day they value your body first because if they valued you as a person first then you would be in a relationship right now.

PsychologicalSkill0 · 2020-01-27T19:53:35+00:00

What makes you think you are the only one he does this to? Maybe he has multiple FWB. He also doesn’t seem to care if you sleep with other guys. Sounds harsh but he likes you because you are easy.

turquoiseblues · 2020-01-27T20:56:06+00:00

You’re giving him the girlfriend experience for free.

mountaindewme22 · 2020-01-27T20:45:35+00:00

If he wanted to commit to you , he would.... It does not take 2 years to decide if you want to be with someone a.k.a he has already decided and that answer is: no.

Now you can continue being his convenient placeholder until he finds a girl he actually wants to date OR you can regain your dignity and move on with someone else who actually wants to be with you.

LadyHormoneMonster · 2020-01-27T19:38:38+00:00

You’ve been in a two year “Situationship”. DTR or move on ASAP.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-27T19:36:22+00:00

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ssprinnkless · 2020-01-27T22:48:52+00:00

If he hasn't committed already, he doesn't want you that way and he won't commit to you, ever. You can't make a man commit to you, and you shouldn't want to.

You say no one else has made you feel this way, why not put that to the test and actually give someone else a chance? Someone who wants a relationship with you, not a fwb.

sugaredberry · 2020-01-28T02:05:50+00:00

Sounds like he’s using you like a mommy. As a person to keep him warm. They bank on keeping you confused. Ive been in this situation. Please. Calmly end it or ghost him. If a man wants you, you’ll know.

streetveep · 2020-01-28T07:44:42+00:00

Why are you on FDS?!!

Fitncurly · 2020-01-27T21:21:53+00:00

If he hasn’t made serious moves to keep you around or had any sort of future-thinking talk about furthering the relationship, then you should next him for someone who takes your heart and time seriously.

Desperate-Nectarine · 2020-01-28T01:46:49+00:00

You can’t make him want to commit. You can leave and find someone who does want that though, which is what you should do

Title	What makes a man commit?
Author	_Alexis_xs
Upvotes	12
Comments	31
Date	January 27, 2020 6:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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