Women's Body Savior

vitryolic · 2022-02-28T17:52:19+00:00

I hate when people act like we should be grateful for uninvited compliments from LVM. Nobody asked their opinion, so why do they need to pass judgment on women?

Compliments often become a manipulation tactic. Like you said- watch how their tone switches when you say you already know you’re beautiful, smart, amazing etc like they just said. LVM give what they perceive to be validation, to receive validation.

shelballama · 2022-02-28T16:16:21+00:00

Ugh super gross and annoying.

You should have sent back "ween size doesn't matter, king" blanket memes and "it doesn't matter how big you are, matters how you use it!"

"I'm sure someone will recognize and accept you in spite of your penis"

"Flaws like your penis are true beauty"

Would that go over well with him? If not he needs to take several seats. Tool.

Him sending you that kind of stuff reeks of a more subtle neg tbh, and maybe with a dash of some cope from how he has aged?

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-02-28T17:12:17+00:00

"Love your imperfect body! I like your skin! I'm an ass man!"

[looks like a bean pole with scraggly facial hair]

poison_snacc · 2022-02-28T19:47:18+00:00

Sounds like a narcissist to me. He’s going around getting narc supply by being fake supportive to women with low self esteem. You inadvertently became his charity case but you totally ruined the game when you explained there was no problem to begin with! That’s a massive trigger to a narcissist. They’ll neg and neg until they get a crumb of insecurity, but you didn’t give him any! He lost. It probably reminded him that he is a fake, through & through. I love to hear a sis stand up for herself! What sucks though is this is going to make him double up on trying to create insecurity in others. Wish there was a way to track these freaks & warn other women!!

scorchedsouI · 2022-02-28T16:42:08+00:00

Damn, he gave you male validation about an issue surely all women cry to sleep over every single day, and you didn't immediately hop on his dick in gratitude?

Poor guy 😕 Women are ungrateful b!tches these days.

drslvtr · 2022-02-28T21:03:02+00:00

When a man tells me I'm beautiful or give me any compliment, I always say "I know".

If the compliment is genuine they take it well. If they didn't mean it, it sends them to rage.

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2022-02-28T19:30:13+00:00

There is this weird male fetish for insecure girls, seen in songs like 1Direction’s “That what makes you beautiful”, and Bruno Mars’ “just the way you are”. As though women are supposed to feel bad about themselves until a man tells them otherwise. Miss me with that shit. If any man compliments my looks (especially one who barely knows me), i just answer “I’m aware.”, or “okay.” Weeds that type right out.

eatchickpeas · 2022-02-28T20:01:18+00:00

theres this pattern in some men. they grow up with low self esteem for whatever reason, they repackage their insecurities into anger at a group of people for whatever reason eg rich women, beautiful women, poor women, ugly women. they'll swear that x is such a problem because they do y thing. they carry on with this borderline obessession for years until it gets to a point where they realise how dumb they are. they 'change' to respect the people they originally hated but they dont get the response that they were hoping for

this guy was hoping that you would just run to him, confess ur love to him and then demand to get married and bare his children so that he doesnt die alone. his worst fear is dying alone with nobody to share his life, he didnt consider you an option 20 years ago because he considered you fat but now hes decided hes into fat women and he will now give you his precious and valuable time and attention

No-Village-3946 · 2022-02-28T22:51:35+00:00

It's telling that they assume you feel insecure and that the assumption leads them to prey on you through ulterior flattery. It's so predatory and sick. Like they're trying to become your main source of validation so they can exploit you.

Constant-Wanderer · 2022-02-28T18:17:28+00:00

Hahaaaaa this is one of my most hated male behaviors, and it’s so deeply ingrained in people (the savior and the recipients) that it’s almost impossible to convince anyone of how fucking toxic it is.

I don’t require your approval or admiration to know that I am amazing. I won’t even use words like “worthy” or “enough” because that’s language used by them, and it’s akin to a condescending motivational poster.

Imagine if any other self-determination process were posited this way. “Oh it’s after 5pm, you may drink now.” “You should enjoy the sunshine.”

Motherfucker, you’re not some magnanimous being who holds the keys to my inner peace, I AM.

The same goes for a much broader picture too.

I don’t ask for your permission to exist. I don’t “support” legislation or verbiage that frees me from male control, I am simply not yours to control.

You aren’t in a position to grant me freedom, I am simply free. I do not wait for you to open a door, I will open doors, and I’d you stand in my way, I will crash through the wall and knock it down.

I am not beneath you, waiting for you to pull me up, I stand on my own, without you if necessary, with you if you choose, but never do I depend on you for that place.

You can’t deny me a place at the table. I am the fucking table.

Edit: one duck

Eta this is the same dickless trash bag who thinks that “smile” is a compliment, or random compliments should just inspire gratitude.

These people are shit.

When they talk to you like this, (the general “you” as in any of us) all I hear is a toddler stomping about, trying to tell me that he’s the ruler of the world, and he’s angy with me because I didn’t give him a lolly.

Like no one cares kid, I’m still the one with control here, and I will duct tape you to the wall if you get out of line.

FDS-MAGICA · 2022-02-28T19:32:23+00:00

I'm a lifelong fat girl/woman, and I absolutely hate myself. But I never let men manipulate me because of that. I dumped my perpetually-broke BBW-fetish boyfriend too. I at least have a minimal amount of self-respect.

derpinat_butter · 2022-03-01T09:37:11+00:00

Didn't you know? Women are only beautiful if we don't know it. /s

CandidKick · 2022-03-01T13:12:29+00:00

Because LVM want our validation to come from them.

That want to sexualize us but go off when we partake in our own sexuality. They want us to live off their compliments but rally against our self-love.

It is all about control and needing them for validation, sexuality, ‘love’, etc. Trying to keep us from being independent of them and relying on ourselves and each other. Tricking us into thinking we need them when they are just baggage. We don’t need them and they know that and they hate that so they gaslight us. We are already complete on our own and capable of giving ourselves and each other everything we need.

Title	Women's Body Savior
Author	corago513
Upvotes	384
Comments	23
Date	February 28, 2022 3:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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