Growing up I never had any attention from woman. After I graduated University around the age of 22 I realized it just wasn't going to happen and got desperate I paid for every single dating app and website and dropped my standards. I thought for sure I would be able to find a girl that I'm not attracted to but then I realized I wasn't able to find any women regardless if I liked her or not.

I had a friend who was into PUA and I looked into it for a bit but realized it was a bunch of nonsense, and that same friend never had any success and basically just ended up getting an arranged marriage later in life. I then followed the standard contradictory reddit advice, become her friend first by joining hobbies but don't just join a hobby for girls, or when you get friend zoned they say you need to be upfront and not to become her friend, etc... None of it worked. During this period I would cope by seeing escorts, I estimate I spent around 90k during this period on escorts, until I was 28.

On my 28th birthday I had a crisis and realized it truly wasn't going to happen, I was getting too old and before then in the back of my mind I thought there was still a small chance I would find someone, but at that age I lost all hope and it was the first time in my life that I considered suicide.

Then I said I would try literally anything and I did a lot of research on plastic surgery and realized that my face was legitimately deformed, I had airflow problems and needed jaw surgery, and this was an orthodontist and maxillofacial surgeon that said this, not people you usually go to for cosmetic surgeries. So I used my savings to get braces to prepare for the surgery. They year that I had my braces was probably the worst year of my life.

After my surgery and after I recovered I took new pictures and tried online dating again and I had a completely different experience, I would actually get matches and women would message me first. This is when I learned that women actually do message first and very often, contradictory to what I see people say on reddit. Dating was something I could actually do now and became just a normal part of life. I would talk to women on dates for hours and have meaningful conversations, and all it took was fixing my face.

It felt so surreal like it was an out of body experience, like this can't be real or happening. I imagine it's how I would feel if pokemon was real or something. Nothing else about me changed I'm still the same insecure person inside, my personality is still the same, only difference is my appearance. So this is why I don't believe what women say anymore, actions speak louder than words.

I also realized women don't really care about the politics of the men they date. I'm a marxist and one of my ex girlfriends was a member of Falun Gong, I find as long as the girl likes you then it doesn't matter that your beliefs are, and if your beliefs match 100% it doesn't matter if you are ugly, none of the leftist women I know in real life would give me a chance before my surgery. I could be wrong but I think leftist woman would rather be with a good looking Nazi than an ugly or average Socialist.