Guy gets taken advantage by another guy while drunk. Reddit commences with the "hey at least you got a free blowjob" comments, instead of treating him like the almost-rape victim he is.

sun_wyvern · 2010-05-30T16:21:02+00:00

I'm angry on two fronts. One, I'm angry that this guy is being treated poorly for his experience, because clearly this experience was not consensual. One of the comments was "it's not rape if you are a guy." How absurd.

On the second front, I'm angry as a gay man. This is the type of horror story that estranges straight guys from being friends with gay guys who aren't assholes.

Grr.

weegee · 2010-05-30T18:16:06+00:00

what the fuck is an "almost-rape" victim? it's either rape or it's not, make up your mind. if the guy was drunk it was rape.

rellin · 2010-05-30T16:25:50+00:00

Most of the answers were to the tune of "Maybe you should take accountability for your actions that might put you into this scenario." I'd love to see someone say this in a feminism discussion.

2010-05-30T17:44:19+00:00

It really bugs me when I see a thread like this. The entirety of Reddit did not come down on this guys thread and make fun of him, or tell him it was his fault. Seven douchebags told him he was gay, and you decide the problem is Reddit? Not so much.

Phoenixdying · 2010-05-31T01:27:57+00:00

People who tried to defend the would be rapist are disgusting. Anybody can be raped. It does not make a difference if you are male,female or intersex.

Subversive · 2010-05-30T16:38:37+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/c9kvb/from_postsecret_a_semirape_no_mention_of/

Hey what a coincidence!

Subversive · 2010-05-31T04:09:34+00:00

There's no such thing as almost-rape.

Guy said no. Sex happened anyway. It was rape. Period.

kloo2yoo · 2010-05-30T18:53:04+00:00

my response

I'm stating to you what I've said in different ways repeatedly about women who get themselves drunk and then are raped:

You are not guilty of getting yourself raped, but you are not innocent, because you refused to keep yourself sober. If any person drinks themselves silly and drives any part of the way home (or anywhere) then that person is guilty of drunk driving. [1] You also don't have the right to abandon your senses in a bar or at a party and expect to be taken care of by the kindness of strangers.

that said, no one has the right to take advantage of your drunkenness either. Call the police.

By your description, you were not "almost raped." you were sexually assaulted. You refused, and he persisted. that is not your fault, whether you're sober or drunk. It does not matter whether he (or you) did or did not have an orgasm.

[1] I know you didn't drive until you woke up; I meant this allegorically

2010-05-31T11:26:28+00:00

I see an overwhelming amount of support for the victim in that thread. The highest voted comments are either thoughtful or jokes.

Fallout911 · 2010-05-30T17:47:58+00:00

Disgusting, I'd probably hunt the piece of shit down and kill him. Rape messes people up for the rest of their lives.

boredatheist · 2010-05-30T22:31:38+00:00

This isn't rape. If the "victim" was a chick, I'd say the exact same thing.

Ask yourself, would it be in society's best interest for the law to get involved in this situation? No.

The supposed aggressor was acting exactly how you'd expect any drunk male to act in that situation. If you think otherwise, you're either a chick, or a virgin shut-in. The OP consented to sex with his actions.

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