How would you have handled yourself in this situation at Disney World?

TytalusWarden · 2013-07-23T19:24:08+00:00

He was a couple hundred yards away? You spotted a guy watching you from several football field lengths away from you and thought he was specifically targeting you?

Ted8367 · 2013-07-23T17:35:33+00:00

Why didn't you contact security and complain about some creep following you ?

Jesus_marley · 2013-07-24T01:03:06+00:00

simply being monitored in my view is not sufficient to claim sexist discrimination. I have worked in the security industry and I can say that in my experience, any behaviour that can be seen as out of the ordinary tends to get flagged for extra attention. I have monitored, confronted and arrested both males and females in the course of my job. That said, sexist profiling zdoes exist. Had OP been barred fromm the park, or harassed for sitting on the bench, then I would take much more issue.

To answer OPs question as to what I would have done in his situation, I would have looked directly at the guy and waved. Nothing pisses off guys like this more than to be "made".

avantvernacular · 2013-07-23T20:56:11+00:00

Keep in mind that Disney is pretty much constantly in surveillance of everyone in the parks.

Capt_Underpants · 2013-07-23T20:55:42+00:00

I'm a Caucasian male wearing a polo shirt, shorts and dark black Oakley sunglasses.

Sitting outside a disney park, just watching the park, man or women, is automatically suspicious to overzealous cops/donut guardians.

Probably didn't help with the sunglasses and people watching. This wasn't a men's rights issue, as much as you are trying to warp it to be, but just a guard seeing someone doing something suspicious as they are trained to notice and making sure you were not up to anything.

SHITLORDHERE · 2013-07-23T17:35:01+00:00

Confront the fucktard.

Hodor_Frey · 2013-07-23T22:06:58+00:00

On many occasions in my adult life, I have found myself alone in random places with time to kill. Sometimes it is at a socially acceptable place, e.g. in a bookstore or coffee shop with wifi. Other times it is in places that aren't as socially acceptable, e.g. a residential park or in my car in a parking lot. In both situations, I am aware of the scrutiny I may face.

Part of me is concerned that I will be falsely identified as a LEO, PI, or a criminal enforcer and be subjected to assault from nearby (paranoid) civilians. Another part of me is concerned that nearby residents or parents will call the police on me as a potential pervert. This is not, inherently, a men's issue. Women may be subject to similar scrutiny, but I've never seen it, though I have heard of overzealous homebodies calling the cops on both male and female strangers.

Sadiebb · 2013-07-24T10:58:11+00:00

Trayvon?

DavidByron · 2013-07-24T18:33:53+00:00

At least you didn't get shot while carrying skittles. Young men get eyed suspiciously EVERYWHERE and it can be lethal.

Captaincastle · 2013-07-23T19:18:44+00:00

In fairness you were someone sitting outside the park for an hour, it might have been standard procedure, man or woman.

johntheother · 2013-07-23T19:57:08+00:00

next time, walk right up and introduce yourself to him, if you have a sarcastic streak, ask him if he's lost, and too shy to seek directions

DevilishRogue · 2013-07-24T14:35:55+00:00

Do what I do, wave and smile at them. Or invite them over and explain yourself so that they don't waste any more time monitoring you.

Crazyjanda · 2013-07-24T15:25:23+00:00

You worry too much about what other people think. If you know you are right, then you are right and you have no need to be afraid. If he made a move on you, then that is a different story.

Tl;DR Give less fucks about others, do your thing.

4man · 2013-07-24T22:30:00+00:00

I suggest you might consider that your self-worth should not depend upon the actions or words of random strangers. He did not speak with you, demand ID or do anything to interfere with you. Your thoughts concerning his attention are what caused you to feel pressured. In the final analysis he left you alone.

saint2e · 2013-07-23T17:44:41+00:00

Honestly I would've walked over and talked to the dude and explained the situation, especially if I had any sort of ticket or pass or whatever from the training course you were on.

Sucks to be suspected of being a child abuser or kidnapper, but those people do exist, sadly.

rightsbot · 2013-07-23T17:36:17+00:00

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JaydenPope · 2013-07-23T23:27:22+00:00

When you found out his was "eye'ing" you you should of confronted the asshole. Should of gotten his name, badgenumber, supervisor's name and phone number then grilled both cause sitting alone or walking alone even as a guy and them watching shows gender profiling and male sexism.

2013-07-24T00:31:08+00:00

I volunteered at a children's event at a zoo. There was me and 5 girls teaching a bunch of kids 5-10 how to plant sunflower seeds. The bench would only seat 4 of us. At first we took turns with who was standing but I soon realized I was getting a lot of bad looks from parents being a guy standing around kids with no real purpose to be there. I told the girls, you have to take turns standing, but I can't be seen just standing here without purpose.

I gave up a Saturday to spend it helping kids learn, and still ended up being judged as "that guy."

Title	How would you have handled yourself in this situation at Disney World?
Author	lolwut314
Upvotes	16
Comments	59
Date	July 23, 2013 5:32 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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