Why Men Should NEVER Get Married

Punder_man · 2025-07-18T07:03:44+00:00

This video hits the nail on the head..
Especially the whole "Get up at 6am, go to work for 8 - 10 hours" come home exhausted and yet still expected to help around the house etc.." or you are labeled as "Lazy" or a "Dead Beat"

And of course women are proclaiming that they are doing "Unpaid work" in regards to the household (Caring for children, cooking, cleaning, etc) as well as the "Emotional Labor" of having to handle appointment etc.

All while boldly painting men as evil, lazy sods who don't help.

Or as they say in the video, if the man is the main breadwinner for the family and he so much as even questions a big financial decision made by his wife he gets chewed out and told that he doesn't understand the family's needs..

genkernels · 2025-07-18T10:33:32+00:00

While I can agree that marriage is a raw deal that has been reshaped to demoralize men to the disastrous effect described, I would not agree that transient sexual relationships and multiple partners is an acceptable substitute.

Expensive-Plantain86 · 2025-07-18T13:46:39+00:00

Men are better off alone and single.

sachinator · 2025-07-18T19:36:01+00:00

Biggest scam sold to me growing up is marriage

Specialist_Pea_8491 · 2025-07-18T21:06:55+00:00

I lived this. That's how I know it's legit.

Fun_Butterfly_420 · 2025-07-18T19:13:46+00:00

I think a lot of us can heed Baloo’s advice from The Jungle Book: Forget about those, they ain’t nothing but trouble

Known-Promise217 · 2025-07-18T14:56:08+00:00

The issue isn't just about the distribution of labor. It's about attraction. The difference between a woman who is okay with doing her part and a woman who wants more is night and day. People who feel like they're getting the short end of the stick tend to make the other person do more work, because they view themselves as deserving more. This has been going on for years in dating as well. The entire façade of Feminism has always been painting women equal to one another, thus having all the same wishes. Remember, men have duties, women have choices.

randomone1986 · 2025-07-18T10:54:27+00:00

Stereotyped Nonsense. You can already feel like a worker drone without being married and a lot of these issues would be specific to someones marriage. Most couples now men and woman both work to provide for them and their children and share household responsibility.

Thal-creates · 2025-07-18T06:43:41+00:00

I completely disagree.

Men marrying other men is pretty good

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2025-07-18T23:47:06+00:00

It's scary how true much of the video really is.

malitove · 2025-07-18T13:01:04+00:00

Its all a trap.

Cactus2711 · 2025-07-18T17:53:45+00:00

Yep, grateful to have learned this at around 27 years old.

Jetshadow · 2025-07-18T11:34:22+00:00

I disagree with this video. Video talks about how marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership, but repeatedly talks about male authority. If there's an equal contribution to the household, there's an equal level of authority. The male, Even if he is the sole breadwinner, doesn't just get automatic say so on every household decision. The female still works in the form of housework and childcare, and that is the home support job.
She's putting in her 13 hour shift at home. It's tough balancing all the chores that need to get done along with making sure a baby or toddler is entertained, learning, and not actively trying to kill itself. It's especially tough If there's no other family members to help out. She deserves break too.

In an equal male job partnership, a woman will give the man a couple hours or so to himself to decompress after work, and then he will take over household responsibilities for 2 hours or so she can get a break, and he can get the kids down to sleep. Sometimes this has to adapt or change temporarily because of scheduling issues, but that's where communication is important, and making sure both parties are heard, and get the rest they need, so they can work together effectively.

In an equal both parents working scenario, you have to negotiate a fair balance of housework and childcare for both parties, and not expect the woman to pick up the slack just because that's the traditional gender role.

Responsible-Plant573 · 2025-07-19T07:08:59+00:00

what exactly one woman can offer that justifies: Legal vulnerability (divorce, alimony)

Emotional volatility (mood swings, drama, mind games)

Sexual scarcity (eventually dull routine)

Energy drain (you constantly managing someone else's emotions)

Loss of freedom (your time, space, solitude gone)

random_attention · 2025-07-19T17:41:43+00:00

This hits, so much so almost made me cry thinking of how I’ve felt in past instances and 22 years of marriage

Miles-Standoffish · 2025-07-21T03:16:56+00:00

I'm married to an amazing woman and it is so wonderful.

She is a devout follower of Jesus, extremely patient and understanding, and the only woman for me.

Cory_Cyrus · 2025-07-19T03:16:49+00:00

Im a gay man and ever so often my family would be on my case querying when I plan on getting a wife and having kids. I simply say when something comes along we'll see what takes place, even though I know fully well I'm not on that... life in the closet am I right 😂😂😂

at one point I was wishing I wasn't this way so I'd be able to get married start a family as I was taught I should want... seeing stuff my straight married guy friends went through with their wives, I started to wonder if I was lucky...

one I recently found out is he married a woman, she don't show him respect, always stays with her ex, never once had sex, yet expects him to be provider... poor guy was so frustrated he tried to make a move on me, really took me by surprise. truly hope he gets out and find happiness

KombuchaWarfare · 2025-07-18T17:21:52+00:00

I’d say I feel attacked because it’s so relatable.

BartholomewXXXVI · 2025-07-20T21:23:07+00:00

This is bullshit. Marriage is important. Men shouldn't get into bad marriages, but they should be married.

KissesUwU · 2025-07-21T07:40:55+00:00

As a dude. Guys sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you can be about men's rights and still like love women. People who are married tend to be happier than those who aren't and about 90% of the population will get married.

No your anecdotal evidence doesn't disprove that fact. I understand why you are here.

I think we all like a good story. But why men should "NEVER" get married while pushing what is generally considered an outdated family dynamic is quite sad. I know plenty of marriages go south. In fact it's common. But we all should recognize the stereotypes in these relationships aren't realistic because they aren't you!

You probably want to be with someone YOU like. Claiming no, men should be single, sad, bitter, and lonely is just as sad as the men getting fucked over in family courts losing custody battles.

Love and relationships are a normal part of life. You don't need to be so anti-woman that you throw them out the window.

Women aren't your enemy. The same way men aren't women's enemy. You are being radicalized against half the world. Getting angry at the idea of what is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. Marriage is not for everyone, neither are kids. But the fact it makes you soooooo angry to imagine/relive a BAD marriage makes y'all just seem like pessimistic incels.

Respectfully. Men's rights are more than a gender war. You need women on your side to push for change. And deep down you all know that...

halimusicbish · 2025-07-22T15:30:10+00:00

Mens rights are never going to get taken seriously if all you do is mope around shitting on women.

FrostingPlenty4801 · 2025-07-24T18:06:48+00:00

Men, women don't have unrealistic or high expectations. We just want you to live up to the standards you hold us to. (Emotional availability, cooking, cleaning, childcare, putting in effort in sex, putting in effort into your appearance, being forgiving, wanting to do nice things for us out of the goodness in your heart, not because you feel like you have to, and doing more than just the bare minimum.) We're tired of giving more than what we receive. You expect women to live up to standards that you see as too high when they set them Instead of men asking what do women bring to the table, we should be asking men what they bring to the table: terrible sex, endless messes to clean up, stress, bodily functions that we don't want to deal with, gaslighting, treating our emotions and needs as invalid, nights spent crying, the fear that they'll cheat, them actually cheating, burn out, terrible machinic skills, incompetence, the inability to provide for a household so we have to help you do your job but you refuse to help us do ours (since you believe in gender roles, why do you expect your wife to do or help you with your role but don't help her with hers), and the possibility of domestic violence and 🍇. What would I possibly get out of this?

SIGINT_SANTA · 2025-07-25T09:38:05+00:00

I can't wait to get married and have a family. More than anything, the thought of a loving wife and kids of my own is what keeps me going.

More-Bluebird5805 · 2025-07-18T13:21:47+00:00

Except the reality is that this is completely reversed. Most women work full time, then come home and cook and clean and then stay up all night with the baby while their husband sleeps only to have to go to work the next morning while he stays home for another well-rested day of video gaming while the house gets trashed so that the woman comes home to a mess. The woman is expected to express gratitude for the honor of being permitted to work at 9 hour day and then come home and clean up after her husband and children because for women working is a privilege.

sweet-teags · 2025-07-25T11:36:25+00:00

Lmfao😂😂😂😂😂😂

Western_Writing6689 · 2025-07-18T15:09:29+00:00

Now you sound like feminists

luneunion · 2025-07-19T05:10:52+00:00

We cannot control other people. We only have control of ourselves. If you want a situation to change you need to figure out how to change it. Not by forcing others to do something, but by deciding what boundaries you have, by recognizing what you really want, and by making changes in what you are doing. Keep doing the same thing that got you to a place you're not happy in and you'll stay unhappy.

If you lack a connection with your kids, figure out how you can relate to them so you can start building the relationship you want to have while also making sure their needs are met. If you try something and it doesn't work, well, mistakes happen. Try something else. If you want them to work on the car, play with your model trains, or go fishing with you and they're not into it, that's OK. If you want that relationship, maybe you have to figure out something that they'd rather do and do that with them. You're the adult, they aren't.

Want a different relationship with your wife, it's gonna take work. You've both got baggage now. Resentment built up. Maybe she's an awful banshee. Or maybe you're a self-centered prick. Or both. Or neither. IDK. Only you can really evaluate yourself and why you're doing what you're doing.

Let's say that you want to have a happier home life. I'm sure she does as well. Tell her you can see that she's unhappy and that you are, too. That you want to see if you can help make things better because you can't continue like this. Ask her what her complaints are and listen without being defensive. She may be wrong or unfair, it doesn't matter at this point. Literally try to understand her position, how she's feeling. Ask her to do the same. To listen to you as you tell her the things that hurt you and that you need to have changed, even if those things seem unfair to her. Getting buy-in is important.

Maybe the two of you can start with some small changes that make things better that take into account where the two of you are at and what each of your needs are. See if some adjustments from her and some from you can get you can get back on the same team. It won't be perfect. It might not work right away. Keep trying. Or if you're just done, then be done. Take responsibility and control of your life and make the decision to fix the relationships or to acknowledge that it's unfixable and start the process of both of you being happier by not being together any more.

LemoncZinn · 2025-07-19T16:57:58+00:00

So don’t have babies, divorce whenever, wank with cool whip and be done with it. Enjoy.

weirdo_nb · 2025-07-19T06:17:29+00:00

This is stupid

Opposite_Mango_924 · 2025-07-19T10:43:23+00:00

Nahhhh the ones who get the shit end of the stick are the women who have to raise the children, do all the housework (because their husband just can't because he's too tired after work 🙄), AND work a full time job to be able to make ends meet.

The ones who get the even shittier deal are the single moms. Keep complaining that you have a bangmaid 💁🏻‍♀️

Title	Why Men Should NEVER Get Married
Author	roharareddit
Upvotes	415
Comments	121
Date	July 18, 2025 6:37 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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