Inspired by that fake story with the South Asian sister and parents paying tuition posted here earlier this week. Everybody jumped on the "Western values" train as if that was the reason people sided with the girl. Let's see what the hamsters come up with this time:

Post I found (several months old was archived in mgtow): [http://archive.is/7Aqhq)

Identical post with genders reversed: http://archive.is/QF4HZ

This doesn't need a summary because it's so blatant the sexism on that sub but I'll give one anyway:

Here are the top 5 replies for the post where the girl was complaining about her BF: (the post had 16 upvotes; original still available but don't want to link to another sub)

This is a trainwreck. Get out of this. 76 upvotes

So why are you still with him? 61 upvotes

He’s not that into you. The longer you stay with him the more it will hurt in the end. 16 upvotes

Girl. Leave. :/ You should be the one he's curious about. You should be the one he's checking in on and wants to hang out with. Not saying dudes can't have lady friends outside of their girlfriends, but searching up old hookups regularly and spending time with them.... hmmm. 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Also the fact he'd make a big promise and then call you manipulative when you're in a hard time and going to take him up on it is a huge red flag.
If you feel like your life's gone to shit since you met him, I think you know the answer to this situation. You need to leave and find someone who will give you his full attention anddoesn't lie to you. People only lie if they have something they're ashamed of/something to hide. (unknown number of upvotes, comment has been deleted since)

Immediate answer: no, it’s not normal. You have been in an emotionally-invested relationship for nine months. Hookups have no emotion involved yet he still wants to check on them. Completely disrespectful to you and the relationship. Moreover he wa gaslighting you (“I never said that...”), so he’s just playing with your mind. He’s not into you, sorry. He’s a womanizer and just wants to have girls wrapped around his finger. If your life has gone to shit since meeting him, dump him! Please dump him, this isn’t going anywhere. He’s a shit person.

There is ONE post which which is questioning why in unemployed, 0 upvotes. This is the only post that is negative toward op.

Now the same post with reversed genders: post has 0 upvotes and only 3 replies.

Just one question - you never mention any good things about your girlfriend in this post, so do you like her even? And I do not mean being infatuated by her, but do you like her as a person?

A few months ago she probably meant it, because she assumed your unemployment would end soon, and it would be a short term issue. Months later, she's probably starting to write you off as a lost cause and a potential endless sink for her money. Checking up on exes is normal-ish, but THAT often, yeah, I'd worry that she's starting to wander.

People check up on past hookups ALL THE TIME - most of the time it means nothing, it's done out of curiosity, boredom, obsession; usually no feelings are attached, it becomes sort of like a habit. Most people are guilty of it.But it sounds like you have serious insecurities about this relationship. I wouldn't be concerned if I were you but if you are, have a mature conversation with her about your fears and insecurities but emphasis that they are YOURS because they have nothing to do with her.

So while everyone coddles the girl and tells her to run while insulting the guy for being no good, nobody is insulting the woman when the genders are reversed. Two neutral responses with the other shitting on the guy for being insecure while absolving the woman of any responsibility.