Has the "keeping your options open" method worked for you?

NockerJoe · 2021-01-22T11:14:23+00:00

Honestly? It works better. I find a lot of women are activley into a guy who texts rarely and is kind of distant, provided you cam get them into the right emotional space when you are together.

I can't explain it and don't like it myself, but breadcrumbs are preferred over the whole slice.

upalse · 2021-01-22T08:01:29+00:00

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wtknight · 2021-01-22T13:20:38+00:00

I like monogamous relationships and committing. On the other hand, getting one-itis for some woman who is not committed to me is dumb. What worked out best for me is flirting with many women in the past and then choosing the one whom I liked best who seemed to want to commit to me. I don’t think that it’s very respectful to be romantic or to sleep with several women at the same time, though.

Barneysparky · 2021-01-22T06:49:29+00:00

You'll need to more than breadcrumb. Let's say you have 3 on the hook. You like 1 the most so you spend most time with her. But, you at least have to have a text game going with the other 2.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2021-01-22T11:02:01+00:00

I mean, rotational dating is not some groundbreaking or immoral tactic. Anyone that cares about themselves wouldn't put 20 eggs in one basket. Date until one sticks, then drop the others. That is literally what dating is, going out with a bunch of strangers. I knocked out 20 men and women in a few months span because I was bored.

passepar2t · 2021-01-22T11:43:56+00:00

Breadcrumbs absolutely work. It doesn't matter whether it's obvious to them since most of them would rather keep lying to themselves to keep the rollercoaster going.

For maximum effectiveness, use intermittent reinforcement. Keep her at arm's length and once in a while, randomly let her in and be lovey dovey for a few hours.

Always make her feel like she's juuuust on the verge of winning you over (but never actually get there, obviously.)

Insinuate that you're seeing multiple people by having plans or checking your phone a lot.

upalse · 2021-01-22T15:29:01+00:00

Narcissist charm is difficult to master as "learned skill". This is because narcissist has authentic emotion (but bad emotional regulation skills down the line) during push-pulls. It's something they learn during very formative period of time, that's why they're so good at it - not something you can easily do in adulthood, as that would mean realistically upending the value systems of your feelings.

2021-01-22T12:48:11+00:00

Yes. Abundance mentality (in both partners) is the best mindset to not get clingy or annoying.

It's kind of like anything in life. If you're buying a home, it's good to have a few options open.

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801735 · 2021-01-22T08:49:07+00:00

Yes but not the way you described it. I take "keeping options open" as "there are no 100% guarantees". Either of the partners can at any moment lose or gain interest for whatever reason. And it's fine.

Hurts for a while, eventually you learn to move on. Doesn't negate the (good and bad) experiences you two had together, though.

So, yup, it works.

But since feeding breadcrumbs is essentially what TRP suggests with giving attention...

Meh, more fear. Don't forget to enjoy life while you live it and to get out of your head into your heart and body every now and then. Try to not become clingy, girls and boys, it's not attractive.

Hoopy223 · 2021-01-22T16:57:53+00:00

You have to be able to pull multiple women and string them along. It takes a sort of hungry, Machiavellian personality. Being “hot” isn’t enough.

2021-01-22T17:41:21+00:00

My challenge is maintaining keeping my options open when one guy gives me the right tingles. I try to stay objective and keep my spares around but always end up with oneitis and stop giving them attention and not wanting to be with anyone but my oneitis...until a few years down the line when I'm bored and start opening up the options again, ie branch swing, teeeeheeeee

Reisiluu · 2021-01-22T21:34:59+00:00

It works great. If you're no one's girlfriend then you're single. You can flirt with any guy. It won't be long until one of them doesn't like the idea of you flirting with other guys. Men are very possessive when they care.

richlad · 2021-01-23T05:34:58+00:00

It worked for me

a) have different friend circles so women don't know about each other

b) build chemistry with multiple women and only be with the best one among them

When she becomes too much trouble, dump her and move onto next.

Women have too many options by default but men have to keep their options ready by aligning the right stars.

geyejoe7 · 2021-01-25T23:35:40+00:00

You either want a commited partner, or a fuck buddy.

Keeping options instantly means that you're not serious about this person. If you keep options, that means that you're not invested in that person.

The "don't keep all your eggs in one basket" analogy doesn't work for partners.

You absolutely need to focus on one person if you ACTUALLY like them. If you never had a need to drop everyone else and focus on one person, you never met that special person you clicked hard with, clearly.

throw-away-1709 · 2021-01-22T08:03:33+00:00

Why'd you chase another one as long as the one on your side is a loyal sexual active beauty?

You can't fuck 10 times a day.

Why'd you care?

If she leaves the next one is waiting to take her place.

Work on yourself and your life options.

Girls come to you then. The real best ones will try to lock you ltr.

One might succeed.

GYN-k4H-Q3z-75B · 2021-01-22T10:31:14+00:00

I suppose I have done something similar, though not as an intentional long-term strategy. I would always keep a sort of ambivalent relationship alive, openly tell them that I find them attractive and go on sort-of-dates with girls. Sometimes, something real would develop, but often, after a long time we would end up as friends with chemistry that looks strange to outsiders. In a way, this could be seen as keeping my options open. But it's nowhere near systematic or based on some red pill theory.

My behavior is also why most of my girlfriends hate all my female friends lol

Title	Has the "keeping your options open" method worked for you?
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Date	January 22, 2021 6:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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