There was a good thread started that touched on this topic earlier, and reading through it I find that most RP guys do not really understand what “Chemistry” is or how it works when it comes to hooking up and in relationships. If there is some RP librarian out there who can LINK some writing where it is talked about, please do. Simply saying “oh yeah, RP talks about this all the time, brah…” is not good enough.

Have you ever walked into a room right after a heated argument and you can just feel the tension crackling in the air even tho everyone is quiet? This is the same sensory array you will utilize to feel Chemistry from someone you are interested in.

The military and martial artists actually train people to be aware on this super sensory level. It is a kind of radar everyone has to sense what is happening around you. It’s a holdover from our primitive ancestors, and whether it is in our lizard brains or what, I don’t know, but it is real. It is learning to sense INTENTION.

You feel when someone is angry with you before they speak a word. You can feel when a guy is getting pissed off enough to turn a confrontation violent. Hunters know not to stare down an animal they are stalking because they will eventually sense it and run away. And, using the same radar, you can feel when a woman in interested in you.

It is all about Intention.

Here is the problem Red Pill has and one of the many examples of how they fuck guys up… this sensing is an emotional intelligence rather than an analytical one.

Now if a Red Pill man actively works to rid himself of emotion in his life and tries to become a coldly logical “Dark Triad” fantasy creature, he is crippling his ability to read people. He is smashing down a natural radar we are all given because Red Pill internet morons have told him that emotions are for girls.

Red Pill fucks you up.

Here is how it works. Think of when you are at your most focused. Whether doing some athletic competition, on the computer, reading, or even watching a really engrossing show. Your awareness is narrowed and pointed towards whatever you are focused on, like the tight beam of a flashlight. It takes mental energy to keep this focus going, after a while we become fatigued. If you think of it like sonar, you have gone “active” and are emitting a signal.

To pick up on other signals you need to be “receptive”. You un-focus and put your mental energy into listening to the signals that are happening around you instead of pushing all your energy into a focused point. Additionally, when you are super focused, you tune out what is happening around you and cannot “hear/feel” other people’s intentions.

We all do this naturally, but if you are aware of what you are doing you can train this skill up and become A LOT more cognizant of what is happening around you. We subconsciously project our intentions out into the world, and if you work on the emotional intelligence needed to be relaxed and receptive in a social situation you can pick up on the subtle intentions of people all around you. Including knowing when women that you are talking to and know when they are interested in you.

At its base, you start to feel Chemistry when you are attracted to someone physically. You begin to tighten your focus on them, and often they can feel it. Even more so when you are also attracted to their personality. But this is often one-sided at the beginning and can quickly get people into trouble if they move too quickly. The reason being is that if you act upon a base attraction without determining if there is actual reciprocal Chemistry between you and the person you are attracted to, generally you are on your way to the Friend Zone.

The FRIEND ZONE can be defined as when there is one-sided attraction but no Chemistry between the two people.

People who are successful at dating and men who are successful at hooking up with women wait until they can determine if there is a bit of Chemistry before moving in to start trying to ask someone out or escalate a date. This is why they always seem to succeed. They only engage if they are pretty sure they are going to get a YES. If you are unable to recognize the subtle signals that someone puts out telling you they are either interested in you or to stay away… you are in for a tough time when it comes to dating.

How do you get better at this?

The first step is to CHILL THE FUCK OUT. You cannot sense it if you are all wound up. If you are “hunting pussy” or walking around totally tensed up because you feel like you suck socially, you are incredibly focused and not receptive at all. Seriously, find your chill. And not a medicated or inebriated chill.

Secondly, WATCH people. It is entertaining and instructive. See if you can figure out the dynamic of the conversation on the other side of the club. Don’t stare. When you do that you project your intention and it can be sensed and it’s creepy and awkward. Just observe impartially. Do it enough and you will start to sense what is happening even tho you cannot hear anyone talking.

Last bit of advice; women are generally more proficient at this than men.

Women use this sense to determine if the guy who just approached them in some random place is a threat or not (and no attractiveness does not matter if you surprise her and make her feel vulnerable). When you come in to talk to people and you are too focused and too intense it can feel awkward. If you do this in a place or in a way that someone feels threatened… you are a Creep.

Get your shit together guys, and get the fuck away from the Red Pill. It’s leading you in the wrong direction. You’re much better off learning to heighten you emotional intelligence and social skills than reading all the “bio-troofs” and “hold frame” bullshit in the world.