Help! I'm so skinny! 😢

Zegiknie · 2019-03-25T10:18:09+00:00

Strength training plus protein.

inba7 · 2019-03-25T08:36:52+00:00

The only way to gain weight is by being in a caloric surplus.. Simply put, consume more calories than you burn.. You're probably not eating as much as you think you are, I recommend downloading an app such as MyFitnessPal and track everything. Continue to slowly add more calories to your diet and monitor your weight closely.

Dancersep38 · 2019-03-25T12:28:36+00:00

Assuming there's no underlying medical issue, which is worth checking out, I'd follow advice for people trying to bulk or doing a re-feed after an eating disorder. The basic gist is to "hide" calories in everything. Some examples: butter your vegetables, add cheese on top of everything, use whole fat dairy instead of skim and use cream instead of whole milk. You can add straight oil to you food, (things like oatmeal) as you won't taste it but that can be almost 100 calories depending on the oil and how much you can tolerate adding. Coconut oil tastes great just on its own TBH. Smoothies are great for weight gain as you can really cram the calories in without having to consume a huge meal. As a bonus, by pureeing food you expend less calories in digestion.

You're going to want to track your calories and macros. This can be done as simply as a notebook or there's about a million apps for it. You're simply not eating enough calories for the amount you burn. While different people do have different metabolic weight and tendencies towards fat accumulation in certain areas, that doesn't cause anywhere near the difference in body sizes that people claim. It may be harder for you to acheive a calorie surplus than some other people, but eat in a surplus and you will gain weight.

Absolutely weight train. Cardio is fine and you should do some, but moderation is key if you're trying to gain. Look out for "sneaky" cardio. I used to say I never did cardio because I wasn't running or using gym machines. Even walking is cardio when done right.

Just be careful. I was underweight due to overexertion as a teen and young adult; I ate like I stated above. I would literally put half and half on cornflakes (it's delicious!) Then the gradual slow down of activity and general aging caught up with me. I'm not fat, but I did have to actually start paying attention to what I was eating or else I would have gotten fat. So, try to bulk on whole foods and just eat larger quantities. Gorging on cheetos will feel nice, but one day you may be on the other end. It's easier to eat less than to completely change your diet.

boom-boom-betty · 2019-03-25T10:54:18+00:00

Weight lifting! You’ll build beautiful muscle.

Huffnagle · 2019-03-25T14:40:23+00:00

Americans are so used to obesity that thin looks underweight.

Is your BMI below the healthy range? Do you struggle with disordered eating issues? If the answer to those 2 questions are no, I’d suggest you not worry too much about it.

By all means, get to the gym and lift. Whether or not you lift, eat enough protein, it’s by far the most important of the 3 macronutrients. A rough rule of thumb for protein is eat 1 gram per kilogram of body weight. If you were lifting heavy then up that to 1g per pound of body weight.

But if you aren’t underweight or dealing with eating disorders, don’t let a couple assholes mess with your view of yourself. As a man, I assure you I’d prefer a thin woman with few “curves” to a chubby woman, so long as she was healthy.

Ari3n3tt3 · 2019-03-25T13:37:56+00:00

I have a little experience in this, I've lived with anorexia most of my life (currently in a recovery phase yay)

You've gotta track your calorie in calorie out, 500 cal above the recommended daily limit for your BMI could give you slow gradual weight gain that's easy to stop when you feel like you've gained enough

It's surprisingly easy to sneak in extra calories, sugar and cream in your coffee, extra butter on your bread, extra sauces and salad dressing is delicious and calorie heavy, you don't really have to drastically change much if you don't want to, just be a little heavy handed.

Peanut butter is my best friend when I'm trying to gain weight, I put it on crackers really thick and eat as many as I can in a sitting, I can get 800 calories down that way pretty easy (aprox. 90 cal in 1 tablespoon, nice)

One thing to be aware of, if you are super skinny at the moment with a flat stomach (not sure if this is just an anorexia thing or not but I feel like I should warn you just in case) when you start to gain it might all go to your stomach and mid section first which might make you feel like a beach ball and could be upsetting. Just be prepared with bloat friendly clothes and know that it will redistribute to the rest of your body.

Good luck <3

graamatvede · 2019-03-25T13:02:21+00:00

Maybe you are very very beautiful the way you are, and two people have been very tacky with their comments (one of which is a creepy uncle and the other maybe is jealous and striving to look like you). Maybe you are still a teenager, growing and developing, and there is no need to forcully break your health to fit someone elses standards. As long as you are healthy - eating right and doing some sports, and feeling good, don't worry. The right person will love you just the way you are :) And don't let creepy uncles define your standards of what beautiful is.

moonchildcountrygirl · 2019-03-25T17:30:03+00:00

Check out the r/strongcurves subreddit, theres a lot of info on how they train and what they eat. look through the top posts, mostly skinny chicks who’ve gained a curvy ass while still staying slim. You do want to be careful with your nutrition, I was in the same boat as you and even as desperate enough as to eat junk food to purposefully gain weight when I was younger and didnt know any better. Getting into a fitness program especially incorporating weightlifting would be great for you, it wont bulk you up with your fast metabolism, but accentuate your figure. Good luck!

NellieSantee · 2019-03-25T13:48:47+00:00

I had the same problem. The only thing that works for me is lifting weights. And beware of crossfit, because they have a lot of cardio and that might make you lose weight at the end, if you're not careful. I started training powerlifting, and naturally my hunger increased, which helped in gaining muscle, and at the end I gained 10lbs or so, but without looking fat.

Katiescarlett5 · 2019-03-25T15:02:26+00:00

This feels so incredibly relatable to me. I've struggled with weight my entire life... even after having three children i couldn't seem to ever quite get to 100lbs (@ 5ft 2in). About a year and a half ago i began to venture into weightlifting, and that combined with eating at a caloric surplus has changed my life! I've gained about 12 lbs of muscle mass in all the right places and am consistently told I've never looked better. Weightlifting has become one of my favorite hobbies and is good for the mind as well as the body. DO NOT LISTEN to people who want to tell you that it will make you bulky or masculine...it would take years of incredibly hard work and steroids to reach that point. Basic lifting is only going to build muscle that enhances a feminine hourglass shape and tightens your core...not to mention making you strong and healthy! please feel free to dm me if you want to talk about it or get any suggestions on programming or a bulking diet...there.s a lot of info out there and it can get overwhelming and I'd be happy to give some direction! You can also check out r/gainit there's a wealth of helpfulness on that sub. Best of luck to you and your curve-building ventures!

lemonbaby80 · 2019-03-25T15:16:44+00:00

Protein will absolutely help. The only way to gain weight is increasing your caloric intake

HappyHowly · 2019-03-25T13:58:09+00:00

Honestly, I'd say count your blessings. Despite what your super creepy uncle said, most men would prefer skinny I think. Also, just like in losing weight, you can't control which body parts the weight goes too. It might go to your butt and chest, or it might all stick to your stomach.

If you really really want to gaining weight, the others are right. Weight training and protein is probably best. It's painful and unpleasant, but it gives you the most control over your individual body parts.

drewshaver · 2019-03-25T09:07:06+00:00

You might want to get some tests done (if you haven't already). If you're eating a surplus and still not gaining, could be hyperthyroidism, or something else.

lukesterboi1 · 2019-03-25T14:35:41+00:00

Strength training. Also, track your calories. You need to eat more than you burn. A fitbit or something can help

ilovechina43 · 2019-03-25T16:48:08+00:00

I know this isn't what you're looking for, but enjoy your shape! Especially since you're healthy. Believe me, plenty of men prefer thin women. Weight gain will come with age. I'm curvy and on the slim side and I used to be overweight. Now I constantly have to work to keep my weight down and watch what I eat and exercise every day and I'd love to be able to maintain a healthy weight. I'm sure you're beautiful. Don't let a few people's preferences change your view of yourself.

espressolover18 · 2019-03-26T08:50:21+00:00

just eat more.

ofeckit · 2019-03-26T12:40:58+00:00

You are so not alone. I once had to gain weight to meet the minimum for basic training (Army). Bananas. Every day. Every meal. Omg I never want to smell another banana. But it worked! I gained 15 pounds in something like a month.

It’s still my go to when I need extra calories but don’t want to feel gross, helps meet the need but tame the nausea I feel when I overeat.

I understand your desire for curves, if only to somehow appease haters. I completely resented Megan Trainor for her skinny-shaming-anti-any-woman-different-than-her-anthem. Still do.

Now that I’m (much) older, I have an annual goal of being 2 pounds heavier each year than I was last year. It amounts to 10 pounds in 5 years, which is perfect for staying ahead of facial wrinkles :). That advice I got from my mother years ago & she was completely right. Bananas help.

Starseed97 · 2019-03-28T09:40:30+00:00

Well first of, lift weights. Protein shakes, smoothies with fruits like bananas, peanutbutter, and other high calorie healthy things you want to mix! alot of nuts, avocados etc. It's a great quality fat sources and depending on what you usually eat (animal products, vegetarian or vegan) You can add a bunch of high calorie intake sources. If you want to know more, PM me.

Have a great day!

Much love, Eveline

m3g4s33d · 2019-03-28T13:29:54+00:00

Lift, eat, sleep, repeat.

RP Men love thin women, but having good glutes and muscle tone is gonna be important, too.

Women respond well to endurance training, so I would recommend mixing it in with strength training (low rep, large weight). Endurance training includes distance running, active sports like tennis, and lifting weights in a range where your fatigue point is 12-22+reps.

Nenneth · 2019-03-29T16:19:40+00:00

strength training, or drink soda instead of water, shit will pound on.

Iamthewalrus482 · 2019-03-25T12:36:51+00:00

My dads best friend has lung cancer and is very very skinny. Like 6’2 140lbs. He couldn’t get the surgery he needed until he gained like twenty pounds. His dr recommend him these carnation breakfast drinks. They’re usually just used as a missed meal kind of drink but if you maybe add one after breakfast that should bring your daily cal intake up a bit.

Title	Help! I'm so skinny! 😢
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Date	March 25, 2019 8:22 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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