Remaining Childlike

Eel-InSnakesClothing · 2019-04-09T21:35:29+00:00

Stay curious. Keep learning.

You’ll never get your innocence back. (And you shouldn’t. You should appreciate the things you’ve learned.) But you can cultivate a fascination for the world around you. Take more walks. Go on trips. Read new books. Learn a new skill. Make new art. Challenge yourself to explore more and find joy in the things you are learning. That’s why childhood is so wonderful.

Lemon-Blossoms · 2019-04-10T02:25:45+00:00

Squee like crazy when you see a dog on the street. My mom is 67 and she waves (waves her hand) at dogs and says “Hi baby!!” to them. Lol. When my dad was alive, he loved his side of her. He would take her to zoos just to see her light up over all the animals.

ObedientLittleWife · 2019-04-09T22:02:06+00:00

My husband loves when the first snow in the season falls because I always react like it's the first time I see snow. Or when I point out a pink house when we are on a trip, it makes him smile. I think this is a very good way of having that 'innocence' energy, seeing wonder in mundane situations.

Next time you see something beautiful, stop and take note of it.

padpump · 2019-04-10T10:26:27+00:00

Jepp. I remember deciding to stay with a childlike outlook in my late twenties also. Did not make it though. Because back then I didn’t know what how and why.

Now I know and see you are talking about feeling. And that’s the key. It’s not a thought but a feeling thing.

This feeling is what is called your heart attitude. The jaded and bitter stuff are essentially things that weigh your heart down.

It’s a natural process but there is a cleaner/solvent available.

You could essentially call the negativity a lack. And what you need is a way to become care free again and feel taken care of.

When your heart is full of joy then you are in contact with this solvent/cleanser.

As an adult I know joy and being taken care of requires effort on my part. Or so I thought. Until I came across OpenHeart meditation which helps me to connect my heart directly to the Source of joy. Almost in a fake it until you make it kind of way. By touching my spiritual heart (behind the sternum) in the middle of my chest. Smiling to my spiritual Heart and relaxing. Doing nothing in particular at all. Just being carefree like a kid or baby. It’s certainly weird as my brain still after 3 years of practice doesn’t get why it works. As there’s nothing immediate I can see or touch outside of me that would justify this feeling.

And that’s the key. Since there’s no condition or justification needed for this to “work” you cannot actually find one. And looking for it actually is impeding the care free attitude.

As a kid you normally also don’t care where your food actually comes from.

Summary: Love is the answer. 👉🏻💓😁💆‍♀️

sn0wflaker · 2019-04-09T23:38:28+00:00

a quiet random act of kindness always make me feel younger, because believing in the good in people is the opposite of a jaded existence.

krysmingo · 2019-04-09T22:38:04+00:00

Seeing the humor in things. I am “saucy” and sarcastic but flirty. Turning sarcasm into childlikeness isn’t too hard. all about your delivery. When my husband says something that offends me instead of snapping I and calling him an asshole I smile with my hands on my hips and say something like “how ruuuuuude!” And laugh. I grew up watching full house and that’s a line I said a lot as a kid. Then he ends up smiling and apologizing, or rolling his eyes but at least dropping the sore subject. Unless it’s something deeply hurtful.... then I can’t keep the act. But I’m getting better. I love the word saucy and thinking of it as flirty arguing in a way. It can be fun because I’ve found I can “get away with” a lot by being saucy about it. Like when hubby was annoyed I went shopping. He ended up saying he likes when I dress cute and appreciates that I don’t spend as much as his friends wives.

Another thing that comes to mind is being spontaneous and down for anything. My mood can turn on a dime and so can my attitude. In my early 20s I was constantly moving from place to place, dating, staying out all night, trying new things. It’s one of the things he fell in love with. So I try to throw caution to the wind and get out of my routines and just have fun with him again. Kids have really ruined a lot of our spontaneous fun... and jaded me. So I try to keep positive and just have fun as much as I can

LateralThinker13 · 2019-04-09T22:04:54+00:00

Three ways.

1) Get away from jaded people. Often these attitudes are contagious.

2) Get out of your jaded/depressing job. If you're a statistician, psychologist, cop, social worker, sex worker, wahtever, and it's making you jaded, change jobs or professions.

3) Have a kid - or spend a lot of time with one. Seeing the world through their eyes can help you recapture that feeling.

durtyknees · 2019-04-10T01:19:52+00:00

"Childlike" is only attractive because it implies flexibility (malleability).

It's not about "innocence".

It's about:

being well-adjusted enough as an adult to be able to trust yourself (able to trust your own judgement) enough to know who you can trust (not just "be vulnerable" indiscriminately because of "innocence" :P) --- be vulnerable with people who are worthy of it.
owning your faults/flaws instead of developing a complex about them --- healthy children don't have hangups nor inhibitions (within reason).
having a flexible sense of humor --- not take offense when none is given (not see the worst side of things).
having a carefree nature (no worrying about things that may never happen, no complaining about things beyond anyone's control, no nagging).
being an attentive listener (be observant and receptive to being taught new things), instead of polishing your own ego in any conversation.
being sincere with praise/admiration or expressions of joy and wonder, if you feel it.
being creative and imaginative, and knowing how to have fun (finding joy in simple things because of your creative/imaginative perspective).
not being "set in your ways", especially when it comes to your mindset and worldview.
being motivated to learn new things/ have new experiences/ try new things on your own, and/or make changes to improve yourself.

Theflowerswillbloom · 2019-04-12T11:19:51+00:00

Although I have definitely grown and matured over the years, I've always tried to keep my childlike qualities that my husband has always loved. A few things that help me:

Being around children. I used to work with children, and now have a toddler and baby. We are silly, affectionate, and have lots of fun. If our toddler wants us to have a dance party, swing on the swings at the park together, or for me to sing songs from Frozen in my awful singing voice - I'm up for it! Children have a beautiful carefree nature that I adore. I will smell pretty flowers on a nature walk, and squee when I see a bunny.
Get outside in nature, visit the farm, plant seeds, find grand estates with pretty gardens to explore (are these a thing outside of the UK?). Open your eyes to appreciate the beauty of nature with awe and wonder.
Be mindful of the media you consume - of course it's important to be up-to-date with current events, but also be sure to keep balance. I like watching nature documentaries, baking shows, and reading gentle books that bring me joy.
Try new hobbies, be a lifelong learner, and listen to other people.
Wear pretty dresses that flatter your figure, natural makeup and smile more. I always feel more dainty and carefree when I am wondering through the woods wearing a nice dress and little bow to keep the curls away from my face, than when I am wearing dark colours and jeans.
Be yourself! You will never be who you once were...and that's okay!

illgiveyouapapow · 2019-04-09T21:02:45+00:00

I always hear women talking crap about men acting like children. If you ask me, it’s the males role to play with children. Children learn through play. One parent has to be able to play with their kids and actually enjoy it.

You don’t want to lose that. It’s essential. Mom or dad it doesn’t matter. It’s for the kids.

Maybe this is unrelated but it’s all i got lol.

verticordia · 2019-04-09T23:48:46+00:00

Treat men like how you treated slightly older people when you were around 12-13. Kind of sassy, know-it-all but not to the point where it's annoying, let them teach you things, act impressed when they do things that are impressive.

Make some emotional boundaries. If people around you are jaded or you're in an environment that's stressful, stay in your little bubble. Choose to remain unaffected. That's actually very mature, but it comes across as "innocent" in a way.

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2019-04-10T10:52:17+00:00

Think about your childhood and what were those qualities that made you, yourself?

The problem with narrowing childlike qualities is that we are all different when we were children.

Some people were always outgoing when they're children, fearless, risk-taking, talkative. When these people mature, they try to become less self-centered and responsible.

Some people (like me) were bashful, shy, sweet, timid - and when we mature, we try to overcome that shyness.

It all comes down to your own individual eternal child.

Hoarder-of-Knowledge · 2019-04-11T14:36:02+00:00

i think the secret to feeling young and childlike is remaining excited about small things. if you feel like you need more of that in your life you need to start finding things that excite or used to excite you. I've gone back to drawing mandalas like I did in elementary school. I'm taking up cross-stitching because I enjoyed it when I was 10. I plan various small getaways with my partner. I bought a rococo style dress so I can play dress up as an adult. it's in the little things.

Zegiknie · 2019-04-10T17:54:32+00:00

Your mind is just focusing overmuch on the negatives. Wising up and opening your eyes is good, but should also lead you to see more and deeper beauty. Try a gratitude journal?

Colorfullheart · 2019-04-10T08:48:40+00:00

Childlike is the wrong word! Flexible, in the Flow, whatever fits better.

enamite · 2019-04-09T20:21:08+00:00

I think it takes time. Time to trust your place and your surroundings. Time to minimize or eliminate the pressures that force us to be grown ups.

If your intent is there it can happen. But some of us get so tired of life and all its ups and downs🎶

Title	Remaining Childlike
Author	Lemon-Blossoms
Upvotes	24
Comments	58
Date	April 9, 2019 7:59 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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