This sub has made my relationship better!

HumanSockPuppet · 2022-02-15T02:02:18+00:00

You are emotionally mature enough to recognize and claim your share of the responsibility for the health of your relationship. Be sure to give yourself credit too.

Advanced_Bar_673 · 2022-02-15T13:13:11+00:00

There are quite a few of "us" in this community, and the great thing about RPW is that (unbeknownst to many), it's not just for Christians or traditionalists or right-leaning conservatives... Literally none of that matters at the core because it's all about women (and some men) learning "what makes us tick", where we usually f*CK up, and how to take personal responsibility in forming respectful, functional relationships with men in our lives. I'm by no means religious or traditional, and I'm genuinely happy this community exists to provide knowledge and feedback to me.

HappilyMrs · 2022-02-15T13:28:12+00:00

There's a lot of left leaning women here. It's okay to be progressive but choose a relationship style that is more traditional. RPW is a toolbox, not a political/social club you can or cant belong to :)

Ok_Obligation_6110 · 2022-02-15T11:03:51+00:00

Same here!! I’m left leaning but this is sub has been such a positive and encouraging space, especially when in my very liberal circle of friends no one seems to understand how or why my husband and I choose to have traditional roles in our marriage.

BumbleBitny · 2022-02-15T02:42:41+00:00

I'm left leaning so you're not alone here! I was actually thinking about this the other day how people view this sub as being really bad and hateful. I've heard there's subreddits that will ban you if you're a contributor to this one.

When in reality all the advice I've seen here has pretty much been "you can't change people but you can change yourself" "no one else is in charge of your happiness you need to make yourself happy." "Be nicer to your spouse and they'll likely be nicer to you. People like being nice to people that make them feel good." "Take care of yourself and it'll raise your self worth making you happier in the long run"

And yet in almost every other marriage sub it's "get divorced he's weaponizing ignorance" "give him ultimatums until he does what you want" "withhold sex until he's the man you want him to be" "book an undiscussed day trip and just leave him and the kids. He needs to learn how hard you have it."

ParamedicCapable6484 · 2022-02-15T07:34:23+00:00

Aww I was 19 when I had my first. This sub def would have come in handy. If I could go back in time I would have found Jesus alot sooner and loved & appreciated my daughter's father more deeply back then. We're married now and I love this sub too as a newlywed. Congrats love to hear the good news . Proverbs 31 is a great chapter for wisdom.

SixWeasel · 2022-02-15T01:30:26+00:00

I'm a man and have a similar conclusion about this sub. The women are so mature, straight forward, and genuine. I'm glad left wing people can come and learn from more conservative mindsets, it's healthy. This sub has given me a better idea of what women expect from their partners.

2022-02-15T08:44:27+00:00

Leftie aethist myself and have found alot of useful practical advice. I think there's true tried and tested knowledge here that's a benefit to all backgrounds.

Cheesycatbiscuit · 2022-02-15T02:59:51+00:00

Agree! I'm 20 as well and just found out about this sub. I'm glad I found people that have the same view as me. I've learned alot from the Women here and still am learning.

Noressa · 2022-02-15T14:45:47+00:00

You'll find a wide variety of people on this sub. The important thing is to find what works for you and what makes your life a better place. My mom taught me when I was young (I was always asking why she didn't expect dad to clean up when he made so many of the messes she was picking up) sometimes the argument isn't worth it. If I know my husband is going to leave his laundry on the ground, which is better for harmony? Picking it up and doing the laundry, or poking him until he picks it up and does it himself?

For me, it's a time cost. In the amount of time it takes me to ask him to do a thing, and hope it gets done, I can pick it up, do it, and lower that resentment. Of course, he's aware of the time cost that I have. The more I'm doing other things, the less time I have for others. So if he wants more relax time/etc, I need more help with the kids/house chores/etc. And in this, I'll ask for help, or he'll ask what he can do. This lets me manage the time that I have while still making accommodations for his time needs when it comes up. Less friction, better management of the house. (Not to say it can't be exhausting!)

alien_eater289 · 2022-02-15T03:42:20+00:00

I’m also left leaning and I love this sub. I’m so glad the advice here is helping you. Welcome!

MuseofPetrichor · 2022-02-15T19:16:17+00:00

How did you motivate yourself to lose weight? (I feel like I've been on a "weight loss journey" forever and have nothing to show for it. I exercise, but it doesn't burn a lot of calories, because it's mostly for pain and to help combat being so sedentary.) I do hate my husband having to be stuck with someone who is so weak-willed and has such bad will-power. I know it disappoints him, but I just can't seem to fix it.

pearlsandstilettos · 2022-02-15T04:33:45+00:00

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hugpie264 · 2022-02-20T18:04:14+00:00

I feel like your post has confirmed to me that I need this community in my life too.

Title	This sub has made my relationship better!
Author	rotisserieshithead-
Upvotes	159
Comments	25
Date	February 15, 2022 1:22 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	/r/RedPillWomen
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