Just to get this out of the way, I’m a leftist. 90% of my politics are left leaning, so I never thought that I would end up here.
That being said, I’m a 20 year old stay at home mom to an eight month old boy. I was poking around Reddit recently looking for a sub dedicated to homemakers/stay at home moms. r/SAHP and r/Homemaking didn’t have the things I was looking for. Actually, r/SAHP really bummed me out, seeing as it is mostly populated with rants and people hating their kids/partners/life. I’m glad there’s a place for them to go for validation, but that’s not what I wanted.
Specifically, I’ve really wanted to learn how to be less of a nag, how to improve my relationship, and how to enjoy life in my situation.
I’m so much happier now that I’ve joined this sub. I realized that I don’t need to bitch and whine at my husband to wash the dishes. That chore specifically created a ton of stress and annoyance for both of us, so I changed the method we use. Now I wash the dishes every night before bed, and they don’t pile up. Also, since they don’t pile up, my husband is more likely to wash the dishes on a night that I can’t.
I find y’all’s advice on how to make men happy really helpful. I’ve been working on myself, losing weight, drinking more water, taking care of my skin, and I’m starting to feel better about myself. I know my husband is glad he doesn’t have to constantly hear about how ugly or fat I think I am lol. My self esteem is at an all time high!
So yeah, thank you to all the women in this sub! And if you’re a left-leaning lurker (like me) wondering if this is the way to live, I hope my story gives you some comfort!