Boys need a father.

the_code_always_wins · 2015-04-15T08:27:32+00:00

So do girls. Otherwise they likely end up with terrible views on relationships.

GottlobFrege · 2015-04-15T05:38:49+00:00

Being raised by a single mother is the #1 demographic predictor of drug abuse, dropping out of school, joining gangs, going to prison, lifetime earnings, and more. It is a stronger predictor than even race and parents' income.

yummyish · 2015-04-15T10:26:47+00:00

I have a dad and I know he loves me and tries to lookout for me but he's one of the most beta males I know. He's a nice guy and all but he has absolutely no "manly" qualities maybe except for the fact that he knows how to change a tire. He's overweight, lazy, and all he does when he's at home is eat sleep or watch korean tv shows. Most dads are role models or at least try to be one but when I look at my dad all I can think is "Do your best to NOT be like him." I have no respect for him as a man. I know I'm lucky to have a dad who loves me but it really sucks having a dad that I can't look up to.

tatertotmonkey · 2015-04-15T12:48:35+00:00

This is my biggest fear as a divorced father. I try to be there for my four children, but my ex-wife holds all the strings, and can restrict access on a whim.

Dronitto · 2015-04-15T08:28:52+00:00

So, WHAT can you do when you dont have a father? Or when you "have" him but hes not in your life?

scagnetti89 · 2015-04-15T10:50:33+00:00

Only reason I'm still in Texas is for my son. All of my family and friends are in Maine. Posts like this remind me how important I am to my son.

SuteruYuza · 2015-04-15T06:11:45+00:00

Most definitely. I was lucky enough to be raised by two parents. I can definitely see how lacking one can negatively impact one's development.

This song actually covers this issue in a pretty heart-churning display. (The singer lost his dad pretty early on as well.) Sad, but catchy as hell. The lyrics + him trying to compensate for not having a father is what kills me.

AnotherLostCause · 2015-04-15T12:44:05+00:00

There is a reason fatherless boys have been shunned throughout history.

ChadThundercockII · 2015-04-15T18:45:05+00:00

"We’re a generation of men raised by women. It's a father figure that we need, not another woman."

The Tyler Durden in me.

Leavism · 2015-04-15T10:07:45+00:00

What about kids that grew up with neither? Shit I just turned 18 and I haven't met my parents since I was 4.

Breway · 2015-04-15T15:40:14+00:00

This reminds me of a story I heard about elephants. Due to poaching, elephants were moved around a bit to begin the process of game management and ultimately increasing herd size and population. At one point a number (like two or three) juvenile male elephants were relocated to a new area. They began causing havoc. They were destroying the area, terrorising other animals and humans, and just being destructive. After a thorough inspection and several scientific reports it was decided to relocate some older bull elephants to the same area. Problem solved the bulls checked the immature young elephants and the entire situation was turned around. I believe this has occurred already in several areas and cultures within the last 50 years or so. I also suspect that it is increasing in occurrence. My dad was and is a man. I wanted to be a man like him. There was no question as to his authority or position. However, it wasn't just discipline he provided. Due to his approval and respect my confidence and self worth were developed. This is why a gang mentality is so prevalent in communities that have a single mother parent household. Guys need other guys, either by fathers, sports, gangs, military, or the like.

AnotherLostCause · 2015-04-15T11:10:41+00:00

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Tqbfjotlds · 2015-04-15T13:05:15+00:00

Both boys and girls desperately need fathers in their life especially after the age of 6-7. Motherly love can take a child only so far. Once the child starts exploring the world and dealing with other people, they need a father to teach them that the world is not fair, that you cannot control everything, that you need to work hard to get results, that when you make a mistake you should own up to it and learn from that. Women are particularly bad at this, even when they have the best interests of their children at heart, they will often try to protect them by hamstering away any issues that the child faces. Children brought up this way learn to be entitled, thinking that the world is wrong and they are right. An ideal scenario would be the right balance between motherly love and dotting and the tough love of a father.

Carra23 · 2015-04-15T15:03:08+00:00

My sister has just become a single mum with 2 kids. How do you guys think I can help impact the nephew (he's three) in the absence of his father?

RP_Vergil · 2015-04-15T16:27:49+00:00

It's not really just on about Raised without a dad.

It's incorporating shame into teaching.

Shame is the biggest teacher, yet also the strongest tool FemNazis use against Guys this days.

ChadThundercockII · 2015-04-15T18:31:22+00:00

"would I do this if my dad were here?"

I actually would approach more and do more homework and reading if my dad pushed me. I once watched a boxing prodigy say that he fights to make his dad proud. I almost cried, and realized that I would bring down mountains and make the impossible just to make the old man proud. Maybe the biggest validation for a man is his father's approval.

Merica911 · 2015-04-15T13:05:34+00:00

First off, I almost wasn't going to jump into this post because it's somewhat disrespectful. Boy without father's IS life NOT by choice. Like someone being born black or someone being born with mental/ physical illness. They clearly didn't ask for it.

I haven't seen my farther since I was 2 years and that was in 1984. Mom and dad got divorced right after my brother was born, and that was it. Throughout the years my mom had many boyfriends but they wouldn't dare to play a farther roll in me and my brothers life (why would they). But when I turned 7, my mom did the best thing a single mother could do for her son, was to sign me up for the Big Brother program. All I have to say is I'm 33 years ago and till this day I still see him and I thank God "literally" for someone to take the time to show me the ropes.

Yes, the highest drug users are fatherless boys. Yes, the highest incarcerated are fatherless boys. Fatherless boys are 700% higher in suicide than others. I'm here to tell you I've never touched anything outside pot, never seen a day in jail with a clean record and obviously I'm still alive.

Yes, not having a father fucks you up royalty. I can write a book on it that's how much I know. I can tell you one thing though, it wasn't by choice.

If your message was to tell readers that if you don't a father figure in your life, "good luck sucks to be you", well then go screw yourself! But if your message was to tell readers, "Hey guys, stay in your son's life regardless if it didn't work out with your lady" then good!

Side note; if anyone is out there reading this that doesn't have a father, I'm here to tell you that we are here for you (TRP community). Us together will be your father and if anyone wants more insight in how I was able to make it squeaky clean at the age of 33 without a father (but with help from Big Brothers program) feel free to DM me!

dan_the_man_lion · 2015-04-15T14:37:33+00:00

I agree with you my man. I wouldn't have the work ethic and strength that I have today without my father. If it were just my mother I would probably be a beta my whole life and in prison as the statistics say. I always think about how sad it would be if my father wasn't there for me. I wouldn't even have a roof over my head if it wasn't for that man. My mother would have had no idea how to raise me right. After I swallowed the pill I've been able to talk to him about lifting and nexting females that get out of line. He always supported me in becoming the alpha I am today. I even helped him change the way he was letting himself be a beta with my mother. Wow this is really getting me amped up! Thanks for the great post and keep up the good work! salute

Gadnuk_ · 2015-04-15T14:52:31+00:00

I grew up single mother household but just found positive male role models elsewhere: rugby coaches, a few alpha teachers, squad leaders (army cadet force)

I'm arguably better because of it, I got to choose my role models. My father is successful but not masculine and doesn't command respect.

Having chosen my own role models (as a boy you naturally gravitate toward alphas because learning their habits is most important) I am now a well adjusted, well educated and high quality man.

Fathers can definitely be important, but the lessons a father teaches can be had elsewhere if necessary. Unless the kid is at home playing video games and isolated from these alternative role models, then he's at risk of becoming a neckbeard SJW incel.

Purecorrupt · 2015-04-15T15:05:13+00:00

That hurt my brain reading. I'd edit the beginning and instead of referencing "he liked all my friends" define he with "my father liked all my friends". I was imagining a friend or brother or some shit.
Ffs you don't define "he" for 3 paragraphs where you finally say old man.

wolfNshepherd · 2015-04-15T17:46:46+00:00

People in general benefit from having two parents. Boys need mothers to teach them to care for others. Girls need fathers to teach them foresight, restraint, and discipline.

Sweetseeds · 2015-04-15T19:18:47+00:00

So the guys who grow up without s father and accomplish more than men that have fathers must have a lot more serious inner strength?

armallthebears · 2015-04-15T20:22:13+00:00

Men got to step up. You might be an uncle or older cousin or whatever, but if you are a man and there is a kid (male or female) in your life you could be the reason they don't grow up warped. Make the world saner.

workunit13 · 2015-04-15T14:45:11+00:00

No dad at all here, go fuck yourself.

Title	Boys need a father.
Author	Cuntburgler
Upvotes	176
Comments	124
Date	April 15, 2015 5:22 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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