Do not even try reconnecting with your oneitis

ThatOneDrunkUncle · 2018-07-18T17:59:51+00:00

You're so mad at yourself for answering a text. Not giving a fuck that you "caved in" will help you get over her. Who really gives a shit. Move on.

mallardcove · 2018-07-18T18:05:47+00:00

If AskTRP is any bellwether, no one is going to heed this advice.

You see, their situation is always different. Yeah, don't reconnect with your ex/oneitis, but, you see, my situation is different, she is different, she's not like everyone else, what we have isn't like everyon else, so I can make an exception here. It will be different, trust me.

Carcrash1985 · 2018-07-18T20:13:33+00:00

Weird I was about to do a post about this myself , girls who you were an orbiter for in blue pill days coming out of the woodwork once she’s been fucked over by Chad , to you , who she knows she can get instant validation from. I still have some part of the anger phase in me relating to this specifically so I don’t find it hard at all , I reply but fucking hours later and hardly invest in the conversation

ArdAtak · 2018-07-18T18:08:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing. It's hard.

unplug9000 · 2018-07-18T23:55:54+00:00

You should really stop thinking about her. Being mad at yourself for caving in to her is basically still thinking about her. Ignore the bitch.

MotorsportEnthusiast · 2018-07-18T18:01:50+00:00

Side note : Do not go digging through past dirt. No good can come of this. Remember, the moment you are with a former chick, your old tendencies, good or bad, tend to return. It ended for a reason, and you know it well. Stop deluding yourself by thinking you’ll be your newfound redpilled self around those women. DO NOT FUCKING SEARCH IN THAT TRASH. There’s always new women to look forward to. The time and effort you’ve wasted earlier is gone, never to return. Do yourself a favour, and do not spend any more time trying to fix your past MOVE THE FUCK ON.

Ughh I’m so annoyed at myself for my actions. I knew it was a bad idea from the get go! How do you guys forgive yourself after goofing up like this?

one_eyed_zoro · 2018-07-18T18:00:36+00:00

When you got oneitis, nopeitis is the answer.

Morphs_ · 2018-07-18T20:40:08+00:00

Reconnecting is fine, as long as you keep frame which you didn't.

You could have made a normal conversation with her, instead of going robotexting and then bluepilling when she withdrew.

This is a classical move by her as Corey Wayne explains. You could have suggested meeting up to catch up and then hook up with her.

banthrow · 2018-07-18T18:26:02+00:00

dude, you lost nothing sending a text, also didnt gain nothing. Think like this, independence of outcome.

AceofRains · 2018-07-18T20:25:06+00:00

Ha. I remember when I fell for that one a few years ago. Boy did I take the red pill right about there. I work right behind her family’s house nowadays and could give 2 shits about her. My life is better off without useless feelings that repulse her and make me feel weak. You’re better off living a life that will make you into the guy she wishes had accepted while never going back to find her acceptance.

ThatMuscleUpGuy · 2018-07-18T21:46:40+00:00

Block her number so you can't receive any calls or messages from her. Simple. For two months she didn't contact you because she was busy having fun with others and now, all of a sudden, once she had all her fun partying and what not, she wants to come back? She might have looked at her bank account and saw her funds dwindling and thought, "I know a certain someone who can financially hold me up".

Block and move forward, my brother.

RunawayGrain · 2018-07-18T20:08:17+00:00

So now you need to take the next step and block her.

CheapChad · 2018-07-18T21:12:32+00:00

I recently fucked my teen times oneitis. Turned out to be pretty fun.

615bachelor · 2018-07-18T18:05:52+00:00

I’m not gonna bash you because we all was once a beta faggot at one point in our lives. When a woman contacts you after a break up it is usually for two reasons

Her relationship didn’t work out with Chad
She is texting you to confirm that you are a beta bitch faggot . She needs to make sure that she made the right choice.

Now when she did texted you, you had the power. You should of told her to come to your place for drinks and fucked the shit out of her . Then slowly she would of latched back on to you . But you would keep her as a plate and nothing more. But instead you texted back fast and gave her more validation. She now realizes that her break up with you was indeed the right choice.

There are plenty of other women to fuck. The quickest way to get over a women is by fucking other women. Another way to get over your oneitis is by imagining her getting fucked every night in all three holes. Because thats what is happening.

redisthetruth · 2018-07-18T18:00:17+00:00

It’s all about frame. Who’s directing the conversation and the flow of the relationship?

redpillschool · 2018-07-18T18:46:19+00:00

Unless she's looking for a booty call.

krowitz · 2018-07-19T02:17:57+00:00

I'm quite new here and I'm not sure I am able to understand everything here but you can do anything you want as long as you bear the consequence. Sure you can slip and cave in. Sure you can be sad about it, it is completely normal. The important thing here is you are able to look into yourself and saw something you wouldn't want to do in the future. I like that you hate yourself for it. It makes you better. Learn from it and improve yourself. You can read all about it here, but everyone has the right to be skeptical. And now you experienced it first-hand, you get to see what applies.

Give only what you can afford to lose. You don't give a fuck to things you cannot control, and the only thing you have full control of is yourself.

This sub is really cool, but keep an open mind. Take what you need, and be on your way. You are not in this sub to feel better about yourself. You are here to understand.

TwistedPeanut · 2018-07-19T02:50:20+00:00

I’ll offer a different perspective. I texted my oneitis 6 months after she cut me off. Fucked her two more times shortly after. Seeing her again those two times made me realize she wasn’t actually special. That was when I really knew I was over her. Cut her off for good after that and I hardly ever think about her anymore.

Robin2Fast2Furious · 2018-07-18T22:31:02+00:00

Cool, it happened. Mistakes happen. Learn and move on.

longjeep2005 · 2018-07-18T23:22:31+00:00

I disagree, if you are truly over her, why not? Recently I pulled my (hot) former oneitis/plate when she hit me up during a brief stay in town. After a nice smash she was on her way. But you should only meet up if you know you're over those vulnerable beta feelings.

Demiurge_Decline · 2018-07-18T23:41:57+00:00

She got dicked and left to dry. She needed some reassurance. Once she wiped his cum of regret off her face through texting you, she felt better. Also. she can still tell you are still sensitive to her "leaving you."

NDNPreserve · 2018-07-18T23:23:22+00:00

"you don't even get time to chat with me" yea bitch you're that awesome. Fuckin lol

gmikeygdizzle · 2018-07-19T00:27:56+00:00

This happened to me last night. She brought up a specific time we had sex. I gave short unentertaining answers before stopping responding. They just crave validation, I remember finding out she still occasionally texted her ex while we were dating. After they realize that you're not at their will they go crazy for you. You've already made a plethora of bluepill mistakes in your oneitis relationship that cannot be undone. Move on to the next.

King-Mystery · 2018-07-19T01:37:28+00:00

HA! My old oneitis messaged me not even a couple hours after reading this...NOPE.

Thanks for the post.

expansion101 · 2018-07-19T02:43:27+00:00

And never apologize to your girl(s).

monadyne · 2018-07-19T05:32:55+00:00

Notice that this whole interaction occurred with texts. What the fuck! Is a text really the way a man should ever interact with anybody? Think about it: when she's getting a text from you, she has an imagine in her mind of what you look like, then she's reading words on a phone. How can you have any impact upon her like that? How could you establish dominance in a freakin text message?

If she's with you in person, however, she can see you, hear the timbre of your voice, smell the mixture of sweat and Aqua Di Gio, feel the gravitas of your actual presence. The words arrive in that context - - as opposed to being little typed characters on a screen.

If there's any interest shown in your texts, you could say, "Look, I'm not a teenaged girl- - text messaging doesn't work for me. If you want to talk with me, let me know sometime and we'll work out a time when I'm not busy and we'll get together. For now, though, I gotta go. You take care."

Done. If there's enough interest in you for her to entertain the idea of banging you, she'll respond. If she's not willing to go somewhere to be in your presence, then she was never going to fuck you anyway, and it's better to have her self-select by not contacting you to arrange getting together. With no further effort on your part, the situation takes care of itself.

This way, she might develop some intrigue about you, and it subtly puts the onus on her to have to chase after you. Texting back and forth lets her stay in her comfort zone, typing with her thumbs, getting validation from you. Fuck that.

MrMelbourne · 2018-07-19T07:07:44+00:00

Every man needs at least one "cunt of a woman" in his lifetime. It makes him learn some long lasting lessons that all the theory in the World will never teach him A man can be told that the hotplate is hot and that it will burn him if he touches it. But only until he does actually touch it and does get burnt will he REALLY learn that hot hotplates will burn you.

grandmasbroach · 2018-07-18T22:05:43+00:00

Why not plate her? Seems like you could if you wanted. I just don't know if you are mentally able to do that. I'd be trying to find out where the codependency issues are coming from and fix that. Most guys are able to fuck a girl like that and not catch feelings. Especially when you think she just wants you to orbit. Show her you won't orbit and be a fucking man already.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-07-18T23:23:41+00:00

No biggie, we’ve all been there. Women are master manipulators. You recognize what you did, probably dealing with this shit in your brain now (hence why you wrote this post) and know not to do it again. Now block that time waster and move on. Your life is now worse from answering that text. She didn’t improve anything and that dragged you down. You’re living that right now. So block her and move on.

ramfex21 · 2018-07-19T00:06:20+00:00

If you are in a relationship where you know that you should leave... but you are struggling to end it. Is that oneitis?

citrusavengers · 2018-07-19T02:53:54+00:00

No biggie, don't beat yourself up. Delete her contact and social.

wanabrancher · 2018-07-19T04:07:32+00:00

Well, if you had handled that better you could be fucking her right now. She was obviously thinking about you. I've had prior oneitis's reach out to me and I ran some smooth text, Snapchat game and ended up smashing. So if you can't run tighter game, then yes, your best option is to ignore.

ISaidThatOnPurpose · 2018-07-19T04:14:19+00:00

I usually end up answering because I think if I dont....they will think that I'm ignoring them because I'm all spiteful.

How do I make them know I'm not answering because I'm too cool for them? Lol

RedEmbrace · 2018-07-19T11:12:36+00:00

You derived the wrong lesson. At the moment of your 1st response everything was fine for you but afterwards you fucked up your image: she messaged you because she thought she might lose you and you were a rising stock in her mind since you stopped supplicating to her, but you dispelled all doubts yourself by going full retard so she obviously withdrew. Remember, when she messages you, at this brief moment of her existence has her mind occupied by you - you have her attention. She might be playing you but this does not happen suddenly after 2 months of no contact. This were her testing the water.

chaseexcellence · 2018-07-19T13:28:25+00:00

It happens buddy. You need to get out there and look for other women ASAP. Your ex just wanted male attention because her new possible man did not work out for her. Thats usually why exs contact their ex bfs. Stay busy and look for other women. I hope you live in a big city with a lot of options. Good luck.

SKRedPill · 2018-07-19T03:48:20+00:00

For all noobs here who are coming here maybe because of a couple of rejections, just note - it takes at least 4-5 years of dedicated effort and discipline and diet before you can get that ultra lean muscular look in the gym. And while it can take much less time to start seeing your first results (you can start seeing a difference from Day 1) - it takes at least 3-5 years of solid practice and experiences in all sorts of testing circumstances to change a personality. It takes at least a decade for anyone trying to become a virtuoso on a musical instrument or an athlete at the peak of their skills - don't think this is any different.

NewYorkGuy41 · 2018-07-18T18:27:17+00:00

Good post man. Thanks for the reminder.

AlexanderTheBread · 2018-07-18T18:29:58+00:00

Mistakes are fine and you are making them. The question is how many times are you going to make this mistake before you stop making it? For a lot of mistakes and for a lot of well-intentioned red-pillers, the answer is usually more than 1.

ozaku7 · 2018-07-18T19:01:08+00:00

You made yourself look like a antisocial cunt by cutting off contact and replying with one words. She could feel you were butthurt from miles away. Just talk to her like a person, what she's up to, how her days have been and bullshit.

Maybe it's good practice for you to talk with your oneitis and just learn to talk to her like any other. You will learn she isn't special at all, because it's all in your head and not about her. Nothing to do with AWALT, just with your inability to communicate normally.

tollemployee · 2018-07-18T23:46:57+00:00

I fucked with a girl and she kicked me out of the apartment because i sucked her neck like a retard and left a huge mark. This was a week ago and i cant stop thinking about her but she doesnt wanna see me Should i write?

redpilledcuck · 2018-07-19T02:42:04+00:00

Why didn't you text her to meet up and fuck her? Or a "Netflix and chill?" text

assholeofthesky · 2018-07-19T08:37:55+00:00

meh, sometimes it's worth fucking the oneitus so you get over the magic pussy syndrome

imtheoneimmortal · 2018-07-19T10:20:17+00:00

me ex wrote me, i just store the text so i don't see
If you use whatsapp store store the chat and is more easier.
If you use instagram there is similar option

U-94 · 2018-07-18T22:19:53+00:00

My 2 major oneitus cases from when I was 17/18 and really clueless have both ballooned into massively overweight women. It's like every negative thought I ever had somehow seeped into the aether and destroyed their lives. Beautiful. No worse fate for a woman in this country than being fat.

cumfortably_dumb · 2018-07-19T09:22:13+00:00

Same thing happened with me a while ago.

I haven't spoken to her for a while and was out one evening with on of my plate. After the date I was heading home, i opened my phone to see a message on insta saying "Just wanted to say Hi, Sorry for texting" On my way back, I met a friend and casually replied "Yeah right, Fuck off" and she started blabbering "how can i say that to her and shit", after like a bunch of messaged and probably half an hour later, when I was leaving after meeting my friend, I replied "If you are done, fuck off."

A few days later, I get a message from her again. "I have been wanting to fuck you since that day, how dare you talk to me rudely and all bullshit". She arranged everything and and i fucked her all night. And drifted away again.

I was at the brink of losing frame and was getting interested in her stories rather then sex.

TLDR: Even if you reply to your EX hold your frame, she doesn't deserve your piece of mind.

NabeshimaFukui · 2018-07-18T20:57:32+00:00

Should have just told her to come over if she really misses you, then try to escalate to rip in person. If she said no, then "Cool, nice to hear from you, gotta go handle something" then ghost until she does it again. Rinse. Repeat. And in the between time do not give a fuck what she's thinking.

Only block her if you really don't want to ever hear from her again.

To be real, you can't really know if your implementing these techniques unless you do it in a situation where you actually give a fuck. Its easy to apply this stuff with women you don't give a fuck about to begin with. When you do actually like them, that is the real test.

According to the Iron Rule of Tomassi #7, don't root through the trash. If your going by that, don't even respond.

Carcrash1985 · 2018-07-18T20:14:20+00:00

Also the “maybe this was a bad idea” was a test to see if you really are still beta / bluffing and you failed it , I’d have responded “nah it’s cool I’m just busy lately”

Hviterev · 2018-07-18T22:42:55+00:00

2 months and that's enough to write an article? Good thing this is flaired BP example. The whole article is.

Give us a break. You don't have lessons to teach yet.

Gaius_Octavius · 2018-07-18T20:09:10+00:00

This was pretty pathetic. On top of that your post added absolutely no value to the subreddit.

Title	Do not even try reconnecting with your oneitis
Author	MotorsportEnthusiast
Upvotes	180
Comments	118
Date	July 18, 2018 5:37 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/8zxlyw/do_not_even_try_reconnecting_with_your_oneitis/
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