Don't Have Kids

Many RP men still cling onto hope that someday --despite the truths learned from here-- they can hack red pill knowledge to find a good woman, settle down, and start a family.

Nope.

Blind devotion to the goal of having children and becoming a father is foolish, slave-like and blue pill.

Granted, if you already have children or about to have one, this post isn't for you.

First, women of today are ruined. This doesn't magically change when they become mothers. They still --maybe even more so-- expect the world to be given to them on a platter without lifting a finger. Even if you find a "good one" hypergamy never fails. There's a reason why the guys at Married Red Pill call their life "RP on hard mode." Keeping your first officer --ie, your wife/SO/baby mama-- in line as you run the house as its captain is non-stop work. Women aren't naturally good mothers, far from it; they need to see a strong father at work and follow his lead. Even then it's not always easy.

Second, the current world is against fathers and stable families. Is it just me or does it seem like wives shout DIVORCE at any tiny thing going wrong, even though it's not the husbands' fault? Why is this world hellbent on separating children from their biological fathers? When your baby mama wants to take your kid(s) and move to another continent, there may be very little you can do. Not to mention the persecution from lawyers, courts, alimony/child support, spouse/child abuse allegations, etc.

Third, betrayal is like changing clothes for women. It's so, so easy for them to turn against you. Sure, your woman/wife/mother of your kids can be "good" ... for awhile, but they can change their attitude from good to shitty on a dime. One day they might wake up and realize they no longer want you in their lives and they no longer want you to be the father of your own damn kids. This is regardless of how hard you work, how much income you make, and how good of a father and husband you are. They can betray you and their own children instantly. Some might see it as a part of their nature, but I see this as evil and unacceptable, having experienced it first hand. (My own marriage lasted less than a year.)

Four, don't buy into the lie that co-parenting as separated/divorced parents is not so bad these days. Let's say you went through a divorce amicably. Now you and your ex-wife, the mother of your kids, are committed to being good co-parents. ROFL! Have you even heard the nightmarish stories from men about their psychotic co-parenting ex's? If you think trying to keep your wife accountable into being a decent mother is hard, try doing that as a divorced co-parent.

Fifth: Kids are expensive and burdensome. Mortgage, saving up for college, not to mention you and your wife's (if you're still together) retirement -- along with vacations, cars, the usual bills, so on. It can easily be too much. Add the constant nagging and stress added on by the woman who should be supporting you, not bringing you down. No wonder so many of us are literally killing ourselves. Unless you're making doctor/lawyer/fuck-you money, this will be very, very difficult to manage.

Six: Having children is rewarding but so are a lot of things. Sometimes awful people come from great fathers, and vice-versa. I know I'm a big disappointment to my own father since I've decided not to re-marry and not to have children. Living vicariously through your children as they become their own persons is foolish, but I know it's not easy to let them go. Unless your wife/mother of your children is spectacular and you have a couple of commas in your bank accounts, feeling "rewarded" by raising kids is like enjoying the best steak in a WW1 trench on the front-lines. Context matters. Being a father and husband is like running a three ring circus and it's constant work with a lot of big, important things not really up to you.

Seven: You don't HAVE to have kids. You're not a loser if you're not father. It's okay to live childless--no, childfree. (R slash childfree was helpful for my own journey.) TRP has taught us not to marry, but I'd like to push it further -- Don't have kids. There are other men out there who will, and sure they're probably blue pill. We don't need to be RP fathers; it's not like RP can be passed on from father to children, like teaching how to ride a bicycle. Most of our own fathers were so, so beta, including mine, and yet we've found and embraced being an alpha male. I don't want to hear what culture, religion, or background you're from and how it's important to have kids and be a father-- quit your whining and do not give a fuck. If it's okay to be without a wife/LTR, it's okay to not have kids. Children are not your legacy because legacy is just another lie told to poor, dumb people.

Eight: When you're old, you're a bitch to your kids. When will they call me? When will they come see me? Can I live close to or even live with them? When will I see grandkids? When will my grandkids come see me? When I'm old, the last place I want to be is in a senior home with aging bitch-ass parents like this. I will have no kids, therefore no longing. I'm not saying it's easier, but that's not how I want to spend the last ten/twenty/thirty years of my life.

Nine: Someday I will have kids ... someday... someday... Oh, really? That really sounds like a blue-pill beta to me, like how George kept the dream (deceit) alive for Lenny in Of Mice and Men. Live in reality or keep chasing fantasy. The truth, however, will set you free.

Ten: Not having kids is amazing for the environment. Look into it.

Right now I'm forty years old. I have so much I want to do, the excitement sometimes keep me up at night, just like Christmas eve when I was little. Because I'm not married and don't have kids, I have the freedom to do... whatever the fuck I want, really.

Raising children isn't wrong. But what is foolish is the unquestioned, unexamined worship of it, just like believing women are angels. Be critical of your goals and values. Be independent.