This is absolutely golden. A guy gets sex-shamed into oblivion for pursuing casual sex in the most respectful way imaginable.

First lets recap BPs’ usual advice how to get a fwb:

-be upfront about your intentions and discuss boundaries

-always ask for consent

-never physically escalate before you did all of the above

-only do it when she’s sober

-and don’t do it when she’s alone with you so she won’t feel scared and pressured!

-a no means a no!

-don’t buy her drinks or gifts -that’s chauvinistic to expect sex for them and would put pressure on her!

-cold approach is sleazy, only date people you know (Or use OLD if you’re attractive)

-if you want only casual sex avoid romantic stuff and dates so you won’t lead anone

Then there is this thread onBestRedditorUpdates sub titled:

I (21m) asked my friend (21f) to be FWB and now she won't talk to me + UPDATE

I can’t link it but look it up.

Here are some excerpts:

We became friends, eating dinner together after class and studying together. Recently, she's been more chatty/flirty. She and I are both single and have been for a while. I thought that she was interested in me and I decided to take a shot in the dark

Nothing wrong with that. That’s what people do.

I pulled her aside after a study session last week and once everyone else had left I brought up how we're both single and asked if she wanted to be friends with benefits.

Bad setting, but otherwise he did exactly what BP advises to do!

She asked what I meant and I said that we could hookup sometimes and otherwise keep things the same and still be friends.

She said that she really isn't interested in that and that she doesn't see me that way.

I just said "oh, ok. see you tomorrow then" and left.

Fine with that. He made a move and didn’t pressure her when he got rejected. No harm done.

In my first class this morning this random girl who sits near me said "did you really ask (friend's name) to hook up with you?"

I don't want to go the study session today in case she's told them. I also got a text later from an unrecognized number saying "you're a creep".

So she began creep-shaming him behind his back for asking respectfully and without any pressure.

And now look at these comments:

The part I keep thinking about is that he didn’t want to get in a relationship because then he couldn’t hook up with anyone else—and he has never hooked up with anyone. Why on earth does he want the freedom to do something he never does???

What a dumb logic. Only people who are already having sex are allowed to make a move. All virgins must become incels!

I call this artwork "The Birth of a Niceguy" Guy respectfully asked. In a naive fashion but he showed zero entitlement. Notice how in every interaction he had post this incident, he never apologized.

Apologized for what? He asked and got rejected. Literally harmed noone. It her who should apologize for shaming him behind his back.

Etc.

They call him a creep, nice guy and incel.

I love how casual sex is only good when girls enjoy it but when a guy tries to pursue it everyone immediately stars shitting on him.

The best part is that if he got her on some dates and fucked her for a while while being ambiguous about his intentions and only then stated that he isn’t feeling it. She’d likely still keep fucking him thinking she can leverage sex to secure a relationship.

Like most girls do once they find a guy above their league.