Redditor finds out his girlfriend had a MFM threesome, /r/sex advice? Past is the past

Zamarski · 2014-01-03T18:15:17+00:00

Here's a fun new term to describe a man's sexual expectations from the woman he is involved with: "feminine sexual experience trajectory". Put simply, if a woman had crazy sexual experiences while younger, a man can fully expect equal or greater crazy sexual experiences from her even in the context of a committed relationship.

"Honey, I had some bisexual and group sex experiences when I was in college".

His proper response: "Cool, I really like your friend, Lisa. Can she come over on Saturday for a threesome? Oh, there's a new swingers club opening soon, I'll get a membership for us."

"

Archwinger · 2014-01-03T20:07:10+00:00

A woman who is honest about her sexual history, even knowing that this honestly will get her demoted to FWB status, seriously outranks a lying woman.

Then again, this post makes it sound like it wasn't really honesty that drove the woman to tell her guy about this. It was more like a shit-test. Especially the way she threw this information out there like it was no big deal, i.e. "Yeah, I definitely want a MFF threesome one day. It would totally complement the MMF threesome I had previously!"

I don't think remorse or a more serious tone would cut it anyway, though. Any woman who thinks she can do something whorish like bang two men at once and not sacrifice her future value as a wife or long-term mate is stupid. And stupidity means not LTR material.

tehwankingwalruses · 2014-01-03T18:10:36+00:00

Honestly, people would be surprised how many girls have done this. Its not nearly as uncommon as it seems. Maybe its just because I party with sluts, but I've know a few nerdy girls who have done it.

SoftHarem · 2014-01-03T18:28:20+00:00

That's not a threesome, that's a train.

semigod__ · 2014-01-03T17:49:12+00:00

EDIT2: Can I just say you guys are so amazing, and you've really helped me put things into perspective, I just need to remember all the things you guys have said. From the heart, thank you.

yeah.. wow. just let him get burned.

nivek7913 · 2014-01-03T18:23:46+00:00

Every response is basically saying to suppress his feeling, get over it, and be open to anything.

Or in other words, man up.

RockinRhombus · 2014-01-03T17:53:36+00:00

Lol come on. Why can't women understand that no guy wants to wife up a girl who's been spit-roasted? Is it that novel of a concept for them?

Kelly_Gruber · 2014-01-03T17:32:53+00:00

Past behavior is an indicator of future behavior. I've never met a cheating whore who's only done it once.

Delzak · 2014-01-03T19:35:12+00:00

We've been having a lot of these posts. I think we get that other parts of reddit have a different opinion than ours. If a new interesting opinion is expressed, fine post it, but if it's just the same stuff; well we get it.

2014-01-03T21:00:23+00:00

relevant

PaulRivers10 · 2014-01-04T00:03:17+00:00

The fact that she had a 3some, frankly, doesn't bother me nearly as much as:

He's not interested in a 3some
But she brought up the possibility anyways

We don't know enough about the context to say anything for sure - it's not impossible that she's just trying to please him.

But what I would be concerned about is that this is an indication she's bored with having sex with him. Maybe she's the kind of girl who always need that level of stimulation, and no 1 guy can do it for her, so she's not good relationship material. Or maybe it's specific to him - he's been dating her for a while, turns out he's more beta than she thought, she's getting bored.

Whenever a girl I was dating started bringining up things from her sexual past that made me uncomfortable, it was always when (in retrospect) she had gotten bored with me and kinda wanted to break up.

OccamsUsername · 2014-01-04T00:46:15+00:00

I'll judge all I want. They're my values and my commitment.

drrtyfrrnr · 2014-01-03T20:18:16+00:00

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TRPACC · 2014-01-03T22:28:40+00:00

When people say past is the past does it work for criminal history as well? Do her choices not reflect her character and values on intimacy?

This is brilliant. Since they love the rape card... what if the boyfriend turns out to be an ex-rapist? But he doesn't do that anymore... "past is the past," right?

deville05 · 2014-01-03T19:25:56+00:00

I didnt read the whole thing, but it doesnt seem like a big deal to me. He is only insecure about his lack of sexual debauchery compared to hers. In any case he hasnt said that she is a cheating lying slut or that he is insecure of what she might do in the future. Infact she said that she is open to doing FMF but not MMF which could indicate that it wasnt fun for her and it also shows that she was honest and truthful (she could have easily hidden it and maybe that would have been a good idea for his case)

I dont know... the judgement passed here seems too harsh.

Ive always wondered why we as guys derogate women by calling them sluts or look down on them for giving it up, when in reality, if it wasnt for them we would all be jacking off and getting married at 21. No more bragging rights either.

TRPACC · 2014-01-03T23:46:09+00:00

So, have myself and the others I know that have had more than one, done something akin to a crime and are unfit for future relationships?

thro_way · 2014-01-03T17:41:32+00:00

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TRPACC · 2014-01-04T20:43:10+00:00

Looking at the two threads.

Following the advice of the first the guy is well on his way to becoming more confident and mature sexually, and a ffm threesome.

Following the advice of this one he might come to believe that he was dating something akin to a sociopath - and no threesome.

thedarkerside · 2014-01-03T18:50:29+00:00

Do her choices not reflect her character and values on intimacy?

Sure, for that particular point in time, but people do change, like it or not. Not only guys want to "fuck around without consequences" to put it that way.

There is always "buyer beware" going on. As for the question about criminal history? If the time has been served and they are:

a.) Honest about it. b.) Can make a good explanation on why that (or something like that ) won't happen again then it isn't necessarily a show stopper.

As an example: A friend of mine didn't pay attention as she was making a turn in a car, got hit by another car at high speed. One of the people in her car was killed as a consequence, she and the other guy in the car were seriously injured, so was the other drive. She got a criminal conviction out of it, does that mean she'll be a menace on the road?

Context matters and I would say age too.

sway_usa · 2014-01-03T20:45:15+00:00

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_A_a_r_o_n_ · 2014-01-03T18:30:59+00:00

What the fuck?

Title	Redditor finds out his girlfriend had a MFM threesome, /r/sex advice? Past is the past
Author	mistonag
Upvotes	24
Comments	193
Date	January 3, 2014 5:20 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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