Earlier this week a message popped up that deeply irritated me. "Yeah your game is good, but you succeed because you are good looking. Girls don't like guys that aren't good looking."

This got me thinking: why would someone even look at the world this way? In short, WHO GIVES A SHIT what women think. Good looking vs bad looking? These are just female frames that you are falling into. You are allowing her to define reality and you are qualifying yourself by her standards. In essence, you are letting her take a relative concept (attractiveness) and define it for you. You are adopting her frame. Just the action of allowing her to do this will permit her to expand her ability to define 'attractiveness.' Her standards will go up and up. An 'attractive' guy from last week will be 'unattractive' now. Ironically, the more she gains this power to define your frame, the more she will lose attraction to you. Why would allow someone who likely has poor character to define your reality for you?

As you speak with your girl friends or female family members, notice how often they attempt to set the frame for the conversation. Like a glitch in the matrix, you will begin to notice how often the conversation happens on terms that prioritise their framing. Whether it's about how pretty she is, whether someone is attractive/unattractive, how you were rude, etc. etc. she will constantly be framing the conversation in her best interests. Women seem to do this naturally, so I don't know why men contribute to it. Even subtle things like body language can be a way she frames it.

One aspect that defines a man is his ability to set his own frame. Whenever you catch her doing this, define it for yourself.