The simple two-step guide to becoming an alpha

1. Love yourself
2. Do whatever the fuck you want, and live by it

Game, negging, PUA, etc. are not necessary if you do the above. Who am I? I'm a 5'4 man who's dated gorgeous girls that have been taller, shorter, whatever than me (Tallest gf was 6'0 which was definitely interesting) and has had the best few years of life of anyone I personally know. Here's the kicker: I'm not even rich.

So why post this obvious piece of advice? Well because I find so many males today so emasculated and brainwashed that they don't even know how to follow these simple rules of thumb. And yes, you have to do them in order.

So let's break down what should be obvious to any healthy minded man.

• Love yourself - This is not that sappy bullshit feminists sell along with fat acceptance. You have flaws, accept them as flaws. Loving yourself is not denial. Loving yourself is living in the present and making yourself happy, it's about taking action. If you are letting your body fall apart, you aint loving yourself. If you let society and those around you decide on what to think, you aint loving yourself. Loving yourself means exploring yourself, working on yourself, striving to improve not because you need to but because it's just fucking enjoyable when you do it your way. Loving yourself means living your life to the fullest. It's not hugs and kisses for your self esteem. The feeling of confidence and self-love comes AFTER you take actions that are confident and healthy, not before.

• Do whatever the fuck you want. This does not mean ignoring the consequences or assuming there are none. Quite the opposite. You are truly doing what you want when you can see the consequences of your actions and happily live with them. There's really one simple question you have to ask to know that you are actually doing what you want: "Why do I want this?" If you can answer that question concisely, then you're well on your way.

Plot twist: This is actually a one-step program. When you truly love yourself, you can finally start living a life of doing whatever the fuck you want. You cannot know what YOU truly want to do, until you truly know and accept who YOU are. You take fear out of the equation, right and wrong out of the equation, judgment out of the equation, and just act on what makes you happiest NOW.

Don't take shit from nobody. Tired of the drama? Demand changes and if they aren't delivered leave. Also don't start drama or shit with anybody. If you have a problem with someone else, you really just have a problem with yourself. Walking away is always an option. You cannot make people be who you want them to be, but you can be the way you want to be. Let the people who don't fit into your lifestyle go, and keep the ones who respect you and are magnetized by your natural way of being. If you're starting shit with other people it's because you're still validating self-worth from other people. When you realize that all your sense of worth comes from yourself, you will be above the pettiness of others. Simply put, it's a waste of fucking time to bicker with people when you could be living it up. Trying to force change is the way of pussies, living by example is the way of the alpha.

And boys, all the cynicism and misogyny have no real place in this. There are shitty men and shitty women out there. The world is fully of shitty people, but the fact that you're here means you're ready to stop being one of them. (Or already aren't) Maybe you feel women led you astray from happiness. Sure. But you were the dumbass who listened. Until you take responsibility for your emotional state you aren't going anywhere.

I find it funny that this subreddit gets so much hate. What i mostly see here is just a group of people learning how to cast off the shackles of society's apologist bullshit and live life freely.

The sidebar here is full of a lot of great food for thought, perspectives and philosophies. But at the end of the day, there is no perfect guidebook for theredpill, because YOU are your own redpill.

Source: I came out of a beta 3.5 year terrible relationship, let go of my anger after another year, worked on my life until I loved it and myself, and for the past 4 years since I've just done whatever the hell I've wanted no matter what and it's been fucking fantastic. You literally can have almost anything you REALLY want if you're willing to work for it.

TLDR; Love yourself by being the you that you can't help but love, then do whatever the fuck you want.

*edit(s) minor typo fixes, also expanded on the don't take shit from nobody section. added "don't start shit with nobody"

edit 2 Someone asked how you can know what you want when you've been following what society tells you/your addictions for so long. Good question that is explained already in step 1 but I'll elaborate on the tool to use:

Let's start with money. You ask people why they want money you will get different answers. Say a guy answers: So I can get women. Okay then, you don't want money so much as you want women. Then you ask why do you want women? And in this process boils down your wants to what you REALLY want. It'll also help make clear what you want from what you don't. For another guy it might have been "so I can have more free-time." Okay then what that guy really wants is not money, so much as free-time, and money now becomes just a possible tool out of other options to achieve that instead of the end-all-and-be-all want.

A lot of time from my beta acquaintances I get answers, when they finally break, like "Because... I'm afraid of looking bad in front of others." "Because I want to look good." "Because 'external reason z.'"

When you stop just blindly acting on one's little whims, and start questioning why you think you want these things, you can make really clear if it's truly an internal or external factor, and if it's external it needs to go. Even with an answer like "because it makes me feel good" you should ask why. With sex it's easy because it literally fucking feels good. But sometimes people mask "to look good in front of others" with "it feels good." But when you ask why, they come out with shit like "Because then everyone will think I'm cool." (barf)

You need to stop seeking answers from others and start re-learning how to listen to yourself. Even everything I've said here can be discarded if it doesn't work for you.

Easier test: If you feel fear, embarrassment, shame, guilt, etc. are a factor in what you want, it isn't really what you want.