You will never be ready.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-03-22T12:15:48+00:00

Makes me think of perfectionism.

It's impossible to pre-plan what's going to happen. Over-reading, over pre-planning is a form of outcome dependence.

You're exactly right, at a point you just have to take the leap. So simple...

FereallyRed · 2019-03-22T14:38:47+00:00

It's ego protection.

You're afraid of taking this test.

Scares the shit out of you.... "What if I fail?"

So you do what every logical guy does.... you study. And study. And go on askTRP and ask a neverending series of laterally irrelevant questions. And debate the answers. Feels like you're learning and progressing.

Yet you never quite get around to scheduling the test... you never actually go out and try talk to women.

Your frantic little ego hamster is using this excessive preparation as a placeholder for what it is you're actually supposed to be doing.

Because if you're doing something that is even remotely associated with the test material then you can file it away under "preparation" and therefore add validity to your fuckarounditis.

And because this preparation sublimates your anxiety about actually taking the test, it's a worthy substitute to actually taking the test. The hamster spins in it's wheel.

Drilling down, the fundamental issue is your irrational fear... "What if I fail?"

The answer is.... nothing of significance.

And to go all meta on you, it's really not even about the test. The test is not what matters.

You're staring at the finger.

MattyAnon · 2019-03-22T14:14:49+00:00

You will never be ready

Putting that in superbold because this post is 100% spot on.

I've seen too many people hold themselves back because they're "not ready" for the next step - especially with business/finance/jobs. Ten years later those same people are still "not ready" - they'd have been better off failing and moving on than waiting and they might have succeeeded.

Throughout my 20's and 30's I'd jump at opportunities I was nowhere near ready for, applied to jobs I wasn't qualified to do, and tackle projects I was nowhere near experienced enough to handle.

This was incredibly successful, I wish I'd applied the same approach to women sooner than I did.

For most men: push harder with women. Escalate when you're 30% sure she likes you, not 99%. She doesn't even know if she likes you until you do. Part of your appeal as a man is that you can fuck women, so she needs to see you try and do this to feel fully attracted.

Apfeltee · 2019-03-22T11:15:57+00:00

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KeffirLime · 2019-03-22T14:22:27+00:00

One of the biggest factors holding people back is comfort. They don't really need to do anything so they don't. They want a better life, they have goals, but the consequences for not achieving them is to probably just keep plodding along at an average life.

To get what you want you've almost always got to be willing to risk that comfort. To possibly lose it and step outside of your niche into the unknown.

The reward however is creating something unique, something different, something that represents you. There's few feelings as satisfying as looking back on your authentic accomplishments and the challenges you overcame to achieve it.

TruthSeekingPerson · 2019-03-22T12:22:27+00:00

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2019-03-22T14:33:30+00:00

I remember in my young teens I came to this realization. I was thinking about speaking to this girl I liked and made all these justifications not to. Then I stopped myself and realized how fucking stupid they were and that I’ll never actually be ready, but you don’t need to at all. The worst that happens is she says no, who the fuck cares. I’m still me, she’s still her, and I’ve learned more and am more ready after.

RightHandWolf · 2019-03-22T23:04:47+00:00

Yes, every man is scared in his first battle. If he says he's not, he's a liar. Some men are cowards but they fight the same as the brave men or they get the hell slammed out of them watching men fight who are just as scared as they are. The real hero is the man who fights even though he is scared. - General George S. Patton

A good plan, violently executed right now, is better than a perfect plan next week. - General George S. Patton

We herd sheep and we herd cattle, but we lead people. Lead me, follow me, or just stay the hell out of my way. - General George S. Patton

SaladThunder · 2019-03-22T14:16:34+00:00

Man, this hit home for me. As a 30 year old who recently lost his job,car, and found his gf is pregnant.

TIME TO GET ON THE HORSE.

trp_nofap_rewire2018 · 2019-03-22T13:00:05+00:00

This is 100% true. Although I can’t hack my brain to adhere to this. My default modus operandi usually is: write down my master game plan and think of every possible detail before taking action. More often than not this hinders me big time. This happened when I realized I’m pretty much invisible and should do something about it. It sucks, but that’s how I am and it’s been hard to change.

Smerdakas · 2019-03-22T16:01:01+00:00

Perfect is boring. One of the best chapters from Pook, one of the best things I've read in my TRP journey:

When you see a girl you want to approach, or you are getting cold feet about a date, remember three words:

“Perfect is boring...”

Three words!

“Perfect is boring...”

Your brain will spin out all these reasons why you are unworthy...

“Cheap and wimpy car.” “Poor clothes” “Shortness” “Bad haircut” “No money.” “Not as good looking” “No confidence” “Past failures”

“Perfect is boring!” and watch those reasons evaporate.

foxhound525 · 2019-03-22T13:46:19+00:00

Meh I think this is only true for those who struggle with strategic implementation. Ive had people convinced I was juicing because I went from skinny AF to muscular within a year, but it all came down to a long term plan, which even now I am still progressing through. The trick is knowing when to move to the next phase and making sure you dont get apprehensive about taking the leap as you approach that time. There are some things that you just have to get on with though. I'm sure there's a law of power related to biding your time and mot executing before the plan is ready too

gabeangelo · 2019-03-22T17:44:47+00:00

Of course alphas can be afraid of making mistakes, but they act anyway.

2019-03-22T12:53:37+00:00

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omega_dawg93 · 2019-03-22T13:57:57+00:00

the city of houston taught me this lesson... i learned it quick too.

here's what i mean: i was working downtown houston, and if you don't know, it's 'heaven on earth' for meeting good-looking, educated, professional women... they're EVERYWHERE!! i was like, "what more can a man ask for?"

but when i saw a few i wanted to approach, i'd always say, "give it another week... just chill, smile... and next week, approach." but guess what? it would NEVER HAPPEN because the city is just too big & busy, there are too many women, there's not enough time, and you.can't.wait.for.the.perfect.time!!!!

when you see her, you need to act NOW, or you may NEVER see her again... that's what you need to do in a city that big.

clon3man · 2019-03-22T16:25:57+00:00

This go hand in hand with "try everything" "get out of bed early and take action". If you only attempt 1 thing per month then your "waiting for the right moment" is actually justified, fwiw, that's the death cycle, you're reinforcing that perfectionism is important, because it is in the optimal strategy for making sure 1 thing works out.

However, the real game is making sure you attempt 10 things in ways that vary in effort from half-assed to well-executed such that 1 to 3 of those things pan out, every week. This also makes your attempts easier and less anxiety provoking which makes future attempts more frequent... well you know the drill...

RightHandWolf · 2019-03-22T21:41:02+00:00

A classic clip that seems appropriate . . .

https://youtu.be/xFntFdEGgws

hazelstein · 2019-03-22T16:30:28+00:00

Wow, I just had this I am not ready plus I don't have mood today to cold approach.
I definitely have a lot of I am not ready moments.
I need to just DO thing. Like you said You will never be 100% ready, its another illusion to keep us from doing what we need to do !

looneyniggabunny · 2019-03-22T18:01:19+00:00

Thanks, I needed this as I was entering a new phase in life.

SuperiorConstantine · 2019-03-22T22:11:45+00:00

Holy fuck I needed to hear that.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-03-22T23:18:18+00:00

So we're all in agreeance...we all gotta keep doing, not thinking.

A mass tidal wave of Red Pill men just rock'n the fuck out.

javiercer20 · 2019-03-23T03:21:41+00:00

Great post.

Perfectionism my balls...

Many women won’t sleep with you. Many of them will find you 0% attractive, doesn’t matter how rich, muscular, successful, how big your social circle is or how nick your dick is. We are talking here about women, the weakest, insecure and most emotionally untestable animals of our specie. You can’t be 100% perfect with them, NEVER.

rock1987 · 2019-03-23T05:41:51+00:00

This is beautifully written in David deidas way of superior man - stop hoping for completion of anything in life

TruthSeekingPerson · 2019-03-22T14:25:23+00:00

The flip side is that if you don't feel comfortable doing something it's because your instincts are telling you not to do it. Make sure it's something you want to do as opposed to something you think you should be doing. I tend to believe this rule applies to approaching women. Are these women really desirable and worth giving your attention? In most cases the answer is almost certainly no--if they were you'd want to talk to them. For many men the best solution is to let women signal they're interested in you.

NextBad · 2019-03-22T13:13:46+00:00

Thank you for writing this, lately this community is all, build a amazing life, radiant some energy and women will be a by product..

You learn about things by failing, after 20 to 30 rejection you will learn the little things, and the subtle lighting

2019-03-22T13:47:23+00:00

I think a good way to take uncomfortable leaps is to say "How would I act if I (was confident at approaching women, knew I would get the job, had willpower to quit smoking)" etc. and then act it out enough to where you are confident that you'll at least do the thing, whether you're secretly uncomfortable still or not. And then the comfort and confidence in yourself comes with time.

33papers · 2019-03-22T16:35:17+00:00

Great post. Very true. Do it now, whatever it is that you want, because you will never feel truly 'ready'.

4nt43us · 2019-03-22T18:08:35+00:00

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Well_hung_Yakuza · 2019-03-22T18:11:05+00:00

This! As my university studies come to their final end, I regret not trying out more things and being even more social. Some of the opportunities there will be gone forever. As I will move to a new city I made a point to try EVERYTHING, as it's not too late to do that, but still, do not make my mistake! Allow yourself to fail, as he who wants to be a master must first be a servant. Ridicule yourself in front of a lot of people while trying something new. It is worth it, and one of the most organic ways to meet a lot of new people and chicks!

Casanova-Quinn · 2019-03-22T18:12:09+00:00

This is an important topic.

I've watched a fair share of interviews with highly successful people (business moguls, high level athletes, etc.) and one the most common similarities I've noticed is a "make it happen, and fix it along the way" mentality. Almost NO ONE who is highly successful started off on a "perfect path" to success.

yairof · 2019-03-22T22:42:19+00:00

We tend to limit ourselves unnecessarily due to society's binary norms. Left or right wing. Weak or Strong. Success or Failure. The mindset should be that its ok to make mistakes and look a fool. A master has undoubtedly failed more times in that field of expertise than all the attempts a novice has made. Growth cannot occur if you do not venture out into the unknown. Like a baby learning how to walk. The falls are inevitable but each new experience gained in the attempt culminate into the creation of the desired skill.

I think Jordan Peterson says it best:

We might start by considering the all-too-black-and-white words themselves: "Success" or "Failure." You are either a success, a comprehensive, singular, over-all good thing, or its opposite, a failure, a comprehensive, singular, irredeemably bad thing. The words imply no alternative and no middle ground. However, in a world as complex as ours, such generalizations (really, such failure to differentiate) are a sign of naive unsophisticated or even malevolent analysis. There are vital degrees and gradations of value obliterated by this binary system, and the consequences are not good.
To begin with, there is not just one game at which to succeed or fail at. There are many games that match your talents, involve you productively with other people, and sustain and even improve themselves across time. Lawyer is a good game. So is plumber, physician, carpenter, or schoolteacher. The world allows for many ways of Being. If you dont succeed at one, you can try another. You can pick something better matched to your unique mix of strengths, weaknesses and situation.
Imagine that you are very good at some, middling at others, and terrible at the remainder. Perhaps that's how it should be. You might object: I should be winning at everything! But winning at everything might only mean that you're not doing anything new or difficult. You might be winning but you're not growing, and growing might be the most important form of winning. Should victory in the present always take precedence over trajectory across time?

jshtx2117 · 2019-03-23T02:00:33+00:00

Success has an action bias.

rad_hombre · 2019-03-23T08:03:33+00:00

Church.

Perfect is the enemy of the good.

I'm coming into a very similar realization approaching 30.

It isn't about being ready or not ready.

It's about action or non-action.

Engagement vs. disengagement.

Are you doing things in the world and engaging with it, being proactive?

Or are you simply in reactivity– passively accepting and dealing with things as they come your way?

I remember "discovering" this mindset in my early 20s and crushed it for awhile, but subsequently "forgot" about this truth and fell into some bad times. I think people need community to remind themselves of this truth.

It's easy to get worn down in the world.

nuufo · 2019-03-23T08:29:43+00:00

Or... Could it be that YOU are ALWAYS ready.

Jkarl1 · 2019-03-23T09:08:43+00:00

I just finished a great book titled “Principles” by Ray Dalio, in which the essence is the same as this post. He is the founder of the worlds biggest hedge fund, and he basically stated that the only way to succeed is through failure and reflecting back on your mistakes to improve them. Its a never ending process. It’s a great book and he gives you a great guideline and explanation on the steps to psychologically overcome this fear of failure and to grow.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=B9XGUpQZY38

TheRedPillRipper · 2019-03-23T10:37:32+00:00

Very similar to an old coach’s adage; “Live in fear or live in hope.”

He used to say everyone lives in fear; cause it’s easier. Fear to make that hard run or that tackle. Fear to trust your teammate. He said It’s harder to live in hope; hope you’ll make that tackle or make your runs. Hope your teammate has his man covered and trust him to do his job.

I never really had an issue with living in fear but that coach put it into words that resonated. Don’t fear being unprepared; prepare as best you can and hope for rest.

2019-03-23T11:00:09+00:00

I constantly see that at work, there often opportunities, sometime directly visible (like the boss saying that they look for candidate for that or this job), we have the internal website with literally hundred of internal job listings and nobody prevent you from applying outside of the company.

But when I ask a collegue if he will apply to that manager role, they most often say that they are not ready.

Me I say it is because I don't want it, I want technical job, not managerial, but I am applying to them and actually get promoted.

I can get the not ready stuff when you are a newcomer with maybe less than 2 years experience, but many of theses person have 5 years of experience and more, so why not ? They don't even want to try.

kja1810 · 2019-03-24T02:12:02+00:00

This one's good. Thanks OP

2019-03-24T14:30:31+00:00

That part about being 180lbs and shredded really got me, because I’ve reached this milestone and I still find excuses not to approach. Man. What the fuck

Xemnas81 · 2019-03-25T01:30:38+00:00

Can confirm, made me miss out on asking a fellow intern out/give her my no. because I wanted to wait until the MeToo risks were normal. Now she's left.

Hjalmbere · 2019-03-28T08:29:13+00:00

Only applies to approaching women. If you show up to an interview for a job you are thoroughly unqualified for you may fool yourself you’re an alpha male but in reality you’re just another deluded ass-clown.

Above doesn’t mean you shouldn’t challenge yourself professionally, but don’t try to fly a space shuttle if you never even flown a Cessna.

TLDR; Take calculated risks. Don’t be a jackass.

throwitpplaway · 2019-03-30T05:05:31+00:00

It really is interesting to know that the majority of the faults we have, WE KNOW, and yet never truly improve.

Like action taking. Entrepreneurship, women, self-actualización and many of the other things that can only thrive by action, we tend to over plan on.

God knows the amount of books and courses I’ve took on business, project management, online marketing, sales and things I have yet never even actually done.

I’ve also noticed that taking action is EASY. It really is, it’s harder to strategize. For example: plan out week workout plan, projected calories/weight goal, etc VS go to the gym, hit big lifts and cut out soda, snacks and sugar. What’s actually easier to do?

My new hurdle is understanding what books/courses to read and take that I can actually utilize right away

wendysNO1wcheese · 2019-03-30T15:46:20+00:00

One of the truest things that can be said.

bemore_ · 2019-03-31T18:34:30+00:00

It depends who you are as a person but yeah once you go in your head, you will rationalize everything. If you are more thoughtful, you'll benefit from more action than reflection. If you're more action oriented, you'd benefit more from reflection.

It's finding balance between comfort (routine) and being uncomfortable (novelty)

Title	You will never be ready.
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You will never be ready