Learning from a blue pill father

helaughsinhidden · 2019-04-11T18:01:40+00:00

Vague... so very vague. I am guessing you are this way in real life too, after all we are complete strangers and you have told us almost nothing of yourself and haven't even really asked a proper question. I will say that most men here that are honest, forthcoming, candid, and humble are able to get a lot out of this community. Your approach will not yield those results. You don't go to the doctor when you are sick and tell him "I am in the best shape of my life, but just in case my parents made bad choices, how bad is my life going to be".

Just hoping for some advice ...... I dont know what a long term red pulled marriage looks like.

What do you want? Validation? Hope? To be called a faggot? A red pilled marriage is a relationship that is full of managed tension between two imperfect people in the best possible scenario for each member of it. Man leading a woman who wants to be lead, but will fight you for it. A woman who wants to be fucked, but also wants to withhold it. A woman who wants to submit, but doesn't want to be told what to do. MRP will help provide tools to navigate these rough waters, but the tension never goes away, you just get better at handling it in the moment and over long periods of time.

Conclusion: Post your shit if you want help. Tell HOW you are red pill. What are your lifts, books read, game, mission, how handle shit tests, can you spot her hypergamy, how fat are you, how are you leading the relationship, what kind of captain have you been in the past and what did you change, are you killing it in your career and finances, social life, etc. Right now, you are afraid to own up to us, how can you be owning your shit at home?

SBIII · 2019-04-11T20:22:17+00:00

Off to a good start - you made some mistakes and appear to have learned some Red Pill knowledge...

i used to obsess over women to the point where I lost my job, got a dui and lost everything. it was terrible. sad really and a complete waste of time.

then I just focused on me. stop putting women on a pedestal. got in great shape. basically became a man.

Good work

now engaged to a wonderful woman.

Uh, oh. I hope you made that decision carefully. Why did you decide to get engaged?

I definitely want her to be the mother of my children. I've heard and been told in therapy that this is actually good.

Wait... your therapist advised it? Ehm.. do you have any underlying mental issues that you haven't told us about yet?

It was chaos growing up and I dont want that.

Trouble childhood. I see. I hope you learned from the lessons of the past.

I'm with a great gal now, we've been together for 3 years. Its steady and solid and honestly boring.

Hmm.. worrying but at least it's better than your past, I suppose...

My past was wild mood swings and constant drama. Now that it's gone I almost crave it.

Da fuck?

I spent my twenties putting women on the pedestal and it really skewed my idea and reality of a healthy relationship.

So what do you consider a healthy relationship now?

Dude - you've barely finished college and a few months ago didn't even have a job. By your own admission, you fucked up all your previous relationships and now that you are in a "stable" one, you want to marry the girl and have kids.. even though you find it boring and crave the kind of drama you had in your childhood which put you into therapy 20 years later.

I dunno, man - you've a lot of shit to sort out before you even think about getting this girl pregnant or marrying her. All I can see here is you repeating the mistakes of your own past and the mistakes of your parents and passing them on to your children.

I don't see anything Red Pill about you at all - you haven't even licked it, let alone taste it.

Sidebar for you - don't stop till you're done.

Countpudyoola · 2019-04-11T17:06:39+00:00

I'm in a red pill relationship

What makes it so? FYI: post in OWS and we'll judge.

You know you can have a family without getting married. It isn't a legal prerequisite.

And if you're here looking as a kind of back door assurance from us that you should "it's just tougher". Don't.

The main thing that you are changing between your current relationship and what will happen in the future is that you give up your ability to walk away without an unimaginable amount of monetary and legal suffering.

How about don't take another step before you listen to this particular red man group podcast all the way through.

rpsheepdog · 2019-04-11T17:06:53+00:00

I'm in a red pill relationship

something tells me this might not be the case dude

UltimateCrypto · 2019-04-11T18:10:53+00:00

Nothing red pilled about getting married and giving a chick everything she wants and screwing yourself over.

ReddJive · 2019-04-12T00:00:11+00:00

Don't get married.

There is no benefit to a man in marriage that he can't get from a dedicated LTR.

Marriage is not love. Marriage is not some magical shield that prevents bad things from happening.

Rethink this decision.

man_in_the_world · 2019-04-11T17:28:32+00:00

If getting married changes anything, you're not really redpill at your core, and you're not ready to marry.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-04-11T17:09:07+00:00

If you were really in a red pill relationship, you wouldn’t be asking what ones looks like faggot.

dll142 · 2019-04-11T19:03:24+00:00

I have a few questions for you. Are you under that mind set that marriage is for life? What do you expect it to be like compared to what it is now? If you truly want that long term, just understand that you and your girl will change and evolve over time and that being married WILL instinctively change her mindset. Each case is different, but now a days, a woman's hypergamy is optimized by western law (I assume you are in the USA or Canada). She can change her mind years down the road and the courts are more than happy to hand over, in many cases, more than half your property, not to mention a potential custody battle that can be further leveraged by her due to the financial and property ties.

I'm not advising you either way, but just know that. Personally, I like being married and having a family. Just know that the burden of performance is ALWAYS on you and that you can't ever get lazy. The stakes are high my friend.

nantucketghost · 2019-04-14T19:45:11+00:00

If you're red pilled form the start, you'll be fine.

It's the fuckers on here that did it half way through a failed marriage with the wrong girl that are having a hard time and will tell you to not get married.

Been married 20 years. It's fucking amazing.

Ridabewa · 2019-04-11T21:07:24+00:00

She’s hitting the wall, and you’re not even peaking. But you know that cause you’re “red pill”, right?

LongRoad_518 · 2019-04-12T20:35:30+00:00

If you were truly red pill you wouldn’t be asking for advice on here. You wouldn’t need to.

Get married. Don’t get married. Whatever the fuck you want to do. It’s your life not ours.

Daddy_ThunderCock · 2019-04-11T20:24:12+00:00

Why do you need to be married to have a family? The two are not inextricably linked. Also, what country do you live in? Your post is vague as fuck so you are going to get vague answers and people assuming you are a lazy faggot. Faggot.

Captain_pants4 · 2019-04-11T22:38:19+00:00

She makes twice as much money as you do, and you like her? Get married, sidebar, work out, keep emotions in check.

Marriage is probably a lot easier if you’re red going in

Title	Learning from a blue pill father
Author	the_mountains1985
Upvotes	6
Comments	52
Date	April 11, 2019 4:58 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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