New here. This doesn't seem to be working

stonepimpletilists · 2017-06-11T18:21:56+00:00

She wont like it. Sge will fight it kicking and screaming.

Until its working, then it was her idea all along.

Or shell leave, and you can replace her with a woman worth a damn

MRPFuckMe1 · 2017-06-11T17:50:32+00:00

You actively stop her from doing things? That'd be weird. The bills, yes. But I've always interpreted owning one's shit as doing what needed to be done. If she's doing it already, i.e. cooking and cleaning, then it doesn't need to be done.

If you come home from work and the sink is full of dishes and nobody's on top of it, do the dishes because you don't want to live in a house with a sink full of dishes. Maybe I'm wrong, but I get the impression that you come home and she IS doing the dishes and you body check her out of the way and do them yourself.

screechhater · 2017-06-11T20:25:31+00:00

I started lifting last month, I saw no results. I said fuck it. It's easier to be a fat fapper.

LewisCross · 2017-06-11T17:46:14+00:00

Lots of questions.

Do you lift? Is your shit tight and squared away? Taking care of what you were taking care of before, well and regularly? Is work/profession going well and under control? Are you improving in your physical appearance and overall attitude/outlook on life?

Now. "Leader" and "man of the house" and "everything is my responsibility" does not mean "I do everything and delegate nothing".

Good leaders delegate and then don't micromanage that which is delegated. You're the leader. You don't have time to micromanage everyone else's tasks. You give them the tasks to do and expect they'll be done adequately.

Plus, if you don't have everything else squared away and under control, you don't have the credibility to be the leader who micromanages how others do their tasks.

Sepean · 2017-06-12T05:14:46+00:00

Your mistake is to think that whether or not she likes it is relevant to it working.

nightmancommeth · 2017-06-11T19:11:16+00:00

This is known as red pill Rambo. Google 12 levels of dredge and follow them. The first few months are improving yourself.

angels_fan · 2017-06-11T19:22:45+00:00

You aren't responsible for her irrational emotions.

You've lived too long in a world that screams happy wife, happy life, and it's so engrained into your core that you need to re-train yourself that it's the worst platitude in the English language.

You do what needs to be done. If there are dishes in the sink, do them. If she screeches, smirk and give her a little kiss and say, "you're welcome, babe!"

Your first year should be all about improving yourself. While you shouldn't necessarily give zero fucks about her, it should be close to that. She's responsible for her emotions. Not you. Let her be pissed. Learn to not let if affect you. You're happy and smiling and going forward with your awesome life regardless of her bitchy, pouty attitude.

BobbyPeru · 2017-06-11T17:44:49+00:00

Slow down Rambo.

Changes should be slow and subtle. Concentrate on lifting, reading, and STFU too start.

briareos_uk · 2017-06-11T17:47:55+00:00

Taking care of your shit is good, but everyone comes into redpill thinking under a different set of circumstances. Did you own any of this before? Where are you at with the sidebar/lifting?

It's very easy to get carried away and implement too much too forcefully. Many of us have been there.

justpickanyusername · 2017-06-11T17:54:16+00:00

You need to provide some more context. How long have you been at this? Are you lifting and raising your own attraction? Are you fun and flirty?

As captain, yes, ultimately you are in charge of the ship. However, that doesn't mean micromanaging. Only do that when necessary. Delegation, training, and oversight are also your friends. It's hard to know where you fall in this.

MRP is a long process for most and not a quick fix. I don't know if you have gone Rambo or not, but the transition should be for the most part subtle/steady mixed in with some major establishments of frame when warranted depending on how hard/often she tries to shit test you. Some women will submit more easily than others.

If you have been a drunk captain and are now all of the sudden sober and trying to change things that's great for you. The problem is that she still thinks you're drunk. It takes some time for her to come around. Plus, if you aren't attractive yet, your taking over appears even more unattractive to her. You have to have your shit together before you start throwing your weight around. Otherwise, you are just ugly Rambo.

donedreadpirate · 2017-06-11T23:34:22+00:00

I'm not gonna read your post because the headline says it all. Give it time.

atlhart · 2017-06-12T13:53:24+00:00

On the surface, she likes her life they way it is. You're a beta faggot loser. You pay he bills, she doesn't have to do too much. No dick sucking. Only has to do the dishes and pick up the house if company she wants to impress is coming over, maybe not even then.

Life is good. Not too much work.

Then you come in and change it. You raise the bar. By cleaning up what is dirty, you're changing the status quo. Suddenly life starts to involve more work. This is shitty. She does not life this. She gets pissy.

Stay the course.

chachaChad · 2017-06-12T14:13:35+00:00

So you went Red Pill Rambo and you're surprised she freaked out? My guess is you've been beta or a drunk captain all this time and she's had to do all the hard work and now, suddenly, you show up and start bossing shit around. Why the fuck should she trust you? You're already shown her you're not capable of handling things and she needs to do it herself because you're going to fuck it up.

You need to remember to go slow otherwise she's going to make changes to accommodate you and you will not like the changes she's going to make. Slow your roll. Read all the side bar and start lifting.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-06-12T22:34:35+00:00

She interprets my taking over as her not doing a good enough job even though I have told her that's not the case.

So you have told her...but is it the case? Why do you feel the need to suddenly take over everything and encroach on what she does? A leader doesn't just suddenly come home and start barking out orders. You probably need to delegate and to gain some respect- yes I said it- for the critical role of First Officer. A good Leader doesn't micro-manage his subordinates.

tslextslex · 2017-06-13T21:24:25+00:00

If you were to draw a Venn diagram of all the things you can control and all the ways she feels about things, the total area of the intersecting circles would be. . . . zero.

Always.

sh0ckley · 2017-06-17T17:04:56+00:00

"I am the man of the house"

True but acta non verba.

For the love of god do not tell her that or discuss it.

Eventually my wife started asking permission to do the dishes. Yes I'm serious. She got scared because I was basically autonomous. Now she says she'll do them... and she actually does. Amazing Grace.

Title	New here. This doesn't seem to be working
Author	newredpiller44
Upvotes	9
Comments	26
Date	June 11, 2017 5:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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