The wife and I had a brief talk the other night before bed. She said she spoke with one of her older couple friends and suggested the idea of me taking a trip with my guy friends' once a year and her with her girlfriends'. She said that it seemed like a healthy thing for her and I to do. I've seen horror stories so I am a bit apprehensive. I realize that's BP behavior and that if I say "no" then it could come across as weak with low abundance. How should I navigate this?