Do your women cum often?

frognads · 2019-11-05T13:19:12+00:00

Bro I'll be honest I can't fucking tell if they're cumming, nor do I trust them when they say they are. As long as they're enjoying themselves I'm cool.

Rkingpin · 2019-11-05T13:22:03+00:00

Some girls cum easier than others.

But all of em enjoy when u stroke their g spot through fingering during foreplay at least.

If ur dominating her well and smashing them cheeks good, spanking and hair pulling and she still doesnt cum thats her own fucking problem brobro

MotiMorphosys · 2019-11-05T13:07:14+00:00

About 50% of the time. If you're redpilled and understand what makes women wet, you're already ahead of the game. Women will shit test you in bed just as often as on the street so don't get fazed by the bullshit they feed you in the sheets.

There's a great educational video on pornhub on how to make a girl squirt. Regardless of your views on squirting, that method has gotten me results and compliments wheather or not my bedsheets got soaked.

-DeadLock · 2019-11-05T13:30:02+00:00

They cum most of the time, probably >75%. I enjoy it when we cum at the same time, when she squirts, when she cums a few times before I unload. Sex is better for me when we're both getting off regularly. If she's not fun in bed, and isn't teachable, then I move on to someone who is fun. I've noticed that women who are fun in bed do what they need to get off, and will adjust their angle or give feedback that helps them get off. When they start getting off, it makes it pretty easy for me to cum, so it's a good time all around.

FereallyRed · 2019-11-05T16:10:42+00:00

Making women cum is WAY more cerebral than physical. Are you mindfucking her?

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-11-05T12:39:15+00:00

Read sex god method.
Don’t attach your worth to their orgasms. You are not a performer for them, they are responsible for their orgasm,

[deleted] · 2019-11-05T14:33:51+00:00

Yeah, I do. And it's important to make her cum. You need to give her that value, that juice, the certainty, that undeniable fact and good feeling which will keep her cumming back.

audacious_wirble · 2019-11-05T13:16:34+00:00

Women that are comfortable with themselves and know themselves intimately will cum whether you do anything or not. I have been with women who just lay there and expected me to make them cum, and women who came just from me holding one finger against their clit for them to run against.

A good woman takes care of herself. You sex god method, keep up your stamina and work your kegels. If a woman does not cum, it is her problem. Even if you are a 2 pump chump she should be getting off from other ways as well.

It is no secret women like guys that last longer than a minute. It gives them time to enjoy, themselves and cum at their own schedule. Just keep doing your thing, and sooner or later you will come across a breed of woman that cums whether you participated or not. Those are the fun ones.

AnneStaz · 2019-11-05T13:49:24+00:00

95% of the time I give her a fantastic one with my tongue before hand. Not sure if they cum or not during sex, sometimes maybe? I don't trust it. I can tell with my tongue though

Speedracer1111 · 2019-11-05T15:53:49+00:00

A woman not coming doesn't mean she isn't having a good time. Had a Malaysian plate that came once or twice out of the ten times we fucked. Only texted and met to fuck, but she kept coming back.
Men are doing 80-100% of the work. If she can't cum while laying on her back or her ass is up in the air, that's on her.
Women and pussies come in different sizes and shapes. Leep the ones add value and work with you and your dick.

RioPerez · 2019-11-05T17:06:51+00:00

You should find a way to make your women cum. When a women has her sexual desires thoroughly satisfied from you it adds an additional layer of attraction that can't be easily broken.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-11-05T17:12:31+00:00

Usually. Some cum every time. My BPD wife of 11 years barely ever did. I quit giving a shit and stopped trying. It was a control thing.

I've been with a few women that cum basically the entire time. Those are really fun lol

I have to say that I've always been into the Asian style of sex and approach to it my entire life, probably more old school Japanese than the Thai or Indian stuff although that is fun. But it's a different mindset. I feel like a lot of guys here just want to get it in and pump away and blow their load and be done. That's all good. But I'm more into being in tune with where she's at, getting are breathing and movements all synced up. It's nice.

One time and one only, it was with wife number 1 (not the 11 year one) before we were married, our breathing and heartbeats actually synced up. It was fucking insane. Both came at the exact same instant. Zap. I've pumped and dumped many a time, but believe me, as someone who has experienced both, it's not even close to the former.

That's the type of shit that bonds her to you.

Mouad69 · 2019-11-05T16:38:46+00:00

You guys are getting laid?

pebblefromwell · 2019-11-05T18:45:01+00:00

They lie about it then complain about it

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-11-06T02:23:54+00:00

Can someone help me find the clitoris on a girl?

ImBackBitch926 · 2019-11-05T17:41:27+00:00

I've been married before. And about 8 girls total I think. A few of them i didnt feel anything really and they was very hard to cum. A few of them came really easy. The last one I had came so easy and so many times I loved it. But unfortunately she turned weird on me the next day. And blocked me.

CainPrice · 2019-11-05T13:52:41+00:00

Often enough. This depends more on the woman than on you. Some women have multiple orgasms just from you barely fingering them for a bit. Others you can go down on for an hour, and they enjoy it, but it just doesn't happen. Some women have an easier time having orgasms at the right points in their cycle.

But most women enjoy sex even when they don't have an orgasm.

MattyAnon · 2019-11-05T14:21:22+00:00

So, do you folks see female orgasms often?

Haha yes. Focus on yourself and she'll love it. She should be cumming during sex though.

Pdubzilla- · 2019-11-05T14:09:15+00:00

If it bothers you, learn how to make them cum. I am of the opinion that you "keep them cumming, to keep them coming back." That doesn't mean you need to "worry" about it though - there's a difference.

It's okay to try to learn what they like and give it to them. The more the woman enjoys the sex, the more I enjoy it.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-11-05T17:22:41+00:00

All the time, sometimes from me just giving them a fierce look. /lulz

TFWnoLTR · 2019-11-05T17:24:13+00:00

It varies depending on the woman. Some get off really easy, like 5 minutes in and I can feel her Vag muscles pulsating and shes squirming in ecstacy. Most are more difficult than that and require sustained rhythm to get there. A few just didn't seem capable of orgasming from penetrative sex with me, but they enjoyed it anyways.

The important thing is not to try too hard. I just managed to find this one motion one time that felt really good to me and was a nice break from hard thrusts, and it turned out it felt good because I was dragging the head of my dick against her g spot with a lot of pressure and I have yet to find a woman who doesn't enjoy that. I even figured out how to do it from behind too.

Focus on having sex that you enjoy, just sprinkle on plenty of foreplay first and you'll find things that are mutually enjoyable by chance as you gain more experience.

Drakane1 · 2019-11-05T18:34:30+00:00

bro just ask her what she wants. start from a conversation of if she masturbates what feels good for her if she has any fantasy. the more time you spend with her the easier it gets. also girls like to feel like they are so hot they made you loose control and went cave men on their ass .

also rub their clit girls are dumb and dont realize most of them cant cum from just vaginal stimulation. if shes riding make a fist and put your knuckles against it if you're hitting from the back reach around

XXXMersenne · 2019-11-05T19:16:31+00:00

They will after you watch this
Very Good Forum Post on the topic
Also check out Good Looking Loser's Guides on the topic.
NSFW Article
Ian Kerner's She Comes First book is good too.
and finally Sex God Method.

Make sure you try lots of things that's how I got used to it. Most of the time, to get girls to cum I just eat her out (she's hot enough), then add a finger or two, slowly & get a consistent rhythm going on her G-Spot (easily felt after lots of foreplay before - or just go in & up lol) then lick & circular rub simultan until she comes after a few mins. She should be shaking when she gets up to suck & fuck you.

Then I just fuck her hard and angle my cock so every stroke is perpendicular with her vagina and each thrust is super-smooth. Proceed with hair pulling, spanking mid-heavy choking. In other words I let go and go with what feels hot. fuck what you've seen in porn. I can barely watch it anymore cus they fucking suck compared to my tastes; I reeeeally like girls & love seeing them get off, and can tell when it's fake - which is so annoying and so I got good at making it real!

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2019-11-05T19:48:40+00:00

Please refer to Commandment XIV

Whisper · 2019-11-05T19:54:00+00:00

Hehehe.

alpha_bravado · 2019-11-05T20:27:11+00:00

How many people here are cut vs uncut?

Foolishoe · 2019-11-05T22:54:44+00:00

Every woman is different. There are five million things holding back the female orgasm and 40 things working to make it happen.

If you can't get them to orgasm I say talk with them about it, work with them on it. Don't waste your time with plates but if they are good people and they are good to you, you can certainly learn a ton by putting in the effort to learn that specific body. There are also plenty of resources out there that can help.

The basic rules I use are

Tons of pre-sex shit: I'm always touching them, slapping the ass, grabbing body parts. I'll hold them for a quick moment and a deep kiss during the day etc. I keep them knowing that all I'm focused on is getting them wherever and ripping them clothes off.

Anticipation of the experience: When it's time to get down, I am very slow and soft and light with the tips of my fingers, typically I'll move them around, look them over and tell them how hot they are, touch my favorite parts, pull them to me.

Push and Pull: Do not get the clothes off and dive strait down onto the clit and hammer away. Work all the parts of the body, focus on the outer thighs, come back up to the chest, go down again with your hands. Some women prefer fingers over the mouth, but spit is essential no matter what.

Relieve her anxiety of your expectation: If she knows you have feelings about her orgasm, that wont help. Be frank and open, it will happen when it happens and you will work at it while also pleasing yourself. It sometimes takes months to learn a woman well enough to get the first orgasm, or it happens the first time, every time because SHE understands how to orgasm and doesn't need any help.

Soft or Hard: Some women need a very aggressive touch, some women you touch too hard and it rubs away the pleasure literally. I would say most women want very light touches until very wet and aroused, then progressively harder to a point, but never as hard as you can.

2 inside: Go do research, two fingers of one hand making a 'come here' movement upwards softly with pressure, mouth or fingers on the clit rotating with more pressure and focus at the top of your rotation at 12 o clock.

It's not a fucking porno: Many things only apply to specific women. Slapping, anal, pinching, biting, degrading talk, scratching all MIGHT turn her on more or it MIGHT fuck everything up for you. Don't be a mute fucking retard, talk to her about this shit. I love to talk kink early on.

I bring it up as a conversation I was having with other women I know better. "I was talking to an old friend and she says the donkey punch can be great if performed properly, you ever try something crazy like that? It's abuse and you gotta sign a contract or something."

I've had women I hardly knew reveal some of the dirtiest shit I couldn't even imagine. They love talking about it openly and they love to have a man recognize they've done such things and approves of it. Get's them excited in advance. I say never shame a woman for her previous sexual acts, she's ready to do most of it again and with you specifically.

Disgusted by something they bring up? Don't do those things with her, simply state you aren't into it but what else does she love? She loves being choked? How hard?

You aren't going to marry her. She's not gross she probably bleaches that dirty asshole.

KillaJewels · 2019-11-05T15:41:29+00:00

If it’s a ONS, sometimes you just don’t know. It’s also more challenging to make a ONS cum bc you simply don’t know what she likes/doesn’t like.

Some girls get off mostly to penetration, others mostly to clit stimulation. Some like a mix of the two. Just depends. I also find it’s not all about the dick game.

You gotta spice it up with some choking, slapping and hair pulling. Move her around a lot and switch positions. Don’t be afraid to be aggressive but also gentle in certain moments; you don’t wanna break the pussy. Watch the waterworks go off when you do all this. I got more if you wanna hear it.

Generally, you can tell from plates and LTRs pretty easily over time once they’re in O-town.

PiperBigBell · 2019-11-05T16:26:47+00:00

When you see women shake a certain way they can't fake that. When they squirt real hard and start convulsing they can't fake that either. That's what I aim for. Otherwise they really just need to be pounded until they pass out.

MR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2019-11-05T16:48:18+00:00

Some do, some don't. It's about chemistry and also about what type of girl she is.

The extremes: I've had 2 women in my life who would cum within 60 seconds, sometimes even less, kinda like a guy with premature ejaculation. I've had some who could never cum no matter what.

Right now they cum often enough that I don't worry about my ability.

[deleted] · 2019-11-05T17:23:33+00:00

Some women won't cum, it's not our fault. Women should know how to give pleasure by themselves first.

redvelvet_oreo · 2019-11-05T18:21:46+00:00

It shouldn’t matter to you unless it’s clear your not pleasing her at all. Girls won’t cum every time and some times they cum in 30 seconds and multiple times. If you need an indicator of her cuming she usually looks like a a nut job having a seizure making all kinds of noises.

ToraChan23 · 2019-11-05T18:26:46+00:00

After the first time I've ever made a woman cum, sex was never satisfying for me until I could do it every time.

It is A LOT more difficult for ONSs and plates you don't give a fuck about however.

asdfvegas · 2019-11-05T18:29:55+00:00

I tend to only have sex with women who are able to cum (not necessarily easily, but are able to during either them receiving oral from me or with PIV, not just by themselves or with their vibrator), and the best sex I recall are the times when they cum while I’m fucking them, and better yet when they cum as I’m cumming inside them.

I’ve dropped plates who aren’t sexually responsive, or who are unable to cum, no matter how attractive they might seem, or how much interpersonal chemistry we have.

My pleasure during sex is partly derived from their pleasure, so it’s important for me to know that they’re having an explosive time too.

no_re-entry · 2019-11-05T18:30:02+00:00

They usually cum but not always for me. Once I was talking about it with a chick, I know we trade their advice with a grain of salt, but she said the orgasm isn’t important. Sex is still fun and feels great so they don’t care as long as you don’t care.

Yes being able to make them orgasm makes them even easier to wrap around your finger, but if you can’t do it make sure they still have an awesome time.

lintamacar · 2019-11-05T18:33:15+00:00

best way

nycballetlover · 2019-11-05T18:39:24+00:00

My SB has never ever experienced orgasm, even on her own. Ive tried real hard, but shes not into letting me. She enjoys oral and penetration though. It takes the pressure off me tbh.

Alzatorus · 2019-11-05T18:47:45+00:00

All three of my plates squirt and in very different ways 🤷🏼‍♂️ - just got to learn your girl. One requires a dick in and no movement with a clit rub, another has to get the right rocking motion below and the other from on top. Just experiment. Unlike us guys (pump and dump) it is my strong belief that every girl is different and can get there if you listen to her body. I’ve only ever had a problem with one and she was seriously messed up...

Elephant_777 · 2019-11-05T18:55:49+00:00

Yes. But only because I can't fucking last to save my life. So I learnt how to use my tongue.

Never listen to anything she says during sex (within reason of course) but how her body responds. The body never lies.

[deleted] · 2019-11-05T19:24:23+00:00

yes constantly they can't even walk most days

chachaChad · 2019-11-05T19:55:23+00:00

Different women cum at different rates. I was with one that came multiple times from very little stimulation. Only a small number I've seen have been able to cum from PIV and that really had to do with what effort they put in.

It's been my experience that when your ons/plate doesn't come, you're not setting yourself up for repeat business. They might come back for one more round but the best way to ensure the come back or remain open is to make sure they cum. I make it a point to find out what makes a girl wild. I try to get her to talk about what she really, really gets turned on by and use that to rev her up. I enjoy listening to what a girl's kink is. I try and use a key word or talk a certain way when a girl orgasms so that, later, I can use that key word or phrase to excite her into having sex again.

I lost a true cock gobbler plate because I never really cared if she came or not. I think I was with her maybe 10 times and I didn't even bother to think about making her cum. She moved right on once she realized I had no interest in reciprocating.

XT3M3 · 2019-11-05T20:08:42+00:00

yea. just gotta find out what gets each one going. the inly girls i havent been able to get to cum were the prudes in my bag.

pyth0ns · 2019-11-05T20:31:34+00:00

I knew VERY early on that my d1ck does not make a girl cum!
This is why I perfected my finger playing technique, where I can make them cum all the time. (I don't eat girls out, not for me)

When played right (especially if you've two pump chumped it)
Take charge and play with your girl (even if she is like no,no,no it's ok)
Learn how to do this! It isn't simply poking your fingers in and out or slapping it like you see in porn - you need to figure out how to gently message the clit and work the stimulation up slowly (find the man in the canoe, as they say - make sure it's wet/lubricated and work it)
Once they've gone - generally the 5-15min it can take to do so, allows me to get hard again!
And that is when the even wilder sex begins

AmaniMomo1 · 2019-11-05T20:46:48+00:00

Porn has ruined orgasm for us all

Don_Draper27 · 2019-11-05T20:47:39+00:00

Like other guys mentioned, I can't often really tell when or how many times a girl has came. Some clues I've had in the past are when a girl gets quiet, tenses up, and like almost tries to slow you down or tries to hold on to something like the sheets. I'll get this a few times but I also don't really put too much attention on it. If I focus too much on her then I'm sort of robbing myself of the experience. If I focus too much on myself then I'll probably cum too fast. I more or less just focus on the moment and try to keep a good pace going. I "go with the flow" and it seems to work out pretty well for me.

Something I do have to mention though is that my first time with any one girl is always one of the worst times I'll have with her. It's not bad, it's just definitely not in my top 3 fuck sessions with them, and it's normal. First times are awkward and you don't really trust or feel very comfortable with them either, especially for ONS.

Example: I was having trouble getting hard the first time I had sex with my LTR. I was really nervous because she was the hottest girl I'd been with. I was too in my head so our first time wasn't magical or anything worthy for PornHub. Of course later on the sex turned out great.

So just read Sex God Method and also keep in mind that if you want to have more quality sex sessions, you'll need to bed your plates a few times before you 2 get comfortable enough to really make some magic happen.

Zanford · 2019-11-05T21:45:50+00:00

It varies tremendously from woman to woman. I've had some who had a bunch of orgasms every time, even during anal (despite the lack of direct physical stimulation during anal), others who rarely did. Technique matters, but a lot less than all the terrible ego-bait jokes about it would have you believe. More important is how into you she is generally, but even more importantly is just women differ (probably genetic, like how some people are more ticklish than others).

btw almost every girl likes being told to touch herself during sex (aka flick her clit while you smash), so that's a pretty easy way to make her have (more) orgasms during sex if you want.

The best thing you can do is not let it get into your head, just let sex be fun. That's the mindset that will result in the best time for both of you. Girls want a guy who seems like he knows what he's doing in bed, not one who's nervous.

IME fingering or going down on a girl doesn't do much; it may make her orgasm, but she doesn't seem to really care about it beyong that moment, it doesn't bond her to you the way sex does. (In terms of bonding or emotions, girls blowing you seems to do a lot more for their attachment to you than you going down on them.) Some girls can orgasm from foreplay (spanking seems to be the most likely), others not.

JRSBOOM13 · 2019-11-06T00:21:44+00:00

Every time I fuck them.

LordFlakkko · 2019-11-06T01:34:51+00:00

But you can feel if the woman is orgasming. One of my plates she gets very wet and I feel rapid pulses in her vagina. Another plate tenses up and then after she orgasms she kind of goes limp.

__TheDon__ · 2019-11-06T01:50:33+00:00

Foreplay like many on here mentioned. Finger the fuck out of her before sticking your dick in. Put your index finger and your middle finger in her pussy while rubbing her clit with your thumb. After you do that for a while, I guarantee you she will cum.

Thank me later.

MountainFact9 · 2019-11-06T03:01:29+00:00

all the time, pound away and rub that clit with grace

Metalgear222 · 2019-11-06T16:40:09+00:00

Yeah, but it depends. Some girls use vibrators every day and it’s very difficult to cum without it. Others don’t even masturbate and cum literally every 60 seconds.

Biggest factor is how sensitive they are though. typically the bigger the clit the more they cum from what I’ve seen.

Massap24 · 2019-11-05T13:53:02+00:00

Probably maybe? Definitely when I use my hands/mouth. Through PIV I’m not sure and idgaf, I consider that my time to enjoy myself. If you try to get them all to cum, all the time you’ll drive yourself crazy.

Raleigh0311 · 2019-11-05T17:01:57+00:00

You should be making them cum. I’ve only had one woman who was hard as fuck to get off, despite throwing my whole tool box of tricks at her. But even then, I could get her off. It just took more work than she was worth. I’m over 40 and have had lots of women. They are pretty easy to please if you know what you’re doing. The one who doesn’t cum regularly should be an extremely rare exception.

It’s more likely that they won’t cum from intercourse alone. But you should have a broader skill set than that.

[deleted] · 2019-11-05T17:57:51+00:00

Shitpost. If they come back for more, who cares whether they came or not. Women dont care about sex nearly as much as men, the male and female orgasms are basically uncomparable.

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