I can't get laid

MrBowlfish · 2016-08-02T22:01:39+00:00

Tinder sucks. Online dating sucks. Those chicks are floating in a sea of dicks and even if you are Chad, you are just drowned in all the noise. Much better to daygame. Are you out on the streets or malls in your free time chatting up hot girls? Are you going out on weekends to bars/clubs and chatting up hot girls?

SuckingOffMyDad · 2016-08-02T23:07:30+00:00

Here is the only thing you need to know:

Where you are on the 1-10 scale in terms of physical attractiveness is your indication of how much you need to work in order to get laid.

The science you need to live by:

If you're a 1, you're going to have to be one of those guys who constantly read motivational articles and apply strategies in order to get that one girl who will be excited to sleep with you for every 500 girls you talk to.
If you're a 5, you can get laid tomorrow as long as you cast a wide net and talk to enough girls.
If you're a 10, you'd be fucking women left and right.

The one caveat that you need to be aware of:

You need to have your shit in order. That means no camo shorts, no ugly haircut, no lack of a social life, no lack of interests, no awkward social behavior, no dirty or disgusting apartment, no excess weight, no body odor, no lack of direction/plan when it comes to what you want to get out of a situation and so on. In other words, you need to be a normal, functioning human being before a woman will even consider fucking you, and that applies to every guy who is below 8-10.

The takeaway for you:

Most likely you're around 5 on the scale, which is what most guys are. However, like most guys you're probably failing to meet the basic requirements that I listed above. Either you dress ugly, or you're weird, or you don't have a social life or you do something else that turn women off. Maybe you suck talking to over text? Maybe you're fat? Maybe you have an ugly face and don't know how to groom yourself and take good photos to compensate for that? Maybe you're a fucking slob? Or maybe you're boring? Maybe you don't know how to have fun at all?

If you think I'm right about this, then forget about women completely and start taking care of yourself. Learn what it means to be a functioning, decent-looking and happy adult with normal social skills. Read a lot. Not just Red Pill-stuff, but articles and information from all sides and perspectives (and take it all with a grain of salt). Once that is in order (and again, assuming that you're a 4-5 or better) you should be able to get a ton of dates as long as you swipe right enough.

TL;DR: You don't need to be attractive to get laid. You just need to be NORMAL AND NON-UNATTRACTIVE and talk to a lot of women simultaneously.

P.S. You're only 20. You're still young. These things take time to figure out if you're an average man. You're not the only man not getting laid at your age, and you're not going to find immediate gratification here. Focus on figuring this stuff out and you'll be having a lot of sex eventually, but you have to be willing to work for it first. Just like all the average men that came before you.

beginner_ · 2016-08-03T05:19:40+00:00

I'm 5'11" in shape and dress well. I don't like my face however

Here you have it. You lack confidence. Your issue is your state of mind. It's negative. You can't successfully hit on girls with this mindset. You will undermine yourself.

Don't text. Texting is for logistics only. On tinder, only your looks matter. You need appropriate pictures. One in which you are actively doing something (whatever your hobby is. best is some sport), one in which you are having fun in a group and the group has lots of girls in it, like one of these party shots and a professional one.

terminal_block · 2016-08-02T22:00:30+00:00

Dude, no one here will tell you why you can't get laid. We can't see you act, we can't hear you speak, and you provide a half-ass description of the situation.

Identify your problem. Fix it. Voila! You're getting laid.

TooMuchToDoo · 2016-08-02T22:31:42+00:00

Kick the desperation and STOP CARING. You've gotta let go of the desperation if you want to attract anyone. Additionally, keep tweaking your tinder profile-- if the fish don't bite, sometimes you need a new rod and reel. Increase your match radius, change some pictures, edit your bio, and always start a conversation with your matches even if she doesn't look as great as you originally thought she did. With experience comes knowledge, and you're not going to attract anyone if you don't start somewhere. Max out your swipes each day so you can start having conversations with women, even if you don't want to meet up.

the_red_monk · 2016-08-02T22:31:20+00:00

Sounds like you're getting laid but aren't succeeding with new prospects. Try approaching women in public. Dating apps are a crutch and skew the sexual market place in favor of women.

SetConsumes · 2016-08-02T22:55:31+00:00

Go meet women in other places. You obviously can get laid since you're fucking your ex.

Lol, be careful with your words, be literally true with them , or you will brainwash yourself with false beliefs.

crazycattime · 2016-08-03T00:24:36+00:00

Meeting and dating/sexing girls is a skill you can learn.
Go to the RSD youtube channel and watch a few videos until you find a guy you resonate with. Go to the yareally archive and read.
Ultimately, you have to practice, and that means going out and talking to people. You can do it, just keep trying.

mattizie · 2016-08-03T01:21:08+00:00

Go pay for a hooker.

supersonic-turtle · 2016-08-03T01:48:29+00:00

I have a friend like you, he's fairly attractive and works in a garage same stats as you pretty much. He always has the finest women to date, I said "hey man how do you get these fine women" he said "hold out" to me that was an eye opener, I'm just slaying from all angles, he has the idea man, just hold out, a good looking one will notice I guarantee it. If you want to go down my road drop a few smv points, I'm an arguable 6, I go for 3-5, sometimes 6 or if I'm lucky 7-8(rarely). Basically choose to be a man whore or wait for a good one, that's it, we can't all be Ryan Reynolds

awalt_cupcake · 2016-08-03T01:55:20+00:00

HOOKERS

The__Tren__Train · 2016-08-03T06:27:25+00:00

UP THE DOSE

frerri · 2016-08-03T10:13:59+00:00

Go to the gym. Go to the club. Approach random girl. Grab her waist. Recieve slap across face. Repeat.

BusterVadge · 2016-08-03T15:04:36+00:00

If you don't like your own face, it will show through in every single one of your social interactions.

"I met my girlfriend on tinder" - No wonder she cheated on you. Tinder is the worst place to meet an LTR.

"I don't have girls in my social group and I work in a garage so I don't meet girls at work." - Get a hobby. I travel so I don't work with any women, but I have several hobbies/activities that allow me to interact with women.

Summarized:

Get a hobby. This is the most important thing. IT will widen your social circle.

Tinder is fine for hookups, NOT LTR.

Work on yourself. You're not depressed yet, that's good, but you need to learn to love who you are and always be improving.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-08-03T15:20:49+00:00

Explain to us how you completed or are working on every single point the side bar explains about self improvement, and then maybe it would be worth helping your game.

hawkeaglejesus · 2016-08-03T16:33:06+00:00

What do I do??? Girls don't want me

Read the fucking sidebar ie. Lift, get paid, do interesting shit.

"There is nothing I can say to you that will magically make you not a bitch" -GayLubeOil

RedAsBlood · 2016-08-04T14:43:20+00:00

You are a man. Men don't get handed free shit. If you want something, you have to work for it.

Being "in shape and dressing well" does not entitle you to getting pussy. Get over yourself.

Tinder and online dating are a shit show.

You need day game. Go talk to real women in real life and develope your game.

Ditch the whiny entitled attitude. Women smell it from a mile away.

alphabachelor · 2016-08-02T23:32:15+00:00

You need to start submitting field reports of your dates/approaches on here and /r/seduction.

boggy-b · 2016-08-03T00:41:52+00:00

holy shit dude. SACK UP.

I'm 31, and let me tell you. Women will NEVER be as attractive, as available, or as DTF as they are for you RIGHT NOW. You're tall, 20, and even a bit muscular? Jesus Christ try hitting 28 as a 5'6" nebbish when everyone is suddenly married, engaged, or about to be engaged and come back to me with your complaints about finding someone. Right now NOBODY is lumpy, annoying, or defeated in your life. You have no real obligations. GO FORTH AND FUCK.

You sound like a drug addict, dude. Addicted to self-loathing. What's that saying -- "A heroin addict will go through ten years of addiction just to avoid two weeks of pain," i.e. withdrawal? Yeah. Withdrawal for you means stopping being a bitch and going up to a woman to ask her why her breath stinks. The trouble is you've got two weeks of rejection in front of you and you can't see past it. Well guess what START LOOKING bro because it's only on YOU to get over yourself.

GO TALK TO THEM. DO IT. STOP SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF AND DO IT. THEN DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. AND AGAIN. FOUR WEEKS FROM NOW YOU'LL NEED TO BUY A CREDENZA TO HOLD ALL THE PLATES YOU'VE GOT. TRUST ME. NO REGRETS. FUCK YOU DO IT.

Hunts_Alone · 2016-08-02T21:55:55+00:00

Stop trying. Focus on yourself. If you can't be happy when you're single, you can never have a healthy relationship because you're dependent on that person.

BurnerTRPask · 2016-08-02T21:56:48+00:00

Better yourself. I'm willing to bet your ego is fucking with your view of yourself.

Go to the gym and lift, do what you can with your face; new haircuts, facial hair etc.

Get interesting hobbies and realize your better than most women. I'm also going to bet that you're confidence is on the ground.

casemodsalt · 2016-08-02T22:55:26+00:00

I'm 30 and let me tell you...just be assertive. Ask one to hang out in person. Be confident.

Heck, emulate anyone you think they would bang. Be someone else. It works, trust me.

Title	I can't get laid
Author	bobmarley9
Upvotes	7
Comments	50
Date	August 2, 2016 9:52 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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