Lost work - sexual harassment

mugatucrazypills · 2020-02-26T16:23:14+00:00

Ditch the habit. Don't touch women at work. Not if they explicitly ask for it, not ever. Males is up to you, frankly you can have fight club with the other men and I bet it would not matter to HR. (non-sexual)Touch is an important physiological part of the human experience and a connection to your fellow humans. Infants are not touched "fail to thrive" and die. Here's hoping your coworkers react the same way.

If it ever comes up with HR tell them, you're a homosexual germaphobe with special needs(whatever that means) and immediately file a Human Rights complaint. Just make up random shit and keep them in paperwork for next 10 years, since that's what women do. You'll fit in better at work, and become unfireable.

Ill_mumble_that · 2020-02-26T15:16:26+00:00

Well since you are leaving anyway, you should fuck both of them.

matthewrichards3186 · 2020-02-26T15:00:21+00:00

Interactive with women as little as possible at work. I had to learn this myself. Most women aren't insane like you're describing. But ALL women can end your position/career.

Rage8150 · 2020-02-26T18:11:47+00:00

As someone who's been working in a white collar corporate environment my whole career and never had any issues whatsoever I can only say you're clearly doing something wrong. Don't give anyone the opportunity to have that kind of leverage over you. For example I sometimes go out to grab lunch with male colleagues but NEVER with just a single female colleague because they can say you did X, Y or Z and there's no way to prove you didn't. When it comes to #MeToo culture it's the opposite of the way the law works.... you're assumed guilty unless you can prove otherwise. So don't give them the chance. Your career is way too important to risk on a woman looking for attention and/or who wants to get rid of you for their own reasons.

Subutai_Baghatur · 2020-02-26T15:46:17+00:00

Go to your doctor, explain how stressed and depressed you are (even if it’s bullshit) and get a sick note for the remainder of your time there.

In future, avoid talking to girls as much as you can out of earshot of anyone, as well as physical contact.

I can’t imagine this false allegation happening to someone who the girls in a workplace enjoying ogling and being around and secretly want to fuck so consider what may have caused her to lie about this about YOU. Do you give off a creepy vibe... Do you come across as weak and timid... Are you words incongruent with your behaviour/posture etc? Change what you can.

Nergaal · 2020-02-26T19:49:00+00:00

Somebody told me an interesting perspective on equality in the workplace. If you are harsh with a male, you are an asshole. If you are equally harsh t a female, you are a misogynist.

instasnickers · 2020-02-26T18:31:03+00:00

Sounds like it's the easiest excuse to let someone go nowadays. Might not even be the result of complaints against you. Might be poor management or someone has a relative to hire.

About the girl who lied about you calling her cute, she's not trying to make you look bad, she's trying to make herself look better to others.

Picture a paralysed woman on a wheelchair telling her friends she had to reject this man she was corresponding with because she clearly deserve better. She doesn't, but has a need to let others know whoever might look at her. And sometimes, they make it up.

Edit: a word

ErectileDistention · 2020-02-26T20:51:07+00:00

As a fellow European let me explain this from a viewpoint the Americans on here don't understand. In northern Europe the labor laws/unions work as such that it's almost impossible to fire somebody that has a full time position. Because of this there's something called a probation period (typically 6 months) during which they can evaluate you, and if needed let you go without the mess firing a full time employee would entail. In your case the queen bees didn't like you and the manager can't fire them so in order to keep the peace it's a no brainier to not keep you on. Don't say you were fired because of sexual harassment because it will be misinterpreted. You were not given a full time position because you weren't liked. Take it as a lesson and consider looking for a job in a different environment. Also don't be too quick to dismiss studying. In Northern Europe it's free and the jobs they lead to often have a more mature working environment, where the high school girl antics are less common.

wawakaka · 2020-02-26T17:48:25+00:00

learn from your mistakes. you are getting off lightly. could have been worse.

stop thinking women are rational and logical, stop thinking women are men, stop thinking women are higher thinking animals, stop thinking women are moral, honest, and pure, just remember many women hate men. they will destroy you if they have the chance or to save their own skin.

urbanfoh · 2020-02-26T18:44:10+00:00

Btw. The last one... Has some vibe..... It's the same vibe my narcissist ex had but I don't know this new girl so much that I can really judge. Next time we worked she was very sweet and helpful.

A side note to your case: Always trust this instinct. Its an evolutionary skill to detect humans biggest threat - other humans.

It is possible that she conspires against you to satisfy her power fantasies. Gain as much distance as possible to her or satisfy her narcissism.

CareIsMight · 2020-02-26T19:43:27+00:00

Personally I'd file a complaint against her. If you can make the complaint compelling enough to make her rescind her statement or even apologise altogether, since she is making a false claim to begin with, I reckon you could pretty much retain your position. It also depends who your manager is, what your relationship with them is like and how you can make your case. If you have male co-workers, and possibly female co-workers, who can also provide character reports and statement on your behaviour at work, that would be great as well.

I've worked in hospitality and it's a lot more relaxed. I'm good friends with many of my female co-workers but you always know where the boundaries are, especially when they say shit like "you know I could make a sexual harassment claim against you at any time". Yep, I've had this said to me a few times now.

Good luck, stand for your rights.

Zanford · 2020-02-26T20:32:15+00:00

Your story/writing is all over the place, it's hard to tell what's going on. If you speak the way you write, there's a good chance you give people the wrong ideas a lot. Brutal, but true.

Do not fucking touch colleagues, not even a shoulder tap. Don't call them 'sweet'.

If you're leaving the job in two weeks anyway, none of this matters, unless it might follow you to the new job or you're need references.

rugged79 · 2020-02-27T06:25:53+00:00

"Don't try to understand women. Women understand women and they hate each other."

Al Bundy

fkinguy223 · 2020-02-27T09:45:00+00:00

Sounds like you work in IT, well if that's the case, stick to being more antisocial (professional, respectful and distant) with your co-workers, works better, you don't want to get involved with them anyway.

If you want to be, whatever you are right now, do it with other colleagues from other parts of the company, not with the direct ones, especially if you don't know them for long.

Friends are you enemies in your company especially if you are doing your job properly.

Cryptomineand69 · 2020-02-28T04:24:57+00:00

Whip your dick out and do the helicopter thing. If those bitches want sexual harassment then give them the real deal

legend503 · 2020-02-26T16:53:49+00:00

Don’t do anything. Either of these women can end your career at any point in time (yes, even after you leave). Word gets around.

Taipoe · 2020-02-26T18:32:56+00:00

Legit any woman can ruin your entire career. Try to interact with them as little as possible. The less they know you the better

alphakari · 2020-02-26T16:39:30+00:00

The fact you have an issue with not one, but three women, says it's you, not them.

Quit being a fucking creeper retard. A job isn't the place to push your frame on other people. Know your place.

longjeep2005 · 2020-02-26T16:45:40+00:00

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omega05 · 2020-02-26T16:47:53+00:00

Yea i dont understand are you saying someone filed a suit against you and you lost your job or are you just telling us things you experience at work?

White_Phillip · 2020-02-26T17:27:22+00:00

Was this at a restaurant?

throwaway90091234 · 2020-02-26T18:37:33+00:00

What country are you in?

cadaemos · 2020-02-27T08:53:29+00:00

Correct me if I am wrong. When I read this I feel like you were trying to create a nice lil social environment. Some good vibes and bonds and fun. Don't do that.

You are a man, not a bitch. Be competitive. You should not even be minding the women. Just keep it proffesional and for the rest, stay away from that shit, because:

Women at work talk a lot of bullshit. To men they like, to the boss and especially to other female coworkers. You have to be nice, but have clear boundaries. Finish your work good, but dont let them add work to your pile "thats not how it works".
They can not be plates anyways. It could completely ruin your work if you fuck a female coworker. They are a no no.

Bro, focus on other stuff. Invest, take a hobby. You be the man that is busy getting better than the others so you can get a higher function. You be the man that works out after work and doesnt have time for bullshit aka them. You be the man that's on good terms with other men.

Women don't respect men that are nice to them all the time. They respect men that are better than them and couldn't care less.

noserotoninforu · 2020-02-26T16:57:03+00:00

feminism is cancer

SoA_MC · 2020-02-26T18:18:04+00:00

Could be cries for attention, it makes a girl look attractive and will garner sympathy from losers if she can say she was the victim of sexual harassment at work. Usually the girls self esteem is low if this is the case and you are just unlucky.

Or it could be pure narcissism, if she is attractive and she knows she is, but doesn’t find you attractive.

RodDiddy · 2020-02-26T21:43:45+00:00

Ive worked with some of the same people for 20yrs. Cant remember the last time any of them touched me or me them. If youre going around regularly poking and proding people to get their attention...its invasive, and unnerving. Cut it out.

Domebeers · 2020-02-26T18:46:13+00:00

There are women everywhere, I don't understand you guys who hit on women you work with. Are you that desperate? Again, there are women everywhere. Literally.

DO NOT HIT ON THE GIRLS YOU WORK WITH PERIOD. I don't care how highly you have misjudged your SMV.

If a girl you work with wants to fuck you, she will make the first move. If she isn't, she doesn't want to fuck you.

That said, this tale seems strange. If you get fired for sexual harassment they fire you, they don't let you linger for two weeks. What's the real story? Did you quit?

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-02-26T15:13:54+00:00

Yes. Your first mistake was working with women, the second mistake (and I KNOW I’m 100% correct on this IF you live in a multicultural country) is you’re working with. BLACK WOMEN (affirmative action yay!)....the worst of the worst.

Get a better job and stop asking us how to neuter yourself trying to make freaks and mentally insane bitches treat you normally Sir FriendZone

legend503 · 2020-02-26T16:25:20+00:00

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jackandjill22 · 2020-02-26T21:00:16+00:00

Damn.

jrterry1969 · 2020-02-26T21:20:07+00:00

This is something of a legal question. The only negative employment action so far is your boss being told you called some girl cute. Could you be fired for allegedly saying that some girl was cute? Sure, you could be fired for anything, even a false allegation. I don't see any possible legal action against you for anything...but obviously you'd like a positive referral from this job in the future, but that isn't likely to make or break you either way.

I don't think you have done anything wrong, and I don't think anything bad will happen to you if you just go to work the next two weeks. I'd play it safe and not touch anyone unless you have to.

bicureyooz · 2020-02-26T19:00:11+00:00

I have developed a habit of tapping people on their arm or shoulder to get their attention since in my previous work it was a really loud environment and it's an effective way or directing someone's focus back to you

You're an alpha and you're in control of what habits you want to learn and un-learn.

Title	Lost work - sexual harassment
Author	legend503
Upvotes	70
Comments	171
Date	February 26, 2020 2:52 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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