LTR broke up with me.

northernCAgrown · 2020-10-29T02:07:52+00:00

She's dead to you now. Proceed as such.

Can you text a dead person? No, you can't.

Smooth-Notice · 2020-10-29T02:12:58+00:00

You’ll likely get some contrary advice here- but for next time if a girl says ljbf go yeah okay that’s cool (along those lines).

BUT you don’t actually be her friend. She texts you, be busy on your purpose and improving yourself. Be cordial and act like nothing is wrong but she is now on the back burner. NO texting conversations and chit chat as she will guaranteed text you about some innane bullshit.

She asks to hang out or “do friend shit”. No don’t, you’re busy and have other things to do.

As far as blocking her- I wouldn’t. It just makes you look butt hurt.

Your frame should appear as If it’s not a big deal, she didn’t matter that much.

Now all the above does not apply if you can’t be disciplined and not text/call her/pursue.

As for the rest of your life- you’re a free man. Happy for you. Start or keep lifting, focus on your mission, and fuck some other chicks. Chin up, soldier.

Peace-101 · 2020-10-29T04:32:13+00:00

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drsherbert · 2020-10-29T04:53:59+00:00

You need to process this shit on your own. Don’t block and don’t seek any closure. You’ll never get it. Leave her on read. She will be looking to validate her decision to leave you thru small talk. She needs to make sure you’re worse off without her. Go fuck some girls, then use this shit to fuel your desire to get better than anyone she ever deserves. Don’t get caught painting a picture in your head of this great mythical woman by only thinking about the good times. Remember all the shitty shit she did to you and don’t accept it from anyone in the future. Don’t even consider another LTR for at least another year.

HumanSockPuppet · 2020-10-29T07:40:53+00:00

But I don’t want to block her because she didn’t do anything wrong.

Yes she did. She decided you weren't worth her effort. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

Ghost the bitch and never look back.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-10-29T05:19:42+00:00

Good. Now you can plate bitches and focus on your "mission", like you should be doing.

alternateaccount49 · 2020-10-29T03:08:43+00:00

Don’t block her, but delete her number so you yourself are unable to reach out to her. Radio silence is crucial. It makes sense not to block in order to save face, but even more important than that is staying silent.

laiyaise · 2020-10-29T04:47:16+00:00

Abundance. Instead of saying "absolutely not" and losing frame, say "okay" in a nonchalant manner.

You don't have to do anything, you can just ghost her, but if you still like her maybe you'll still be able to plate her, or she'll talk to her friends about you, and so on. A very minor change that can present possible future opportunities for almost no effort. You being salty over it is going to just make her think she made the right move rather than allowing the hamster to do it's thing, making her obsessively deliberate over her decision.

constipulouspoon · 2020-10-29T03:33:06+00:00

If you're gonna stalk her and ruin your day all the time and obsess about her then block her. Otherwise just move on. I'm really starting to notice a trend of extreme overthinking in this sub. "If she reaches out, do this, pretend to be busy, don't text for x amount of hours, pretend to not care, show her you are more alpha now with her gone..."

Shit is becoming so overcomplicated. She's your ex, and she's gonna be looking for new dick soon most likely. If you don't care, then keep talking to her. If you do care, then just move on and look for another girl to fuck. Most guys who come here for advice can't handle staying in touch with an ex who's found a new rod to put inside of her, but I don't know much about you so I'm not going to jump to conclusions.

Just live your fuckin' life. If she reaches out, then know what it's probably for because AWALT and everything in the sidebar. Don't play stupid games unless for some reason your God-given only life purpose is to fuck her again, which it shouldn't be. Even then these textbook play-by-play instructions on what to do when texting a girl, especially an ex, is just noise dude. Just my opinion. I just can't imagine thinking so hard about these tiny little details every day of my life, it would drive me insane.

Be a man, find a dope purpose, and live a fulfilling life.

distraff · 2020-10-29T04:49:29+00:00

Don't block her but don't interact with her either.

roman99789 · 2020-10-29T06:43:55+00:00

Don't block, say you're still friends, but don't contact her. I've had regretful girlfriends come back years later wanting to smash. There's no point in reducing your options.

fuddubandha · 2020-10-29T05:18:29+00:00

It was your turn. Don't be friends. They always go from gf to friends so they can remind u at every step. Proceed to next plate.

tight_fucking_pussy · 2020-10-29T05:23:42+00:00

You should Hard Next her. Delete all her photos asap. Don't block her only if you think you can manage. Otherwise always block.

If you feel oneitis refer: The Rational Male: There is no ONE.

LazerSpin · 2020-10-29T05:34:56+00:00

she didn’t do anything wrong

What do you mean, bro? She dumped you. Boom, case closed. You will gain nothing and you will not win her back by reaching out.

Musicgoon · 2020-10-29T05:41:23+00:00

She broke up with you. Don't be a chump. Block her and find some other women.

EyeOnThePrize44 · 2020-10-29T10:39:58+00:00

She probably cheated on you

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2020-10-29T11:37:07+00:00

Don't feel a need to appeal to any morals apart from those of your self interest. You're strong enough; no one is going to punish you.

You don't want anything to do with her anymore. You feel in your deep subconscious knowledge any further association can only harm you. So block her because that's what you want to do. If some external observer doesn't like that you should be ready and eager for conflict.

Someone here, Smooth-Notice, said to maintain appearances and just don't contact her - that is a great machiavellian move, I'll second that. Don't do that if you're just wanting an excuse to not block her though.

cglehosit · 2020-10-29T12:26:34+00:00

No contact!

ricardomhv · 2020-10-29T13:27:19+00:00

Are you the kid from the sixth sense? No? The why the fuck would you speak to a dead person?

rp-Ubermensch · 2020-10-29T14:53:07+00:00

Man that's up to you and how you deal with your relationships and how much abundance you have.

If you have no abundance you'll find yourself scrolling her fb or whatever reminiscing on your past, with some drunk calls and texts sprinkled here and there.

If you can next her and move on, go out there and move on, live a richer or more exciting life, chances are you didn't get to go to clubs and parties much when you were in an LTR.

Once you bang a few chicks and have one or a few plates, then i don't see why you should block her, especially if you're in the same friend circles

SteveSan82 · 2020-10-29T04:29:08+00:00

You should have just said "ok" and deleted her from your phone. Getting all angry is beta and reminded her of why she didnt like you. If You contact her, she will tell everyone. "Oh mah gurrrrr he is messaging me again"

DevilMayCry · 2020-10-29T07:22:59+00:00

Ghost. She didn't value you so you are no longer a part of her life.

theredfinance · 2020-10-29T07:51:13+00:00

Block her , don t talk to her, don t even think you will get back with her. I think breaking up is the biggest form of dissrespect. It basically says: "i've seen how it's like to be with this person and i don t like it".

She probably has someone else in mind already.(girls ar e never single). I thought this couldn t be true in my case, but in the end, it was.

Use this breakup to fuel your motivation. The first 2 weeks will be shit and full of sadness. After that, there should be at least 3 4 months full of anger/motivation/energy to do better. Use it wisely!

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-10-29T09:27:58+00:00

Block or not, you never think of her again. The investment is down the drain and you no longer want to waste any more time on it.

As for the talk about frame, had you held one - this would not have been the outcome. So stfu and get your head right. She might as well be dead to you.

Go improve yourself now. Cheers.

throw-away-1709 · 2020-10-29T09:29:28+00:00

There is a sidebar about being dumped

pukima_sial · 2020-10-29T13:16:52+00:00

Read Iron Rule No 7. Internalize it. Then you go block

changy15 · 2020-10-29T16:00:27+00:00

Nah don’t block, but don’t reach out either. She’s likely to come back later as a plate at that point do as you wish. The most stress free care free option though is to just forget about it entirely. If she comes around next her.

In this world connections only ever benefit you if you play it right rather that is sexually or monetarily or with emotional support etc.

g0d_save_the_queen · 2020-10-29T16:10:45+00:00

keep her around as a mate,just dont talk beyond small talk on fb etc get swole and shit and upload pics and when she comes crawling slap her down as just a freind lol

Optionsmfd · 2020-10-29T16:11:36+00:00

full no contact

i tried to thread the needle and it ended up being a disaster........ then again i work with her so that makes it 2x as tough

i would block every thing possible

immediately read or re read rational male

its OVER dont root through the trash either

robbiedigital001 · 2020-10-29T05:44:01+00:00

Can you briefly tell me how the actual break up went? I can offer thoughts of how to move forward based on that

Warframe_Immortal · 2020-10-29T07:13:00+00:00

I'm strongly against NOT BLOCKING (or just removing someone). It actually shows you have no self-respect. It shows you secretly want her to have ways to contact you. It shows you have no position. It shows you are passive-aggressive (thus weak). It also gives here a lot of opportunities to make your life miserable (post pictures with her new boyfriend and so on).

Many of you in this subreddit you have to realize we are not robots. Removing her (maybe not blocking) is the right way to go. She is no longer in your life. Why you should be concerned how you look in her eyes when you are no longer together? She broke up with you, she already sees you as weak. Not having a position or accidentaly opening up some of her stories make you much more pathetic.

Title	LTR broke up with me.
Author	Donny577
Upvotes	102
Comments	99
Date	October 29, 2020 2:02 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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