Mid 20s. Don't give a shit about much

Ta9afire · 2020-06-14T10:29:09+00:00

Same here, 27yo. I'm focusing on my career to make more money. People are shocked when they see i spend weekends alone or stuff like that. They don't understand that i have more interesting/benefical shit to do than going out to a party listening to music i don't like.

Only social interactions that i force myself to are with girls because i have sexual needs. I need to be able to buy an appartment in my 30s, have a stable situation, that's all what interests me now. People don't get it. Seems like all my friends aren't as motivated as me.

embar5 · 2020-06-14T11:08:13+00:00

You'll need to eventually incorporate girls and friends or else live a life of regret and pointless productivity; I say this as a 34 year old. A temporary focus period is okay but don't do this for decades

DialecticContrarian · 2020-06-14T04:03:42+00:00

I'm on my last string in dating. Talking to one last woman on catholic match. Depending on how that goes, ima pretty much just put everything into career family and friends

axiscontra · 2020-06-14T07:03:41+00:00

Mainly what I do too. Im setting myself up for a future where I have even more power than what I do now. What you have is called focus. You're not going to waste your time dealing with these shitty women now, you're going to keep increasing and increasing your SMV so you can get higher status women that can actually be interesting enough to bed them. You're biding your time. Remember that money is not a thing, power is. Money does not equal power.

cracksniffer666 · 2020-06-14T14:10:45+00:00

Society tries to make you feel bad about it, which is why you're questioning yourself. Fuck it homie. Rock out. Do you.

throwitdownman · 2020-06-14T19:34:16+00:00

I did the same. I thought my SMV would plummet due to having a singular focus on making money. Turns out it increased.

Life sucks. It rewards selfish behaviour. The more you enhance yourself, the more you get out of life. The Red Pill applies here - be supplicating? Never laid. Be selfish, and focus on yourself? SMV raise. Friends miss you more, people look up to you, friendzoned girls no longer friendzone you, acquaintances are nicer to you (perhaps out of fear or intimidation), etc.

rplad420 · 2020-06-14T14:43:04+00:00

This is the best way to fuck up your life since you will never be happy and keep chasing money.

I am in the same situation as yours, but after reading countless books and watching people chase money I have realised its pointless.

Earn money, alot of money- enough so that you dont have to work after 30/35, but dont chase it.

Dont give a fuck about money. Enjoy the journey, work hard earn alot party.

20-30 is prime time and you wont be able to do the same fun activities in your 30's and 40's,so have tons of fun and makes tons of cash.

Infact use this time to make money and when lockdown ends party

CareIsMight · 2020-06-14T14:20:19+00:00

I can relate. One of my parents just died and I'm in the same boat. Of course, we need friendships. Surround yourself with friends and family who want the best for you. Still go to party's for social gatherings and whatnot, don't completely cut yourself off, for example one of my good friends is stuck in the mud at the moment with no employment, this and that, he isn't completely where he wants to be but he is the person I have the most fun with and so it's good to have that support system. Your priorities sound like they're centred around you and your own development so that's really positive. I don't give a shit about much apart from my work, hobbies, exercise routine, other wealth accumulating side hustles and family are in good order. That's all you need. Anything else is fluff and if you're lucky to have the time and money to do luxurious things then you can.

athrowaway-9001 · 2020-06-14T20:32:26+00:00

Do what you want to do.

Don't measure yourself to the metric of society's expectations of what is deemed as a "good" life. That is subjective; only you can determine what makes you happy and what you derive satisfaction from.

If you are comfortable in your own skin and don't feel the need to necessitate about any type of relationship or material need, it is a good sign. If you do fine any genuine people, I do say hold on to them as that is a commodity in itself; in a world that is becoming more alien and more artificial, it is best to befriend such people.

PolesWithGoals · 2020-06-14T17:54:22+00:00

You’re on the right path

Ta9afire · 2020-06-14T21:12:13+00:00

27yo, i too decided today to spend less time chasing girls and trying to find plates, after another failed date (the girl want me to orbitate weeks before i fuck... Cause she probably thinks she's a princess)

It's just too much time lost on logistics, to get a no at the end of the day. It's probably labeled as "sad", but masturbation calms me down and allows me to focus on productive stuff, rather than chasing women and thinking about pussy to the point i can't think. So i also decided to break that nofap BS. It definitely helped with my erections, but after 20 days or so it just becomes unbearable to think about anything besides ass and pussy. I will stick to 2 healthy faps a week, without porn preferably.

Instead of spending my time in my twenties chasing girls, dating them and all the time and money loss that comes with it, i prefer working hard so i can have enough money in my 30s to not even need to chase girls or think about how to get them. Nice car, big crib, ripped body, i wouldn't even need to talk.

cphpc · 2020-06-14T10:11:40+00:00

You sound desperate for attention. Like you’re at the top and everything is downhill from here. Good luck man. Just keep not giving a fuck.

curvedbymykind · 2020-06-14T08:34:09+00:00

Same. At what point do you think you'll stop trying to focus on money/career and go back to women again?

mrbill1234 · 2020-06-14T12:06:57+00:00

Welcome to adulthood.

Morjumba1 · 2020-06-14T12:30:03+00:00

27 here and I am in the same exact boat. I don't drink or use drugs, party or anything like that. I do use anabolics, but I am focused on school, my lifts, I have a small group of friends I keep in touch with and I'm close with my family. I do have a good gf though, if you plan on starting a family you'll need one of those.

cockkksucker · 2020-06-14T13:39:37+00:00

Do what makes u happy bro. That’s what life is, fuck what anybody else thinks.

blacwidonsfw · 2020-06-14T14:48:04+00:00

Late 20s and similar situation though I occasionally still enjoy going out but mostly more to hang out with my friends.

After being in a city for 10 years I’m buying a house in the woods and going to do that thing and focus on my projects to make money. Maybe in 5 years I’ll change my mind and want to party again who knows

mr_Tobbor · 2020-06-14T15:52:57+00:00

How do you jerk? Masturbate? Anything accessory?

Appex1 · 2020-06-14T12:42:21+00:00

Early-20's here. I feel the same way. And even though I've gotten laid 7 times, 12 blowjobs, and like 15 handjobs in my life, I feel like it's enough. I thought that pussy would make me feel complete until I realized holes can't be filled with holes.

I've naturally let go of girls completely as it brought more misery into my life than pleasure. While most would say that it's great, that now I can focus on building a career and power, I see the world much differently.

Now I try to let go of everything. I try to read more novels by great writers. Not these bullshit self-improvement books, they made me sick. I learn more from a book by Dostoyevski than I learn from 10 modern personal development books.

I've also at a point in life where I have no friends. Not a single one would I call my friend, and while I grieved much about being left alone. I've realized that now I'm free to do anything I want.

What I try to let go of most is my mere existence, my ego. What I for sure know is that in 2 years I will see life much differently than I do now and whatever I expect will always turn out differently.

Fusionnn · 2020-06-14T16:38:39+00:00

Read the subtle art of not giving a fuck

ThatOneDrunkUncle · 2020-06-14T17:30:47+00:00

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Cyo_The_Vile · 2020-06-14T08:39:42+00:00

This is about how I've felt coming to terms with not being young anymore.

fartingaround · 2020-06-14T15:57:19+00:00

Shut up

Title	Mid 20s. Don't give a shit about much
Author	ThatOneDrunkUncle
Upvotes	112
Comments	72
Date	June 14, 2020 3:47 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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