She came back?

UEMcGill · 2020-04-08T11:42:28+00:00

You absolutely have oneitis. If you didn't you'd be spinning plates and this would be an afterthought.

StoicPsychopath · 2020-04-08T09:47:23+00:00

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tyrantgrey · 2020-04-08T12:07:02+00:00

Don’t be stupid. Bitches know exactly what flags they need to show to snag us, and then the flags are made red with your blood.

AWALT

din_far · 2020-04-08T11:20:49+00:00

She's bored in quarantine and most likely just looking for attention. Don't give her too much. If she's actually interested, she will make herself available.

Your posting here tells me you are hungry, but this one is not ripe yet. Look elsewhere and don't waste your time chasing.

nickvnick · 2020-04-08T11:31:23+00:00

Tell her to call you when she's in your country. Otherwise, you're investing a lot of hope into a disadvantageous situation.

CuntMonteCristo · 2020-04-08T11:38:00+00:00

Bitches do that all the time, I had one contact me via email after 7 years. They build a database of available resources, also known as men, that they can check when needed for the specific purpose of fucks or bucks.

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-04-08T09:38:54+00:00

Just don’t be her pen pal and meet her when she gets back

caylocsgo · 2020-04-08T14:14:37+00:00

Dude are you fucking delusional? All you’ve done is text this girl and you’re saying she’s LTR material? You haven’t even had a date with the bitch yet. Get the fuck outta here and go read the sidebar you simp ass nigga reading this almost made me baby barf 🤢

2020-04-08T13:31:24+00:00

but now she even texts me "goodmorning" and shit like that so I definitely know she's interested.

Lol. No she's definitely bored. I have girls texting out of the blue who I only went on a single date with in freaking 2018. Means nothing, they're all bored.

And if she's in another country then you're in fantasyland thinking it means anything. LDR is not a thing.

IV-IVm-I · 2020-04-08T12:47:55+00:00

ignore her. “hit me up when you’re back in town”

scottandcoke · 2020-04-08T09:42:59+00:00

I don't have oneitis but I'm interested in her

Then I assume you are chasing 5 other women as well? And wondering how to keep their interest?

cracksniffer666 · 2020-04-08T12:02:38+00:00

So tired of these stories.

They all wanna "come back" because times are hard.

Good luck.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-04-08T14:17:08+00:00

She's LTR material and has only shown green flags so far.

And you know this how? The fantasy in your head?

I don't have oneitis but I'm interested in her...

You're writing an entire post about a girl you have built-up as potential LTR with no knowledge of anything. She sucked more dicks in that 4 years than she'll ever do for you.

Just another blue pill dude, pretending he's red now, writing full posts about his oneitis who is "ltr potential" and lives in another country... and not seen for 4 years.

Read the sidebar. You're TRP level -1.

sebastianconcept · 2020-04-08T11:21:16+00:00

With plenty of delay answer her unpretentiously. If you see any chance to sexualize the conversation I would go for it to perform on her a reverse shit-test. Man should shit test woman for dick cravings and escalate when they detect that.

Covertly show availability for providing dick therapy and lack of interest for anything else. You’ll become “different “ for her and sexy and “a challenging one”

i-am-the-prize · 2020-04-08T14:41:43+00:00

the thirst.

"she texted me" = "she came back"

the fucking thirst and neediness that drips from this post is nauseating.

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-04-08T15:26:46+00:00

If you want a woman as your girlfriend she’ll NEVER want you as her boyfriend

If you DON’T want a woman as your girlfriend she’ll FOREVER want you as her boyfriend

You’re losing the battle before it’s even begun as you’re pedestalizing her as a possible LTR already when you should be making her jump through hoops to make her EARN that commitment

Pussy and nutting in it lasts a few minutes but commitment lasts YEARS.

Unless you realize how much more valuable COMMITMENT is you’ll NEVER get the woman.

br0j1tsu · 2020-04-08T13:05:59+00:00

her source of male validation and attention doesn't satisfy her and she remembered that beta dude pursuing her back in the day, so here you are now "all redpilled up" but hoping to keep her interested "until she comes back"... read again about abundance mentality and keep on improving yourself, by now you should be getting way better women.

Domebeers · 2020-04-08T14:40:28+00:00

"HEY TRP HOW DO I ORBIT PROPERLY?"

these fuckin' guys

319Skew · 2020-04-08T14:33:02+00:00

There's a lot of guys that are giving a lot of good advice to either a great troll or a very stupid beta.

I think everyone should ask:

How many other women are you having sex with?

What was your recent PR at the gym?

Do you have your own place?

What are you working towards in life aside fucking women?

Did you read the side bar before posting this question?

After all these are answered than you should be able to get an answer.

RivenHalf · 2020-04-08T15:57:01+00:00

*She's in another country*

Stopped reading there. Stop. Just stop right now.

DeepNutted · 2020-04-08T12:30:09+00:00

shes in another country.... what are you going to do? mail her your penis covered in oneitis beta boy wrapping paper?

absolutelynp · 2020-04-08T13:31:32+00:00

Tell her you have shit to do and propose a phone call. Not to near future. When she is 4 weeks away, make it in 1,5 to 2 weeks. when you talk to her be aloof, try to not see her as a LRT. dont show your interest. Women's base for love is respect, when you say shit like "cant wait for you come back, we can meet". Dont man. Have a few notes for conversation topic ready if it eases your mind.

Talk to her once over the phone, just to spike her interest. Then get busy and tell her that and dont text. Text her only again when she is close to coming back.

Dont break chracter tho, if you told her that you do nothing all day and are fine to text, text less gradualy.

The others here are right tho, she is just filling some kind of gap and you failed her shit test. Also you cant speak of green flags already.

The redpill stuff feels counter-intuitive, I know. But trust in this stuff and just do it and you will get what you want.

Dont expect too much, you didnt start out very strong.

Also, dont just focus on her. I only recently learned how important that is. At least talk to some other women.

Best you can do now while not texting her, read the sidebar and lurk here.

redhorndog · 2020-04-08T13:46:41+00:00

Just because its said to add on right now after whatever a girl says doesnt mean its accaptable to go back.

4 years back she wasnt into you (right now)

Presently she see's you as a provider. Get your victory fuck and get rid of the rose tinted glasses but looks like you might get oneitis again.

What happened in the 4 year period she rode the CC.

Now maybe you really improved but OP you can always find a younger better version of her with less baggage.

Go ahead with her. Respond to her text, she'll know she has you in orbit. Dont text much till she is back. When she is back fuck her and then reconsider.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

SoA_MC · 2020-04-08T13:55:10+00:00

If you haven’t yet said anything, this is easy. Say it’s cool/nice to hear from her, if she fancies catching up to let you know and you can plan a time and place. Then leave it with her. If she says sounds good, suggest a time and place.

Job done.

catsdontsmile · 2020-04-08T14:46:31+00:00

She's bored and thirsty for attention, probably in quarantine, and needs her lapdog to pay her some attention bucks. Is she planning to move back? No? So what is the best outcome? Sexting? Soft pass.

tudor07 · 2020-04-08T11:59:24+00:00

"contact me when you're back in the country and if you are lucky that I will be single then maybe we'll meet"

Do not talk with her until then, basically forget about her. Act is if she did not even contact you until she comes back.

imtheoneimmortal · 2020-04-08T11:59:40+00:00

You have to expect so many shitty test from her
She wants to know if you're changed or what

Jessor69 · 2020-04-08T13:02:19+00:00

She's looking for the coronavirus bucks and you just might be it

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-04-08T14:14:09+00:00

Dont mix your blue pill past with your red pill present. If anything lure her in and give her a pump and dump one last time.

EdvardMunch · 2020-04-08T14:32:18+00:00

Keep things interesting by being boring as fuck.

Is this right now during lockdown? This is a time of looking for comforts of the past.

Diche_Bach · 2020-04-08T15:20:25+00:00

Wait a couple more weeks, and don't do anything stupid like stop communicating with her.

IXseed · 2020-04-08T15:42:11+00:00

OK. First up you DEF have oneitis. You're thinking a girl is LTR material that you're not even fucking and lives in another country. Normally, I say to just tell her to hit you up when she's in town and don't go back and forth with her, but in this case, move on.

Whenever a girl hits you back up outta the blue, think to yourself "Why is she hitting me up now?". You may think it's because you're redpill, but if you haven't spoke to her in 4 years how the fuck would she know that? The image of you in her mind hasn't changed, so why is she hitting you up now? If she didn't' wanna give you no play then why would she now?

salviauser12 · 2020-04-08T16:41:15+00:00

Man, one option is that she’s bored because of the quarantine and she doesn’t get validation from others. Please consider this and keep the texting at the minimum. After this shit passes try to get a date and then you’ll see where you’re standing... But remember that no girl who didn’t invest in you is worth waiting 4 years.

Annapolis_Silence · 2020-04-08T16:51:16+00:00

Nice! Get some OP!

JayDMoos · 2020-04-08T16:57:37+00:00

Wait until she comes back???

RabbidMan · 2020-04-08T17:45:14+00:00

Youre still in your Blue Pill days. Convince me otherwise....so many frauds up here. Its annoying.

11-Eleven-11 · 2020-04-08T18:04:32+00:00

Bro. Listen. If she's coming back to the country in a couple weeks why would she text you now? Why not wait until she gets back? You shouldn't be putting yourself on the hook to entertain this bitch until she comes back to the country. Tell her to hit you up when she gets back then cut contact and forget about her. If she hits you up again then you can start hamstering.

StoicPsychopath · 2020-04-08T19:07:38+00:00

Ghost. Nothing good can come of this.

She's been getting fucked by dozens of guys she considered superior to you over the last few years. She will never respect you as a result. Even if you have improved, her brain is still pre-programmed to think of the old you. Further, your brain is pre-programmed to think of the old you and the old her, meaning that you will behave like a beta towards her.

Recruit new girls. Find one that kind looks like her to get it out of your system if needed. But stop talking to her immediately.

Ivabighairy1 · 2020-04-08T19:41:05+00:00

You “chased” her? Nothing came of it, she’s looking for validation. That’s all. She wants to keep you in orbit. Abundance.

And yes, it is oneitis. You’re talking LTR from someone you chased, and she rejected you.

omega05 · 2020-04-08T23:14:58+00:00

This one girl in a whole different country... go lift goofy

Snowboard18 · 2020-04-09T02:32:22+00:00

She’s bored and in need of some validation and she remembered how hard you simped over her so she reached out. Ignore and forget about her.

-ThePathIsTheGoal- · 2020-04-09T18:51:42+00:00

This is a severe case of ONEitis my friend and self deception will only dig your hole deeper.

I was in a very similar position with a girl who was out of state a few years back. I went to great lengths to convince myself and the community that I didn’t have oneitis. My oneitis was incredibly profound.

I now abide by the mantra “I do not know better than the community”.

She is about wreak havoc on your mind. Please, please block her number and forget she ever reached out.

Title	She came back?
Author	Athrownoway
Upvotes	44
Comments	105
Date	April 8, 2020 9:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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