Should I cut off the boys or am I being dramatic

Nighthawk_Black_ · 2020-07-20T12:06:10+00:00

Your friends sound like their jealous. I don't think I would let them know it bothered you but at the same time I think I wouldn't be trusting them to much.

misfithustle · 2020-07-20T12:05:26+00:00

Definitely. They basically tried to cock block and sound like fuckin losers no offense.

skorpion7777 · 2020-07-20T12:05:53+00:00

Sound like some horsing around due to your young age. Teenagers sometimes do things without thinking them through. You did well. Just hold frame. No need to break contact. You'll look butthurt. Keep it in mind for the next time and if you worry about such things look that such photos are only locally stored on your own device!

Whisper · 2020-07-20T14:52:20+00:00

Don't hang out with bucket crabs.

Nero9214 · 2020-07-20T13:04:36+00:00

I wouldn't do anything deliberately, as in going out your way to make an effort to cut ties. Friends come and go naturally, the true ones will be around forever with no effort needed to keep them.

HOWEVER...if these pics were proper bad, as in you naked or doing something weird and it wasn't sent to her as a 'joke' (you'll know if it's their humour or not) then fuck them. Traitors.

Killljoys13 · 2020-07-20T14:13:12+00:00

How old are your 'boys'? Sounds like something that me and my friends used to do when we were 14 or 16 out of jealousy in the name of prank.

glowing_dolphins · 2020-07-20T12:58:34+00:00

At 16, I’d keep the friends. Play your cards close with women though. They don’t need to know who you’re into. It only generates problems.

cglehosit · 2020-07-20T14:02:25+00:00

You’re 16, learn this now: shut the fuck up about your women and you won’t have to worry about your bros trying to fuck around with you, and more importantly you won’t have to worry about other women trying to mess with shit.

You also give her plausible deniability. Now quite whining, lift some weights, and read the sidebar.

idevastate · 2020-07-20T14:34:05+00:00

What "boys" would do that? Your boys should be there to have your back. I mean purposefully screwing with my intimate life? That's real fucking out of place. I'd start looking for new high value pals as you phase out of this group of betas.

rn7889 · 2020-07-20T13:34:20+00:00

Never. Ever ever ever ever ever let your boys know when basic horsing around makes you feel butthurt. Setting boundaries and being butthurt are two different things. You take it in stride. Otherwise it’ll be picked on for the entirety of your relationship.

TheLawsOfPower · 2020-07-20T13:35:50+00:00

It didn’t really affects anything with the girl as I held frame when she told me she has the pictures.

I'm new to TRP, can I ask how did you hold your frame? maybe something like that will happen to me, I did some stupid dance and my friends recorded it. My friends are really jealous, if they send to a girl I like or to some girls, What should I do?

The dance is really not appropriate with my ideology and my personality, it makes me look like stupid, I'm confused, don't know what to do!!

pebblefromwell · 2020-07-20T13:37:13+00:00

As the old saying goes "trust yet verify". As you will find moving through life only a very few people will be worthy your trust. I will also say none of the good friends I have now 20 years out of high school are any if the good friends I had in high school

rnsbrum · 2020-07-20T14:29:00+00:00

Punish them and set your boundaries. Make sure to let them know what your limits are.

Aspanu24 · 2020-07-20T14:07:46+00:00

To me, if people can’t be trusted they’re not your friends. Just remember that for next time, and possibly return the favor should the opportunity arise.

zephenrage · 2020-07-20T14:22:57+00:00

This is how it starts. Jealousy provoked sabotage. If they’re getting jealous enough to sabotage you things are going to get uglier. Remember, you are a combination of the 5 people you hang out with the most. If these losers are resorting to sabotage then its time to leave them in the dust as you continue on your mission.

MagnumBurrito · 2020-07-20T14:36:21+00:00

Soft next them lol

Thoth_X · 2020-07-20T16:40:38+00:00

They arent your friends. Friends may shit talk to your face in private but they always prop you up around others even when you are not around. Those guys are snakes. They damn sure dont respect you. Think of someone you look up to. Would their friends pull that mess?

Don_Draper27 · 2020-07-20T14:04:12+00:00

You should be hanging out with other high value men. If your social circle doesn’t boost your MV then you’re hurting yourself.

gijoemaximus · 2020-07-20T14:21:28+00:00

This sub is really getting young judged by the questions that are asked here. Very lucky to have found TRP at such a young age

Krebota · 2020-07-20T14:38:10+00:00

Ironically, this happened with the guy that introduced me to TRP. He went even further to thrashtalk me for his own benefit and get an LTR with the girl I was dating (my earlier TRP days so I made a lot of mistakes too). I pushed myself away from him since I was going to a different city anyway, and my friends hung out with him a bit more but don't really care about him now either. He's now addicted to weed (literally can't function without it) and went from being able to fuck anyone to a fat girlfriend that's also addicted to weed and from what I've seen he's basically the bitch in the LTR. It's almost satisfying.

What I'm trying to say is just revert your focus. I'm guessing those boys are part of a friend group and you can simply try to stick more with others... or you find new friends. Just ignore it but know that you should pick any other friend over them when required, and they'll slowly disappear from your life. And if they're as bad as my guy, they'll mess up their own life just fine.

FuzzCod · 2020-07-20T14:41:50+00:00

You handled it well, you might even stand out for her now since you didn't give a fuck. Also, I just saw that you're 16 and your mate apologized afterwards.

Also finding TRP at such young age, you're halfway there mate.

recursoinominado · 2020-07-20T14:44:13+00:00

I would soft next them.

In my own teenage years, I put up with so much bullshit from my friends because was lonely and didn't had any abundance mentality. Not needed to say that i had low self-esteem and consistently hanging out with people that disrespected me just perpetuated the issue.

It is better to be alone than with bad company.

NiceSetupYeahNice · 2020-07-20T14:57:14+00:00

If she is into you shouldn't be a problem, if they knew your plan and tried to sabotage however fuck them. What type of picture where they

nemakrstabeztriprsta · 2020-07-20T15:08:37+00:00

bruh keep them u have more benefits with than without them...

MR3790 · 2020-07-20T16:02:23+00:00

Bros taking down bros are not bros. Real friends try and lift you up and want to see you succeed.

RedDeAngelo · 2020-07-20T16:11:35+00:00

Hilariously, I had the opposite happen, where one of my friends sent an embarrassing photo of me to a girl he was dating, shortly after, they werent seeing each other anymore. I couldnt care less, cos she was just a stranger to me anyways.

PattyFlash4MePls · 2020-07-20T16:14:32+00:00

I hate that shit ay, my friends have done it before.

Tell them that shits not cool and it feels like they are trying to cock block you.

If they double down or keep doing it, just distance yourself from them as friends but know that some friends just immature at that age and that’s their way of joking around.

Also try not to involve girls with your boys unless they’re cool / you can actually trust them.

jh1871 · 2020-07-20T16:31:14+00:00

Don’t talk much about girls to them. They have to know about this girl from you in order to prank you with her. Just don’t talk to them about girls anymore, but keep your social circle strong. definitely don’t trust everyone with knowledge of your female efforts.

ColdBeing · 2020-07-20T16:52:35+00:00

Yes, friends know to stay out of your business

Burton969696 · 2020-07-20T16:56:30+00:00

Honestly bro’s fuck with each other, but there’s a difference between a prank and trying to sabotage what you have going on. If they do too much of this shit regularly you may wanna re think the friends you keep

BigDog66977 · 2020-07-20T17:08:17+00:00

What fucking losers.

Taipoe · 2020-07-20T17:35:56+00:00

At 16 friends will do some dumb shit without thinking so it’s your choice on what to do but definitely don’t tell them the girls you are talking to in the future

mrrooftops · 2020-07-20T17:36:49+00:00

They're either trying to move you or reaffirming your real position in your friend group hierarchy. I'd say the latter and I'm sure it's not the first time they thought they could get away with this type of low-status positioning behaviour

BlondeHornyElf · 2020-07-20T17:44:13+00:00

I'd probably call them out on it and judge how they react. If they acknowledge that it was a shitty thing to do I'd let go of it but still be mindful that they carry resentments underneath. If they don't own up to it, I'd phase them out as friends ya.

I've had a lot of beta-male friends sell me out over the years for stupid shit. You have to be careful with people like that. It's easy to imagine that you're so alpha that nothing could ever hurt you, but if people betray you at the wrong time it can cause a lot of damage to your life (e.g., career, relationships, investments, reputation, etc). You can work to build something for years and it all goes down the drain in an instant because one of the people you're trusting detonates the situation for some petty short-sighted reason. Some people are just born to fail.

So be mindful of people when you sense a hint of jealousy or dishonesty, or even just weakness.

Your enemies can attack you, but your friends can betray you.

BarbellsAndBicarb · 2020-07-20T17:50:55+00:00

Lmao what a bunch of fucking clowns

Brushyourteethm8 · 2020-07-20T18:38:25+00:00

Gut instinct: was it in good humour and they'd wingman you or was it a passive cock block attempt?

Sounds like crabs in a bucket response to me.

I've dropped several guys over the last 2 years and it can be lonely as you then don't have a crowd.

I've kept busy though lifting, reading, cycling etc and have tried out new guy mates - I now have a few quality friends who I have much more in common with and we have each other's backs.

Trust your gut - you know what you have to do.

Edit: Just seen that you're 16 - mate, I wish I knew what I do now when I were 16. Join a boxing gym and maybe a coding club etc and just become too busy for them.

Per_Horses6 · 2020-07-20T18:40:34+00:00

Cut em off. Jealous guys make it easy tbh. They’ll be so salty you left and would blow you for you to come back. Know your worth brother

GoldAlfalfa · 2020-07-20T18:52:37+00:00

They sound like little bitches. Remember, you can’t make anyone swallow the red pill, you can only try to show them the light. They have to experience it themselves.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-07-20T19:09:51+00:00

What's friendship where they can't tease you and run some pranks?!

If that girl is not your LTR, why bother and make this an issue? If she is a plate, then more so why are you so bothered for a fuckin' pussy?

If it is any issue with boys, Punish them but don't break things off. That's immature and high on emotions shit.

I would run a bigger prank and let them know, I am the dawg.

Be wise. You got it. Cheers!

warthundersfw · 2020-07-20T19:32:12+00:00

Fucke her in the ass

Number1sun · 2020-07-20T19:47:16+00:00

Nah dude these fuckers here a cold, use your words like a man and bring up the issue and discuss it in a chill setting and make honesty the theme, discussions with the boys are far different than with chicks, dudes are loyal

WyldeCutter · 2020-07-20T19:48:53+00:00

They are dogging you and you're taking it way too seriously. This is the worst part of red-pill shit is it turns young men into rocks who take every joke or tease as "disrespect". Who gives a fuck, own that shit and fuck.

FlumpyLol · 2020-07-20T20:04:56+00:00

Bro one thing I learned if you hang around dudes with no game they will also try to cock block you get some new buddies

saladpurple · 2020-07-20T20:47:47+00:00

Don't take it seriously, have some fun. But its good you're perceiving things at such a young age. Keep it up! Just don't forget to have some fun!

rockyp32 · 2020-07-20T21:27:20+00:00

Depends but if there close friends I would talk to them about it. A lot of the time I. Those situations we act subconsciously. We’re telling ourselves oh it’s just a funny prank but deep down it’s driven by jealously. Sometimes people need a remind.

2020-07-20T21:56:58+00:00

They sound like fuckin losers to be honest. That’s cringe, kick em out

strongsovereign · 2020-07-20T23:15:14+00:00

Evidently, if they’re behaving like this, you’re the man in the group. You should part ways with them, not because you took the situation personally, but because their behaviour signifies envy and immaturity.

Your very act of dropping them will make them respect you. A real alpha does not identify with the pack, for he stands above and beyond it.

DasWolffy · 2020-07-20T23:31:21+00:00

I've had similar happen. There's a co-worker that talks shit and puts me down when there are single women around. The more women, the harder her goes. I pretend he isn't there when he runs his mouth and talk over him. I'd just drop your "friends". Friends don't sabotage friends.

Snowboard18 · 2020-07-20T23:52:46+00:00

It’s either

They are some jealous losers who purposely cockblocked you. Which in that case find friends that are higher value and not jealous pricks.
They are on your value level and you guys have that type of friendship were you fuck with each other and often play pranks on each other. Which in that case I’d just hold frame and not cut them off.

Only you know them so only you can tell which it is

Jaganshi93 · 2020-07-21T15:04:05+00:00

Try to keep them for logistic but don't trust too much . Know that you are above them

chantfire · 2020-07-21T16:03:28+00:00

Your friends are a part of you to some extent, so if you hadn't learnt this lesson you would have dove them same thing. If you thinking about it too much you'll lose focus! Not everyone gets TRP but you'll need wingmen and a musculine group.

kennycrab12 · 2020-07-20T20:39:58+00:00

I wouldn’t cut my friends off because they sent embarrassing pics to a bitch, that’s retarded. It sucks getting cock blocked but it’s Bros before Hoes

420BJsGamble · 2020-07-27T06:16:38+00:00

Get new friends literally shedding some myself rn

vandaalen · 2020-07-20T13:06:16+00:00

I expect such behavior from my friends. Nothing really bad happened. Just return the favor some way or another.

Shitcuckedredditsays · 2020-07-20T14:24:06+00:00

Sounds like they were busting your balls and you're the one being weird about it.

itsArtie · 2020-07-20T14:25:53+00:00

I would say yes but I read that you are 16 so in that case - no. Guys in high school will always do dumb shit to each other to get some laugh.

PuppersGoneWild · 2020-07-20T14:36:54+00:00

You can have a conversation with them like an adult/leader. You don’t have to cut your fiends off, that’s such a butthurt bitch move. You can do it in a way that gets your point across but is still respectful, you won’t lose your friends. Just state the facts of what they did (sent pictures) and state a tenuous story (like you’re not entirely sure but you feel like they are acting disrespectful and jealous) then ask them why they did it and they will give an excuse. Then say ok I understand where your coming from (even if you don’t) and say I don’t want you embarrassing me or doing anything like that again and ask them “can you not do that again?” And get them to say yes to that question. That should help, it has helped me. Then if they violate your boundaries again just refer to this pervious conversation and say you’re not being a good friend and have not followed through on the promise you made to me earlier, and then you can cut them off if they don’t take that seriously.

If this is a big deal to you though and a continuous pattern I would raise your standards and get better friends. You become like the friends you keep so don’t hang with a bunch of losers that don’t get it and can’t get laid etc.

3dasak · 2020-07-20T16:44:12+00:00

Tell them theyre dickheads for that but dont cut them off. You guys are still young

kriskros18 · 2020-07-20T16:34:07+00:00

Bros before hos.

So depends how close you guys are.

Ekhochambeer · 2020-07-20T14:08:18+00:00

Nah that sounds pretty funny actually, your just being a pussy.

Met my best friends new chick today and we spent 10 minutes showing each other the worst photos we had taken of him.

Title	Should I cut off the boys or am I being dramatic
Author	fullsendham
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Date	July 20, 2020 11:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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