10/10 Girl At Bar

theadoringfan216 · 2025-10-21T03:08:43+00:00

Makes you sound deperate and jealous

LordVesperion · 2025-10-21T03:04:53+00:00

Yeah your initial comment made a bit sound like you could be the jealous type. I think you can recover but you'll need to keep your frame.

dnavi · 2025-10-21T03:14:05+00:00

no recovering after that lmao. Move on to the next

WebNew9978 · 2025-10-21T03:49:03+00:00

Sorry to say but you blew it dude. Your texts showed her that you’re anxious and needy. Better luck next time.

VGClementine · 2025-10-21T02:59:50+00:00

You literally just disrespected her 🫩 When teasing a woman or whatever that was you tried to do. Don't do that because in her eyes you sound jealous, inscure, controlling. And no woman wants neither of that. You're not her boyfriend, she can talk to whoever she wants too just like you can talk to whoever you want too.

dogenes09 · 2025-10-21T03:36:20+00:00

You could have done it better, but it's less about "desperate and jealous" and more about "you called her out on a lie as your opening salvo." Yeah she coulda loled and said, "Busted!" And thats probably what you were hoping. But it was too early to take the chance. Esp over text where subtext and body language and tonality is removed.

Edit: And when you start justifying with the "Just didnt..." kiss of death. Sorry bro.

Accomplished-Pen7695 · 2025-10-21T03:16:56+00:00

Dude you just met the girl and acting all needy? Don’t have expectations especially when you just meet them. You messed this up big time.

reechees · 2025-10-21T03:32:22+00:00

Wrong way to tease lmfao

Alarmed_Box1198 · 2025-10-21T03:47:05+00:00

You fumbled it bro.

Important_Tip_6181 · 2025-10-21T04:18:23+00:00

Crazy work. She's just chatting it up with people she's seen before. Didn't have to be noted whatsoever.

protofutura · 2025-10-21T04:33:07+00:00

Savage. Delete and never think about her again lol. And learn from this.

Diligent_Tutor9910 · 2025-10-21T03:14:05+00:00

Lollll

Way to fumble the bag

Learn to chill bro and hide that shit so you get more time to observe

But don't worry about this. This kind of mistake early on means you would have fumbled it no matter what.

Hot girls get talked to by guys. If you can't handle that go for the 5s and below

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-10-21T03:30:30+00:00

There's a difference between playful tease and a smack in the face.

LawyerPhotographer · 2025-10-21T04:02:04+00:00

Stop texting her. Call her. You had the guts to talk to a 10/10 that you did not know and made strong enough conversation that you talked for a long time and had the courage to ask for and get her number. Channel that energy and turn that vibe back on. Stop hiding behind your phone like a mouse.

Text is a tool to speed communication with folks you do not want to talk to. You want to talk to and see her again so why are you texting. Because you might be scared to call her. Scared she will not pick up or shoot you down, or who knows what. You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take. Call her so she will figure out the authentic you who is who she met at the bar and your stupid text was a one off that did not come off as intended. If she has doubts you can meet for one beer or coffee and she can figure out if you are the decisive man she met at the bar or the annoying mouse who texted her. Take the shot. Better to go down swinging. If there was zero interest you would not have her number. Call her when she is not at work. Picture the two of you at the bar as you dial. Call her soon. You might have stumbled but did not fall.

CuteGuyInCali · 2025-10-21T04:51:32+00:00

Just because you know the bouncer doesn't mean you always go out. They could have been friends since high school, maybe they went to college together or they work together and this is his side gig? You don't know the story to judge or question her. I'm a guy married. When I go out with my wife I often see people I know and we don't out much.

That text sounded a lot like you called her out.....liar. remember that texts don't have intonations. Some sarcastic jokes don't land well on text. There is a key and Peele skit that touches on this.

I know you didn't mean it the way it came out but you gotta be careful.

ArjunVermaReddit · 2025-10-21T03:36:04+00:00

Ok this is the point where you have to call her on the phone. You have her number, which means you have permission to do so. Do not bring up the same conversation thread...if she does just say we dont have to talk about it...
But lets say she doesnt pick up, I'd prefer to just communicate explicitly on text and come clean and burn the set at this point. Yes I was jealous, because I really liked you and could see us having a really good connection. So while I know we barely know each other, I'd really like for us to explore what could be here...or something to that effect.
Fuck me or fuck off

Mindless-Goal-5340 · 2025-10-21T04:18:57+00:00

That is not what your phone is for

RJwhores · 2025-10-21T03:51:53+00:00

It was a bad "open".. that first text needs to be on point

UnparliamentaryTea · 2025-10-21T04:05:29+00:00

Hypothetically you can recover but it really depends on how your chat was in person with her. If you really connected over something(s), you could bring that up in a few days or something.

Your biggest mistake wasn’t teasing her, it was getting defensive to her replies. Her responses were a little sassy and flirty, you could’ve played it off and/or kept joking, instead your response comes off more serious and defensive (even if that’s not your intent).

By doing that, you play into her frame which is that she’s so cool and you’re jealous of her. Also, trying to catch her in a lie is one of those things that can build and release sexual tension in person but I don’t think it works well over text. For all you know she doesn’t go out a lot but only goes to one bar or she’s just hot so the bouncers globbed onto her the second they met her

rockdude625 · 2025-10-21T04:30:50+00:00

“Wanna make $1,000 tonight?”

RickyRiccardos · 2025-10-21T04:38:57+00:00

You absolutely fked it. I feel this post is fake, no one gets a 10 number to then just cook it like that 🤣

AlphaZorro · 2025-10-21T05:02:41+00:00

A wise meme once said, “If you fumble a 10/10, that means you had possession; stay with me now.”

cappaido · 2025-10-21T05:03:30+00:00

Showing a toxic trait just right from the start message? From her point of view she dodged a bullet, can't blame her lol

PackagedWater · 2025-10-21T05:03:38+00:00

You meet a 10/10 at a bar, hit it off well, got her number, and THAT is the first text you send her??

Title	10/10 Girl At Bar
Author	Turbulent-Unit-8271
Upvotes	17
Comments	56
Date	October 21, 2025 2:55 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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