Age gap - how to attract younger

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-20T05:02:30+00:00

OP, I'm also almost 35 and was married for several years. What I did was take the entire first year off from dating or approaching women after my divorce to get in a better headspace and build healthy routines. I'm not sure how far out from divorce you are at this point.

I also initially went on a few dates with college aged women only to quickly realize I didn't relate to them on really any level. I'd grown and matured quite a bit since I started dating my then wife in my 20s. Their financial security, emotional maturity, life experience and general outlooks were just not feasible with where I'm at in life. But you do you.

You could talk to them like anyone else. Just don't compromise your identity, core values and so forth. Skip the old PUA hoop-la and see how they match up to what you're looking for in a woman.

Update: the OP states in multiple other threads that he is 39, not "turning 35." The hell? Why would you lie about that?

pastor-of-muppets69 · 2025-10-20T03:58:11+00:00

Mid 30s, fwb with 21 y/o right now, been hooking up with 21-27 year olds for the last year post-breakup. Just live near a college campus. Its not all it's cracked up to be, but you have to do it for a while to realize this. At some point you get sick of always being "daddy" and you'll want a peer. A partner.

throwaway291919919 · 2025-10-20T05:17:26+00:00

You were 39M 23 days ago. And still married 23 days ago lmao

Accomplished-Pen7695 · 2025-10-20T03:39:02+00:00

There’s a lot to un cap here. I would just start approaching don’t over think it. It’s a numbers game so the odds are not in your favor. I’ll tell you this if you approach enough women you’ll get what you want eventually but it’s time consuming and a lot of BS. Try to be friend a guy that’s out alone or in two’s maybe three at most and make small talk.

jpw0w · 2025-10-20T12:05:05+00:00

For sex, sure. As an actual partner? Good luck lol

videogames_ · 2025-10-20T20:36:01+00:00

At the college bars and clubs since you literally live by the area. Just pace it out since you might get a reputation. Accept that 80% of women don’t want an older man but the 10-20% don’t care or really want an older man.

Ironman502_ · 2025-10-20T03:41:17+00:00

I'm 38 and pulled a 22 yo. Was sitting at the bar wrapping up some work on my laptop when she ordered a drink right next to me, we had small talk and the vibe was great. Fast forward a few months and now she's obsessed and wants all my babies. It's all about confidence and showing her a masculine man. Easier to approach a girl alone than if she's with friends or a group.

autodidacticasaurus · 2025-10-20T11:33:43+00:00

It's not that different. If anything, it's much easier overall except for one thing: they have much shorter attention spans.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-10-20T05:05:46+00:00

I’m 36 and did sleep with a 21 year old not that long ago. Just have to be confident and not care about the age. It does get harder though for sure and you have to bridge the gap

Lazy_Lion_7296 · 2025-10-20T03:45:18+00:00

Money

WittyJoy · 2025-10-20T13:22:49+00:00

41, In a similar situation a couple of years ago.

Went through a lot of ups and downs, what worked for me is just going out there and being myself. I don't approach young looking girls (a mature looking late 20's that I mistake for 30s seems to be tendancy) but know that the age gap will be a non-negotiable for some, and a turn on for others. Women are all different, and will be different on different days. I've had it so many times now where a girl that made a show of trying to blow me out at the beginning of night has ended up texting me after her friends left for the night wanting me to come see her without the audience. Despite the weird wokey feminist stuff being proclaimed out there, there is no shortage of judgement for a woman's sexual preferences or behaviour and if anything I think it's gotten worse in the last few years, so be mindful of that.

Go out with the goal of being friendly and trying to meet lots of people, staying chill and yourself if you get a negative reaction, and mixing groups. (A severely underappreciated thing from the early Pua days)

Last month I was away for a weekend and met a recently turned 21 year old that agreed with me right off the bat that the age gap was too big. She told me she was bi curious so I spent the night introducing her to groups of girls, combining groups, etc. I don't normally vibe with early 20s but we ended up having such a great time that we went home with eachother instead and the next night she brought a girlfriend of hers out as well and we all had a great time.

All this is to say be yourself (i.e. 'hold your frame' no matter what), know that the age gap will be an issue for some but not for others, and go out with the goal of just meeting people and exploring chemistry. You'll be amazed at some of the nights you'll have.

IncognitoTap · 2025-10-20T12:57:36+00:00

Just out of curiosity What do you do for a living?

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-21T06:02:51+00:00

OP conveniently deleted his previous threads from less than a month ago where he talked about being a bored 39 year old married guy.

Intelligent-Can8235 · 2025-10-20T04:41:25+00:00

Take a photography class, pickup a camera and earn to use it. Don’t be creepy, genuinely learn. Women love to model and if you’re not a creep, it’s a great way to meet college girls.

TemporaryMoment8259 · 2025-10-21T07:26:24+00:00

Im 34 gonna be 35 soon and was married for a couple years before things sadly ended last summer. Since then Ive been getting into health, running and hitting the gym as well as updating my wardrobe from my married life look lol. But ive hooked up and dated 26 yr olds or younger since then. Maybe because Im asian and told i look like im in my late 20s. Im smarter, more experienced and honest better looking than I was when I was 25.. but for some reason the dating culture and women nowadays seem to be much different in a negative way than even a few years ago. Its basically its cancelled out my self improvement gains and its at a break even as far as ROI. If it was pre-covid I know I wouldve had a lot more success with today’s version of myself.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-10-20T18:58:16+00:00

Age is not something that even comes to my mind when I'm talking to my girl tbh. She's just a person same as anyone else. Pretty and cute, yeah, but otherwise she loves my attention, and I love giving it to her. Just make sure you take care of her and her feelings and be honest about what you want to do with her. For me it's romance and getting to know her. For you it might be different. But be honest about it.

willy--wanka · 2025-10-20T14:50:36+00:00

Why are you stopping yourself at 21, OP?

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-10-20T04:13:09+00:00

Tbh it's pretty unrealistic nabbing a 21-25 yr old women who's genuinely (not for money) into guys over 30. They almost exclusively go for guys within 2-3 years of their own age.

sentientsea · 2025-10-21T05:36:04+00:00

If you have to ask, you honestly can't, and shouldn't. Because the people who do it well and are doing it for the right reasons have never asked this question.

SWIMS_labrat · 2025-10-22T01:23:26+00:00

Its tough but ya need to have good smv for your age and look younger otherwise itll be creepy

Weak-Elk-1397 · 2025-10-25T16:22:44+00:00

Mi piace molto scopare duramente

marlostanfielddd · 2025-10-20T23:46:10+00:00

Weirdo

recycledfart · 2025-10-20T18:24:33+00:00

Problem is that most young women in their prime are not interested in a serious relationship with a used guy 10+ years their senior who is specifically seeking out college aged women. If you’re just looking for sex and you’re the catch you claim to be, you might have a few flings. You’ll have absolutely nothing to talk about when you’re not bumping uglies, though.

Financial-Maize-7982 · 2025-10-20T23:51:43+00:00

Go to an 18+ convention. Most there are pretty young (18-25) and are down for pretty much anything if you ask. That's how I met my ex (I was 19 and she was 36), as well as my current girlfriend (I was 31 she was 19).

EquivalentSnap · 2025-10-20T11:20:19+00:00

You don't as that's creepy

tonyabstract · 2025-10-21T11:29:06+00:00

everyone in these comments is weird. date people your own age

Designer_Range_57 · 2025-10-20T13:06:15+00:00

Totally went through the same thing. actually made a little guide that worked like magic for me if you want it, I'm happy to share

Thin_Ad_9043 · 2025-10-20T04:58:33+00:00

Eh not for me. Most of the girls titties havent even dropped in that age

hxe_111 · 2025-10-21T19:57:19+00:00

What a creep

Title	Age gap - how to attract younger
Author	Odd-Side-7151
Upvotes	128
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Date	October 20, 2025 3:19 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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