Calling all females…

kanyesbathroommirror · 2022-07-23T04:47:20+00:00

Hygiene, obviously. Do you look clean? Do you smell good? Are your hands and nails clean enough to touch my hoo-ha?

higodefruta · 2022-07-23T07:05:06+00:00

Absolute yes: Being polite, showing good manners. Personally, I take great interest in men who can keep a conversation going, someone you can tell is paying attention to what you’re saying is really nice since there’s a lot of people who doesn’t really listen. Don’t hold yourself back, it’s noticeable. Be yourself and be respectful of everyone, focus on you and your date. If it’s a first contact just stay polite, friendly while keeping your distance, if you’re TOO friendly it can get scary.

Absolute no: Being super touchy right away, cursing a lot, someone who is on their phone the whole time or use it when the other person is talking. Don’t get political or start discussions on things you disagree with, it’s not a good first look. If there’s things you absolutely do not agree with then you can just walk away and save the bad impression you’d make. Making rude comments about people is not good either.

Physically, just be thoroughly clean and take care of your outfit, wear whatever you’d like and just make sure everything’s clean and preferably ironed or pressed, it makes every piece of clothing appear way better.

These are all my opinions though, and what I’ve discussed with my friends.

tot1721 · 2022-07-23T06:55:11+00:00

Honestly it really depends on the person individually. I might like someone for being super funny and dislike someone else because I don’t think any of their jokes are good. I guess my immediate turn on is a funny man with a great smile. If he can make me laugh, hold a stimulating conversation and is passionate about what he’s talking about then I’ll be interested. Most men only tell you what they think you want to hear and it gets repetitive and boring.

m0ssh3adsw0rds · 2022-07-23T06:52:39+00:00

A straightforward personality. Turn offs are lack of interest.. and self absorbed or rude comments about other people.

atritt94 · 2022-07-23T06:32:39+00:00

Put your phone away holy fuck

burncushlikewood · 2022-07-23T06:49:07+00:00

I feel some of these answers lack depth, I'm not female but I find drive/intelligence/tolerance to be big turn ons. Also good looks, that's the most important thing for me

CowgirlBebop575 · 2022-07-23T08:02:25+00:00

I'm a sucker for a nice smile.

I really dislike when people change their opinions or statements to agree with me. It's dishonest and causes me to not trust what they're saying

Jademan_69 · 2022-07-23T08:17:23+00:00

If you fake it right from the beginning any relationship will end sooner than later. Be authentic.

ViolenceisViolet · 2022-07-23T07:47:55+00:00

Looks can only get a guy so far, if I can’t be intellectually stimulated that’s it for me. It’s all about the vibe, so let your guard down and just see what happens. All girls love to talk about themselves too, so if she’s interested or just feeling the vibe all you have to do is just ask her about herself.

Edit: there have been so many times I’ve been physically attracted to a guy, only for them to open their mouths and that attraction is instantly gone.

Vinegar_Tits_9 · 2022-07-23T07:50:19+00:00

A good sense of humour and feeling safe and comfortable 👍

Sleezyness, pushiness, and smoking/drinking too much 👎

idunno324 · 2022-07-23T08:46:46+00:00

There has to be a vibe between us, if conversation is forced it's not going to work

crjahnactual · 2022-07-23T09:57:04+00:00

I am not female, but I think I can answer this question for you.

I am 54 years old, have dated hundreds of women, read thousands of essays about men written by women, and recently published The Outlaw's Guide to Dating.

Three points:

HYGEINE: It doesn't matter how physically attractive, muscular, or successful you are. If you are engulfed in a miasma of dental rot, swamp ass, and cheap cologne, you may as well be spraying Mace all over the nightclub. Women will be repelled by your aroma.

CONFIDENCE: This is often confused with arrogance or attempting to present as "Alpha" (whatever the fuck that means) which is a huge turnoff. Don't be a dick. The secret is being totally authentic and giving zero fucks what anyone thinks without being an asshole about it.

COMMUNICATION: Let her talk without dominating the conversation, talking over her, or being absorbed in yer phone. LISTEN to what she says and REMEMBER it.

Master these three things and your odds increase exponentially.

rcollinsmac · 2022-07-23T06:21:19+00:00

Are talking about physical

Edit: Answer I know this will start a sh*t storm: If they voted for Trump!

Acceptable_Stop_7063 · 2022-07-23T06:43:22+00:00

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TemperatureAlert2370 · 2022-07-23T07:23:20+00:00

Lots of different things…are they who they said they were when we meet in person, am I attracted to them, do they seem interested in getting to know me or are they distracted by their phone the whole time, how they treat other people around us, do I feel any sort of connection with them, what kind of vibe am I getting from them. Sometimes the energy coming off them just doesn’t feel right to me and I want to get the hell out of there. Being too negative can be a real turn off. Smell as well. One guy who was super nice didn’t get a second date because of the way he smelled. Wasn’t a bad smell per say…not like BO or anything….just wasn’t a smell I could stand the thought of being all over me

Timely_Still194 · 2022-07-23T09:18:25+00:00

if a man wears dior sauvage or just smells good and “manly”, i am alr on my knees my guy.

if he shows interest and asks interesting questions. imean, he gotta look the part, so if he looks handsome and/or is very attractive, again, i’m alr on my knees 💀

daniellev1012 · 2022-07-23T09:27:19+00:00

The biggest turn on is their ability to make me laugh/smile. I think the biggest turn off is talking about all the things the have, how well off they are, bragging, and arrogance. I am all for a confident man, but there’s a fine line between confidence because you have a good sense of self-worth and just self-inflated, cockiness.

brigitteLac · 2022-07-23T09:59:07+00:00

Turn off: when they brag in an obnoxious way about money, travels, accomplishments etc.

Turn on: maturity, emotional intelligence, kind soul, vulnerability without feeling not like a man, being non judgemental, patience, taking care of yourself ( not being hot, but looking after yourself because it makes me think you’d take care of me or my loved ones and you have self respect )

If you’re good looking it helps ofc, but if you’re just not without the above you’re a red flag walking ( IMO)

tartful_d0dger · 2022-07-23T10:55:26+00:00

Someone who manages to balance charisma and humility is sexy as fuck. However, I understand that not everyone has great social skills, so it's a "good to have", rather than a necessity.

My hard turn offs are negativity and pushiness. Negativity as in complaining, about anything & everything, especially during the first date. Pushiness is self explanatory.

Janey-Smith · 2022-07-23T12:04:58+00:00

Manners and being a gentleman to everyone not just trying to impress me is a huge turn on and unsolicited dick pics and being rude or have emotional outbursts are huge turn offs

heywhatsup82347 · 2022-07-23T06:06:00+00:00

Turn off if someone who doesn’t take care of themselves physically and mentally. Also people that don’t go to the gym. People that watch news and want to talk politics

random-naija-guy · 2022-07-23T07:36:27+00:00

I’m not a woman, but I find it interesting that a good number of the responses from women here are saying they want a “straightforward, honest guy who isn’t putting on a persona”, but isn’t that the entire point of this subreddit. To master the persona you put on to be attractive to the opposite sex? An aspect of pick up art (if you can call it an art) is that it’s inherently manipulative.

So then, would it be wise to just… improve your persona more so that women believe you’re being more genuine about yourself than you may be? Or am I missing something?

foreign_sorbet03 · 2022-07-23T08:36:48+00:00

Stop calling women "females." Incel red flag #1

mtgxbuster · 2022-07-23T07:28:37+00:00

A big dick, good looks, and a fat wallet. That's all that matters to women.

jjboy91 · 2022-07-23T07:58:42+00:00

Girls when you say clean you mean showered, wax everywhere ?

ejvee · 2022-07-23T08:13:47+00:00

Be confident and self assured. Any ounce of self doubt or awkwardness and we’re out of there.

JanetInSC1234 · 2022-07-23T09:21:22+00:00

Nice face, nice smile are very attractive, but he has to be a good person as well. Acting like an AH is an immediate turn-off.

ZoeticLark · 2022-07-23T09:50:07+00:00

I need conversational breaks, moments of silence and for gods sake dont give me your life story on the first date, or ask me about mine. A first date where they ask you a bunch of personal stuff and then never ask you out again is not a good look or feeling, whatever the reasons for not going on a second date, it seems like really rude set up either way

Prior to a recent date he mentioned his ex, and that he is "totally over that" which indicated to me that he isnt over it at all. Indeed he dove deep into that past. Mean what you say and dont over explain things unless you really need to. Assume I'm intelligent and you wont wear me out with unenccessary extra, repeated information. ALOT of men still dumb things down and inside im cringing for them, smiling and nodding on the outside, saying i understand, got it, uh huh, to try to get them to get it, without being rude.. yawn. Learn to read your female audience.

To make things worse, profuse apologizing so then i try to make him feel better about what he was choosing to focus on. So exhausting!! I have to explain, its ok, we all have stuff but its the end of my work week and ive been listening to people problems all week, i want some light conversation, not to be treated as if i need a lesson on what abuse looks like. Ha!

If you let personal stuff out and it feels like too much, just aknowledge that and move on, dont keep making them make you feel better. Abuse sucks i get that, but being a victim can be used as an abusive control tactic too and to avoid the most painful truth of all, that if we are adults, we were there too and made at least some of the choices that led to certain results. Just leave the therapy dump coversations between you and your therapist. But dont avoid anything personal at all. Its a balance.

Mostly i dont want to be overwhelmed with either a barrage of questions or too much detailed info that i wont be able to retain or keep straight after just one date. Learn to appreciate little things, take conversational pauses and focus on mostly positive conversational subjects on a first date. If it gets deep and personal, thats fine, just bring it back to something neutral and light hearted, before too long!

Abusing conversational attention and hijacking mine is a turn off.

ZoeticLark · 2022-07-23T10:13:00+00:00

Women live in a twilight zone of a systematic denial of their intelligence and the best film example ive seen recently is called Hysteria. I highly recommend it considering the funny fact that for some period of time there was a doctor that was wacking women off And it was considered a legitimate treatment for "hysteria" because they actually believed that women can't sense pleasure. Its a convenient lie to tell if you want to do displeasurabke things to another human. Men of that era didn't realize that the reason women didn't sense pleasure was because men never bother to give it to them or allow them the same privileges. A person who is treated like a dumb slave isnt allowed space for such things as personal.pleasure. That disconnect and that history is woven into our cell memory. I am reminded of it daily in all the little ways i am talked over belittled and dismissed. It still prevails. A man that sees that And can transcend psycholgical patterns woven into our society, without needing a gold star for evolving, will seriously have my attention. I will notice because they stand out like a becon of light, in a black and white world. That, and therapy. I can tell if a man has had therapy in his life or not, usually in the first few minutes of meeting. All this might sound strange, but it all comes down to safety. Am i psychologically safe with this person or are they subconsciously living out the projections of bygone eras? Majority of men are not safe emotionally for women (and vice versa- women are also caught in the projections and all the coping mechanisms they require) for this reason alone so its hard to address unaknowledged factors. I dont need to talk about it, i need to see change in action and thats the biggest turn on of them all.

damnsushiroll · 2022-07-23T12:14:46+00:00

The biggest turn off would be when a guy would try too hard to be something he's not. you know, trying to be something he thinks would be ideal for me instead of just being himself and making a genuine connection, if that makes sense.

Title	Calling all females…
Author	OreOscar1232
Upvotes	17
Comments	127
Date	July 23, 2022 4:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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