Dance with her.

testmypatience · 2012-04-02T22:03:08+00:00

There is something to this.

Most of my better club nights have been when I've gotten my ass on the floor. In the past I've done well opening a girl, talking to her, and then going out and finding her later with her friends and dancing with her.

That way when you approach her, her friends know you and it's smoother, but it works either way.

I can't dance for SHIT btw, I can't even shuffle, but I still regularly get opportunities to grind my man-bits on the asses of ferociously hot 18-25 year old females. Just get out there, grab hands, SPIN BITCHES.

Pick them up too, like literally, in the air. They love this*

*Obviously not if they have a short skirt/dress, dumbass

BrewerInTheAir · 2012-04-03T04:27:06+00:00

Be this guy.

TurningItIntoASnake · 2012-04-03T00:35:52+00:00

I'm convinced you can do anything on the dance floor if you have rhythm, confidence and a big ass smile. I've gotten complimented on how good I am at dancing when I honestly have no idea what I'm doing.

Chrono803 · 2012-04-03T00:32:54+00:00

I'm glad this post is here. Recently I've started doing some club dancing. I'm, by far, not the best, but the times I've done it have been the best nights out so far. I'm sure the touching you do while dancing with the girl helps as well.

tdltuck · 2012-04-03T05:07:29+00:00

guy here, I like dancing... =/

CinSity0 · 2012-04-03T13:33:47+00:00

Asking to dance is by far the best and easiest opener. See below for a variation from last weekend (F-close/K-closes, multiple #'s) and my cannot fail, if you own it get her to dance floor responses.

"You're so close to the dance floor! but not dancing! Let's fix this. (Grab and go, gotta own it)

Open with something about her/group looking fun/not fun...

Tease, so if you don't want to have fun/dance you must not be a good dancer huh? She says yes I am. U answer directly with “Then show me”. (grab and go)

She answers im bad or not that good (joking or serious), you directly answer with - haha well good, “We can go be bad together” (grab and go)

SummerV · 2012-04-03T14:36:54+00:00

Yeah, but then you go to dance with her and she refuses, or moves away, etc.

RhinoFeeder · 2012-04-03T04:55:08+00:00

Dancing with a girl is always interesting to me, as it's the one time where you let the girl lead (for grinding at least, since it seems we're talking about dancing in clubs).

It's her show, not* yours, and she probably moves better than you anyways. Girls are generally impressed if you can just follow the rhythm with them and keep up. Try to keep your hands moving on her body, just don't do too much too quick.

It really helps to bring one of your female friends to the club with you too just to dance with at first. Gets your nerves out and makes other girls more interested in you.

aharddayznight · 2012-04-03T09:01:43+00:00

this is very good advice, i just wish that i had known how to dance before deciding i would try it. i ended up squirming awkwardly on the dance floor my first time.

callmedood · 2012-04-03T13:29:06+00:00

Yah dancing can be really fun. Was at a club last night, saw a HB9 dancing by herself and no one was approaching her, I approached her, and continued to dance with her (lots of grinding) for 45 minutes. Pity that every time I went for a kiss (3x) she gave me the cheek. But when I pulled out my phone to get her #, she basically snapped the phone out of my hands to put it in.

donggg · 2012-04-03T15:26:32+00:00

Since this is a dance thread: tips on escalation while grinding with a girl who's taller than you?

inkyou · 2012-04-03T18:58:07+00:00

1,000x yes!!!!

For the past five months I've been partaking in a ballroom dancing class. Now we don't learn just ballroom, we've learned Cha Cha, Foxtrot, Zydeco, Salsa, Meringue, Waltz, etc. And it's probably the only class where I'm really going to use this information for the rest of my life. It has increased my confidence significantly, and Im still not even that great of a dancer.

but today, I really made an initiative to deviate from the same dance progression and really LEAD. and when they say bitches loves spinning, this is true! I pulled out some random spins that weren't in the "pattern" but they LOVED IT. Their facial reaction is just priceless and I've never seen them happier. One said, "Wow, ok I wish you would have warned me, but my god, that was awesome!"

just wanted to randomly share. and guys, take a lesson or two if you need. Many colleges and universities offer these classes. Sometimes even for free. Great life skill!

and remember rule #1:HAVE FUN!

Michael_Cassio · 2012-04-03T22:25:59+00:00

http://www.succeedsocially.com/dance I'm not really big on this site but this one article has tons of good tips. Think of dancing as a routine and that's how you can make a solid, personal dance routine

IAmTheOmNom · 2012-04-03T09:41:35+00:00

My last night definitely confirms this. Did some crazy ass moves and everybody loved them ... especially my girl. ;)

sdsb5 · 2012-04-03T16:04:38+00:00

Any woman worth having will give yu an "A" for effort. But work on it... nothing can turn them on more than a guy who dances good. They relate this to being good in bed.

calaber24p · 2012-04-03T17:03:43+00:00

I love dancing even if im not that great at it, it is a socially acceptable way to show your complete physical side.

nevercomment · 2012-04-03T20:35:43+00:00

Any good links on this site about learning how to dance?

Any youtube tutorials?

jimii · 2012-04-03T20:39:05+00:00

Being in decent shape + having fun dancing (even if you're not even that good) = instant interest from tons of girls on the dancefloor.

I actually had two friends tell me that every time I dance girls are looking in my direction/facing me wanting me to go dance with them. I was just too socially retarded at the time to to realize it (Actually probably too drunk too. lol).

drastro · 2012-04-03T21:09:44+00:00

Approach anxiety doesn't hold a candle to my dance anxiety...any pro-tips? Is it worth taking a basic class? I dance like a white guy and previous girlfriends would openly mock me about it.

tdltuck · 2012-04-04T04:53:30+00:00

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kman43332 · 2012-04-09T03:42:00+00:00

EVERYONE SUCKS AT DANCING! Unless you are professionally trained, you are bad. What makes a person believe that you are good at dancing is confidence. That is it. Be confident and let the compliments flow to you.

dakru · 2012-04-03T02:59:34+00:00

Dancing is stupid.

Hmm? It can be intimidating but dancing's fun, whether it's with friends or random girls.

Title	Dance with her.
Author	tdltuck
Upvotes	122
Comments	56
Date	April 2, 2012 9:03 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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