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Turbopre2 · 2022-09-07T09:28:11+00:00

Next time do the same thing she does to you and gauge her reaction. But tbh she's just a waste of time.

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-09-07T09:51:34+00:00

This chick sounds annoying and toxic, playing one hell of a push pull game. Bro exit, don’t entertain this chick no more, you didn’t blow your chances she blew hers. If you want to attend the get together go for it, but don’t talk to her, talk to other people, bring a date with you when you go.

hunterpua · 2022-09-07T09:32:39+00:00

So have you guys ever encountered a woman like this?

Definitely.

And I guess the next question is do I call her out on it, or do I just enjoy the flirting for what it is and not act or move on it?

Calling someone out on this behavior doesn't really help you apart from being able to vent your frustrations if you have any.

Me personally, I never just see one girl at a time when I'm single.

For example, if I have a date set up with one girl for later this week that doesn't mean I'll just avoid meeting, flirting, and setting up dates with other girls in the meantime.

Flirting with someone, going on dates with them, even having sex with them doesn't mean you're in a committed relationship. You're only in a committed relationship when you've mutually agreed to that with each other.

So before that point I act like I'm free to do whatever, because I am.

So if all a girl does is flirt but never actually takes things beyond that it won't bother me because I usually have other girls who'd be willing to get intimate anyway.

Besides, you can milk what she's doing for all its worth by taking pictures with her or putting up Instagram stories with her while she's being very flirty with you. You can also flirt with other girls who see her flirting with you, like if there were other cute girls at that work party you were in.

Just because she won't get intimate with you doesn't mean she can't indirectly help you get to that point with someone else.

keptit2real · 2022-09-07T10:43:30+00:00

Best advice I ever got on this sub.

Don't ignore, but don't engage

She's a waste of time

incognito3107 · 2022-09-07T11:03:44+00:00

There are girls who act really carefree as it comes to sexual dynamics, they love the thrill, they love the game.

Maybe she is not interested to get with you the normal way like dating, but she would like to make some push-pull sexual dance with you until something naturally happen. Or she is never considering it, and she just messes around for fun. You decide, you can play along but subtly show that you are not so easily persuaded and you will play by your rules too.

FiftyNereids · 2022-09-07T10:02:38+00:00

Nah no point calling her out on it. Judging from your story she seems like the type that just loves the attention and the chase without actually wanting to date you.

I’ve met chicks like this before, many of them just want to feel the rush and feelings of being desired and pursued. They like the idea of having a man dance on the edge of their palm because it feeds their ego and their own perception of their own beauty.

The reason why they keep going cold is because they’re simply not interested. Yet they don’t want the chase to end either since you’re their narcissistic supply so they keep stringing you along to keep this cycle unending.

All I can say is, if she’s flaked multiple times already, what makes you think she won’t do it again?

The only other confrontation you could have with her is to directly tell her how you feel and then she’d have to give you a straight answer. I don’t recommend this though since this is a coworker and things can get messy real quick.

I’d say though just by reading the scenarios you provided, she’s not someone worth being in a relationship with. Women like this are extremely immature and selfish, the fact that they’re okay stringing you along for personal validation is an indicator of the type of individual you’re dealing with.

I agree with the other comments, this woman is a waste of your time.

Uttzpretzels · 2022-09-07T10:09:53+00:00

She sounds like the type of woman you are assuming her to be. Next time she throws herself at you just shrug her off and walk away. That will send a clear message to her that you know she’s fake.

63mann · 2022-09-07T10:43:46+00:00

Enjoy her friendship and if it’s too much work just move on. No need to overthink this.

Baron_Semedi_ · 2022-09-07T10:53:34+00:00

This bitch is crazy. Doesn't matter what her attentions are. Don't waste your time on her and keep it professional since you have no choice but to see her mug since you work with her.

Thuggyfresh1989 · 2022-09-07T10:59:06+00:00

She wants you to be her gay bestie lol just stay away if you don't like the outcome

help-im-alive451 · 2022-09-07T11:29:39+00:00

This flag is so fucking red.

Stay away man. She's fucked up good men before and is addicted to those reactions. She hates the idea of sex or is afraid. You can't call this out it won't work. The defense is just there.

Just forget her and you'll immediately find something better. Trust me, just drop it.

Molteni- · 2022-09-07T09:33:52+00:00

Are you sure she hasn't BPD?

EducationalMeeting95 · 2022-09-07T09:56:39+00:00

Maybe she's using you to make some other guy jealous ?

Always inviting for 'group' hangouts.

Flirty vibes in office where others are present.

Dig down in her friend group and maybe you can get answers.

dump_fool · 2022-09-07T09:30:19+00:00

She wants to impress her group - but you are socially inept too.

atomant88 · 2022-09-07T09:45:28+00:00

who cares? attempt to escalate with consent. if theyre not down; dump them. dont entertain time wasters.

Jasonhardon · 2022-09-07T10:53:54+00:00

No don’t say anything. Don’t be reactive that’s a pussy thing to do. You bring them into your world not vicesa-versa

2022-09-07T10:20:38+00:00

i had it a bunch in school, i’m pretty sure it’s just attention as you say

FlexDrillerson · 2022-09-07T10:38:08+00:00

You should stop asking her out because she seems to like playing these games. If she’s cool and you like hanging out with her and going to her group activities, then I would just keep the flirty friendship going without expectations of dating her. But if you’re tired of the games and don’t like these group activities or her friends, then I would just let the friendship slowly die off by declining any future invite. Since you work together, I’d keep it as cordial as possible by not calling her out and just be friendly if she continues the flirting.

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-09-07T10:38:39+00:00

Well… men do it too so it’s completely possible…

Bandit_Beamish · 2022-09-07T10:55:03+00:00

First, stop going on group dates, hangouts, sessions, whatever you want to call them. Atleast until you got da draws. You won't be building any sexual tension with her if her attention is spread out over a group of people. Also it's easy to tell which girls just want attention by asking them on a date, which you did, then having a 3 date rule. If y'all haven't had sex after 3 dates, just drop her. Never call them out on this, your actions speak louder than your words.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-09-07T15:50:19+00:00

Maybe she's a bit infatuated with you and trying to figure you out...like exactly what you want from her.

But it seems the consensus is clear. American men would like for you to stay away from her as far as possible!

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