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hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-08-18T19:14:54+00:00

LET HER, always let them talk about making it exclusive, that's how it's always been to me, basically just shows that you know without a doubt she has some real interest in you

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-08-18T19:31:17+00:00

Your job is to be fun. She will bring up relationship talk around 5-7 weeks if she likes you

I promise if you bring up anything that sounds like a relationship (ie act like a woman) she'll lose attraction

MrBlack__ · 2022-08-18T19:53:12+00:00

Never bro

Hang out n have fun

TheShittingFart · 2022-08-18T21:57:25+00:00

Nice username

Crowntent · 2022-08-18T23:46:33+00:00

Lucky sob rn

chips_and_hummus · 2022-08-18T20:01:53+00:00

I think it's totally ok for you to bring up the relationship talk. I wouldn't listen to folks saying let her do it, doesn't make any sense. Especially given all the amazing signs it seems you're getting.

That being said, 2 weeks is a liiiiiittle bit soon. However, sometimes people fall hard and quick. if you're pretty confident the feeling is mutual then you should feel comfortable bringing it up. A slight modification would be to frame it as being "exclusive", and seeing her response. That's a bit lighter than saying "hey do you want to be my girlfriend?". Some people will do an "exclusive but not calling bf/gf" phase in between the bigger leap to full on committed relationship. This is to see how things go for another couple weeks because there is always a honeymoon phase and you don't want to commit too hard too early. If she is on the side of "being exclusive is the same as being bf/gf", and pushes you back on that, then that's your in to say "well I'm open to that if you are".

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-18T20:06:16+00:00

Someone must start The Talk. The sooner the better.

AngeloMacon · 2022-08-18T20:40:00+00:00

If you're asking us, don't be asking her. General rule of thumb is let a woman push the relationship forward. If you have some experience, there does become a point where there's no harm. I'm guessing you're not that experienced though.... so just keep courting her without saying anything about monogamy, girlfriend, moving in together, or wife unless she brings it up first.

Mmm91for · 2022-08-18T21:36:12+00:00

You don’t. This is for the female to bring up.

whitepillman · 2022-08-19T01:53:10+00:00

Woman needs to be the one to ask for the relationship (she wants to from an attraction standpoint). That said, you don’t want to risk her thinking you’re not serious about her (the opposite problem I’ve made). You bridge the gap with clues/action (not words) that you are open to a relationship if she asks. Take her on a nice date to a nice place and tell her to dress up and wear something nice and pay for everything on the date - guys who don’t want a relationship don’t do this. Don’t do flowers or overdo or anything. Don’t give her the “you’re special to me” speech. None of that. The nice date itself is a simple indication you want a relationship. Get her to sleep over more, cuddle with her more, hold her hand more, and get her to invest in you more (have her cook you breakfast in the morning). The more “things” she does for you the better so keep an eye on that too. She WILL ask for exclusivity if that’s what she wants. So focus on very small indicators that you’re open to it and she will close the deal.

International_Pen483 · 2022-08-18T21:04:15+00:00

After you laid her

Competitive-Link-912 · 2022-08-18T22:58:14+00:00

Let her bring it up. She will do it eventually.

Be honest when she generally asks if you are looking for a relationship at the start. If the topics comes up again about her in the early stage like her but need to get to know her better be committing.

Intentions communicated generally without coming across as desperately infatuated.

If things go well, you naturally fall into a relationship like lifestyle with her and she will bring it up.

How she brings it up could vary from wanna be exclusive /bf and gf. Her telling you she’s not dating anyone else to saying I love with within 3 weeks as a Freudian slip 🤣

DontCallMeTopher · 2022-08-18T23:15:46+00:00

Women chase commitment, men chase sex. Keep doing your thing and let her bring it up. Otherwise she is going to know she’s got you hooked.

Chance_Memory_3063 · 2022-08-18T19:07:36+00:00

Ain’t no way this a real question. Your a man you should be the one asking not the girl. If your keep waiting it’s going to end. Ask her.

Used-Engineering4996 · 2022-08-18T19:12:09+00:00

Have you gotten physical yet?

grindforthegold · 2022-08-18T22:58:06+00:00

this makes me a bit jealous :’) happy for you. just take it easy man. don’t be too serious bringing up a serious talk.

you can say something funny like if she gets jealous be like oooh are you jealous? you want me all to yourself? I think i’d be ok with that

But usually I ask girls out at the 4 week / month mark if we’re like basically already dating

most girls will bring up dating etc within that time frame and you know you’re good. don’t let it go too long to the point though they think you’re just playing them

GlitteringPause8 · 2022-08-18T23:08:00+00:00

Uh longer than 2 weeks lol. You don’t even know her.

I think most couples are around 3 months of dating but for me personally I’m gonna need to know someone a lot longer than that.

incognito3107 · 2022-08-19T07:25:07+00:00

After some time, when you get to the high level of mental and physical intimacy, comfort, mutual experiences, getting to know each other very well. You can simply ask "Are you seeing anyone else?", but it is not that obligatory, actions speak louder than words as it comes to relationships.

Amikatey · 2022-08-19T12:30:08+00:00

Leading is masculine man, and I doubht if it's something you have to logically discuss with her. Your already sexing so I think you should be boyfreind girlfriend already.

dapanch420 · 2022-08-19T17:09:02+00:00

Be a man, tell her you want her be direct and up front " hey girl i really like you and i wanna make you mine" stop playing this waiting game wondering if she likes you or not, ask her and if she says yes then great, if not then move on.

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