Worried she just thinks I'm a friend

tomgjo · 2022-05-13T02:05:40+00:00

You're overthinking it, from what I am reading, she is genuinely interested in you.

You are creating a false barrier, shoot your shot. Now that doesn't mean she wants anything more then a friendship... however there's only one way to find out.

KriticalKarl · 2022-05-13T02:46:34+00:00

You should be making definite dates bro, and your dates should be in the evening doing something that inspires romance. Going to the park gives off friendly vibes (trust me I’ve made that mistake before and was almost friend-zoned). Also verifying if she’s free the day of comes off as needy, it’s like saying “I’m just checking to see if you didn’t change your mind about hanging out with me because I don’t feel good enough”.

Also you need to be more confident in yourself or all of this is pointless. If you project your insecurities on to her you will definitely be considered a friend. From what you’ve shared she’s interested, but if you don’t capitalize off of that interest soon it will be a lost cause.

My advice: Call her, ask for her availability over the next week, suggest a DEFINITE time and place and ask if she would like to join you. If she agrees then it’s confirmed she is interested, if she declines or gives some lame excuse without suggesting a counter that is reasonable (meaning it’s realistic for your schedule and not a friendly meetup) then just move on. Going forward be more confident bro, and be decisive, women want a confident man that takes the lead which takes the pressure off of them.

ChoppedBelAir · 2022-05-13T04:33:20+00:00

Relax. You both frequent the same place so you can take your time to build up communication and familiarity and trust. Keep chatting like normal but remember to ask emotional questions like "how was that?" "What was that like?" And "how do you feel about that?" Joke around. Flirt a little. Maybe find a dog friendly Cafe and ask her to join you for a drink there after. Don't push for everything all at once.

When the vibe feels right, after some time try again for a dinner or something like that.

l1ght- · 2022-05-13T12:05:13+00:00

Your only mistake so far is not sexualising

stephenbish · 2022-05-13T12:32:30+00:00

ask her out and make it clear you like her, always remember rejection is better than regret

Neo-Rio · 2022-05-13T03:31:11+00:00

Unless you're pushing things in a sexual direction, she's going to see you as a nice guy.

The problem with nice guys is that while they're nice (which is good), they don't make things go in a sexual direction and hence the woman just never sees them in any other way. They give their "value" away (by spending time with them talking forever, giving them the attention they crave) without imposing a fee for it with something they want (sex).Of course, there is no forcible imposition - the woman is free to do whatever - but by not bringing it up in the first place there is no cost to the woman for wasting your time.

Basically nice guys fail to escalate things in a way that they want - fearful of losing the girl. It's like presenting a house for sale and just forgetting to ask if the person is interested in buying while handing them a contract.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-13T02:12:24+00:00

Move on dude. You are way too insecure to be able to seduce this girl.

DragonDinner22 · 2022-05-13T04:38:36+00:00

Just be sexual. You'll never get in the friend zone.

confidence_man91 · 2022-05-13T07:42:19+00:00

shes not romantically interested she just wants a friend

incognito3107 · 2022-05-13T08:34:58+00:00

Well, you seem to give only friendly vibe to her, how would she be not confused about your intentions where there is nothing sexual going on between you till now? You need to slightly break physical and mental intimacy barriers with her. Also, you've met already 3 times in the park, is it a good idea to repeat these circumstances once again? Think more about your moves and read the actual emotional situation, leave the past in the past.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-05-13T09:11:02+00:00

Wtf did I just read..? She gave you her number, call her up and ask her out again for the absolute last time. If she stonewalls, or has any excuse whatsoever delete her number and find another dog park.

revente · 2022-05-13T10:55:47+00:00

I'm worried she might just think I'm a friendly guy but not have any real interest in me.I'm worried she might just think I'm a friendly guy but not have any real interest in me.

Exactly! So you need to show her your intentions. Escalate!

Ill-Philosophy3835 · 2022-05-13T18:43:42+00:00

What kind of dog do you have?

gangweedsavedme · 2022-05-13T18:55:10+00:00

Give her space to chase you a little bit

Title	Worried she just thinks I'm a friend
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Upvotes	18
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Date	May 13, 2022 1:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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