How do you flirt without coming across as a simp?

Wonderful-Rock741 · 2022-05-12T20:06:50+00:00

I used “has anyone ever told you how beautiful… MY eyes are?” just the other night and it killed. At a table full of people, she was sitting right next to me staring into my eyes to see what color they were. Whole table lost it.

Use sexual innuendo. It was taco Tuesday. She ordered fish tacos. I kept teasing her about letting me try her fish taco. One of them was pokè tuna. Made jokes about loving it raw. She was all touchy feely by the end of the night

Edit: spelling

Erbium-Oxide · 2022-05-12T20:10:38+00:00

I just bully her. They seem to like it.

MrValentine___ · 2022-05-13T05:22:26+00:00

1)DONT compliment her. Make flirting about you two , instead of about her.

2)Eye fuck her , and maintain strong eye contact with a smirk and a stern face. Think of how James bond does it.

3)Speak slowly and firmly. Dont rush up your words , speak like you want to be heard.

4)Tease her , say things which can have a double meaning.

5) Dont be afraid of silence or of running out of conversation. Be comfortable with silence yourself between you and the girl , this builds trust. Also use silence to your advantage , sometimes just looking a girl in the eyes and smirking when the convo runs out works wonders.

6) Touch her and close the distance. Be close enough that she can smell the colonge. Touch her on the arm shoulder , lower back and tuck her hair in the back of her ear if it falls on her face. Dont poke her , rather caress her when trying to touch.

7)Dont be a dick , but let her know that you have a dick.

EARLY20RAG3R · 2022-05-12T13:51:29+00:00

Its simple, make her feel god about herself but dont put her on a pedestal Pretty intuitive

GlitteringPause8 · 2022-05-13T01:00:43+00:00

If you are worried about looking like a “simp” then you are more concerned with how guys see you. Guys are the ones judging other guys for being “simps”.
A girl is into you or she’s not, doesn’t matter if you are a “simp” or not. So just flirt like how you want and be yourself. If she’s into it, great. If not, move on.

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-05-12T19:15:31+00:00

“I hate that dress.” Let it sink in. “It makes your ass way too hot.”

DufflebagForever · 2022-05-12T14:37:09+00:00

witty and confidence. don’t dote on her.

rhofire · 2022-05-12T14:46:29+00:00

So that doesn't turn her off, or push her away.

If you are confident in yourself, you don't worry about such stuff. Worrying about it is what pushes her away. What makes you think this is a problem for you?

ricagraca · 2022-05-12T16:06:39+00:00

No expectations, tell the truth, be kind and fun, tease if she is interested

These-Calligrapher · 2022-05-12T21:48:01+00:00

Tease, push pull, back handed compliments with a smirk that are obviously playful and that are not even close to being rude. Playful comments with sexual innuendo. Take it back to the playground and tease her. Have fun

Black_Box0110 · 2022-05-12T23:06:02+00:00

Here is how; Step 1) Be good looking and fit. Step 2) Since you have 'step one' taken care of, dont say something that makes you look stupid and you are good to go.

Financial-Review-470 · 2022-05-12T23:30:59+00:00

It's a turn off when a guy is obviously trying to flirt. I don't know why it is for me. I like banter and love jokes. Pick up lines, or obvious over the top flirting is a no for me. Some girls don't like joking banter though. I think those are the girls who like over the top flirting.

KriticalKarl · 2022-05-13T00:12:33+00:00

I’d say they is to not flood her with compliments, it instantly comes off as though you are trying to please her which lowers a woman’s attraction because you’d come off as if she’s on a higher level than you.

Like others have mentioned, the go to is to be witty, it takes confidence to pull it off and social awareness to not say something that is out of pocket. Think playful teasing.

that-image · 2022-05-12T15:09:41+00:00

You could say some cute, sexy, or exciting things you'd like to do to or with her.

Lucazzz14 · 2022-05-12T16:30:34+00:00

Don't put her on a pedestal and be your reason of existence.

humptyone · 2022-05-13T00:55:25+00:00

Well, I will guess that you already have a date? If so, compliment. Be real, and sincere. Women aren't dumb, they know when they are being bullshited. I have heard most of them laugh off the players.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-05-13T01:59:58+00:00

The definition of a “Simp” is a silly or foolish person. If you’re hitting on a woman, you’re going to look silly or foolish at some point, so just own it.

Knowbudycares · 2022-05-13T06:06:26+00:00

Tell them u have a gf lol

determinator94 · 2022-05-13T06:31:06+00:00

Flirting is all about triggering a woman’s emotional responses - positive and negative. In other words, you might potentially trigger her, and that’s okay. Just flirt while smiling so she knows you’re not 100% serious AND keep your body language masculine and upright - straight body, shoulders back, head up.

brainglasses · 2022-05-13T07:57:43+00:00

You don't, let them do all the work.

Title	How do you flirt without coming across as a simp?
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Date	May 12, 2022 1:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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