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dingleburry_joe · 2022-01-29T16:28:22+00:00

Dude your 23, you got your whole life ahead of you. Stop being a bitch and start making better choices, most people don't even stop or wait till it's wayy to late. Good luck

HalfInflatedDogLord · 2022-01-29T16:51:42+00:00

I'm 48 and you know what? I fucked around when I was your age too and I'm doing fine. Heck, I've been doing alright since around my late 20s. I went to college around 27 or 28 and was able to work in a field that I was good at. Even if you don't get on track the same time as I did, you still have plenty of time. A friend of mine was completely adrift as he turned 30, and he decided to just upend his life, move to the Yukon and just make a go of it. Now he's happily married, with a cute little daughter, and a podcast he loves doing. Just figure out what you're good at and find a way to do it. As far as social life, I find that it just sort of comes together. Either through meeting people at college (if you go), or through whatever job you do.

The best thing you can do right now is to not sweat it. Stop worrying and look at your life like it's just beginning.

bloodyblob · 2022-01-29T18:03:34+00:00

Wasted your life? Stfu, just go out and meet random people.

2022-01-29T17:15:44+00:00

Dude, I’m 22 and I completely understand where you’re coming from. In fact I think I was in a worse position than you were. I lost all my friends because of my antisocial behavior and bitter personality. Which I have learned it stemmed from lack of affection and attention at home. The only form of affection I received was working for my family business on weekends and a “good job” from my parents. I had literally one friend growing up. This made me self reserved and self loathing. In fact it made me so insecure that I started valuing my self through how much money I had and how expensive I dressed because it was my only outlet. This lifestyle led me to being arrested on grand larceny charges just 3 years ago. Just in the past year thanks to social distancing and a lot of self reflecting I am beginning to unfold and breakdown who I was and becoming who I want to be. I love people at my core I love to talk to people and I want to trust people. I am working on this and will continue to. I just started doing this meditation thing called “heal your inner child” I think it’s going to be good for me in the long run. With all that being said, please go look at yourself in the mirror and just talk about who you want to be and how you can become that person. Please don’t dwell on the past when you can work on being what you want today. If anything please reach out I would love to discuss further and just get to know you take care!

mrcastrospeaks · 2022-01-29T17:08:26+00:00

How do you want to improve your social life if your own life is a mess?

Before thinking about dating hot girls or walking around with smart/influent people your have to work on yourself first.

Workout, to improve your body. Study and work, to improve your knowledge and money. Get better clothes and work on your hygiene, to boost your appearance.

It will boost your CONFIDENCE, which will improve your social results.

2022-01-29T18:42:08+00:00

Since a lot of people are being harsh here, let me tell you that you still have hope, your ship is still sailing just get serious dude.

Murfdigidy · 2022-01-29T19:20:01+00:00

I had a similar story to yours except insert zero girlfriends. I was a 23yr old loser stoner, smoking 5 times a day. You think at 23 you were supposed to do so much and have experienced so much and the fact is you are still so young and most people your age have no clue wtf they're doing the rest of your lives. most people are still so insecure about themselves at 23. Even people who think they know what they're gonna do change their mind by 30.

Keys to success are, work on yourself, take steps positively each day that walk you away from all the lazy do nothing shit you currently do now. Most people fail because most people are lazy, they give up after a few weeks or even months because results take time. Self esteem is essential to work on first so that you can improve who you are but also how you view yourself, don't be your worst critic, be your most positive. Work out and exercise are also key imo, it's just so beneficial not only physically but mentally.

The walk is not a sprint it's a marathon, be patient and keep at it. DON'T STOP JUST DON'T. And one day you'll look back and say damn, I'm glad I did that

mrcloso · 2022-01-29T19:44:28+00:00

I'm 40. You have no idea how young you are. You have no idea how much potential you have. You have no idea of the many opportunities that will show up for you in the future.

Everybody goes through this kind of shit but now is the time to act and stop wasting your time.

vtorow · 2022-01-29T22:14:09+00:00

You’re 23 lmao. You didn’t even experience life yet.

SnooShortcuts9282 · 2022-01-29T22:49:11+00:00

Man I'm 35 and still digging my way out of some shit.

You're 23. You're a KID. You haven't even had a life to waste yet.

Cheer up and hop to it!

zoric75 · 2022-01-30T00:56:28+00:00

Guillermo del toro said he was done at the age of 29, that all his life had been a waste, now look at him

2022-01-30T01:36:06+00:00

I commuted a felony in my early 30’s. My life really sucked for a while. But I kept moving forward, Putting 1 foot in front of the other. And I have a great life now. Good job. Good money. Good friends. If I did it so could you.

Kieldro · 2022-01-30T02:42:47+00:00

Get your career started, get in the gym. You can make huge improvements over time

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-30T04:32:10+00:00

I’m 23 years old and have wasted my life….

You definitely haven't lol, but now is a fantastic time to get back on track.

How can I build a social life knowing that I’m so far behind in life?

You are not far behind in life, most people either a) dick around in their early 20s, b) plateau at some point in their careers and fail to progress beyond it, or c) burn out early. The people in the first category are still able to avoid being the people in the second and third categories if they play their cards right and listen to the right people.

Please feel free to be open and honest about any advice you can give, even if it’s harsh.

I will instead link this video here, which is full of advice I wish I'd taken at your age.

OnyxiasLair · 2022-01-30T10:33:53+00:00

I really really really hate to use this saying, but dude, get a grip. You're so young

Great-Poet3670 · 2022-01-29T19:33:23+00:00

You’re not far behind, you just think you are because everyone else your age is trying so hard to look grown up and tick boxes.

I like to say your 20s are about destroying the ego. All the childish ideas you had about how you’re supposed to be or how your life should turn out get challenged and eliminated. It’s a painful process.

Your 30s are about building and obtaining success.

You’re not behind trust me.

andyhura · 2022-01-29T18:38:08+00:00

So go get up and make a change! You see the things that hindered your growth, so change that. You’re still young homie, don’t let your potential die out

quantumactual · 2022-01-29T18:41:00+00:00

I’d start by reading a book called How to be a 3% Man by Corey Wayne which is literally all about dating, avoiding the pitfalls following a breakup and developing confidence.

Then I’d start going to the gym & lifting weights. There’s nothing more therapeutic and life-changing, like working out.

daysinnroom203 · 2022-01-29T19:04:14+00:00

I mean this respectfully- 23 is a baby, you’ve only begun to live. This is the start, set your rudders and direct this boat.

kory08 · 2022-01-29T19:54:42+00:00

I was in and our of rehabilitation centers until I was exactly your age. Almost ten years removed from that life I'm pretty damn successful. Don't lose hope brother.

No-Department6252 · 2022-01-29T20:47:08+00:00

I’m in the same boat I literally turned 24 yesterday and everyday I wake up I keep thinking to myself on the years I’ve wasted and where I could be had applied my efforts correctly, but I disagree with you aims. I’m in track to get in the best physalis shape I possibly can. Trust me this is more important than socializing because people want pleasure in the end and if you are good Loki outfalls you will attest many women in your life.

TrickoTreat07 · 2022-01-29T22:20:23+00:00

you realized it today, every day from now on needs to be better. apply yourself anyway you can take the job take the risk, talk to new people listen to podcasts and get out there and change something little by little until you are the person you want to be

Czekraft · 2022-01-29T22:44:32+00:00

You could easily get a programming job in under a year if you applied just as much time as drinking, smoking, and videogames.

See this story of a guy who was in a coma and tell us what excuses you have.

Voltz_got_a_potato · 2022-01-30T02:59:15+00:00

You are sailing on a different boat compared to your high school peers. Depression can hit any time and it is good to have dealt with it early in your life. Nothing you said is bad IMO, depression is bad mental health and it grows on you and evolves into an illness. My main concern for you is if you have been earning money during these 5 years and/or have sorted out with depression yet. If you haven't sorted out your problems with mental health then it is EXTREMELY important to do so! because you at the age of 23 don't know what being on peak performance really feels like. You need to have a taste of what you can do and what you can achieve to test yourself. Do you know what you want to do in life? is there a way to reach that goal? does that goal only go through the path of achieving a degree? if your main goal is to make money then a degree isn't important although if you have a dream job then it is important to get started as soon as you can. AVOID GETTING INTO DEBT. majority of your peers might already be deep down in debt that you don't know about, go for qualification and try to find the cheapest way to learn and get an entry-level job where you can build yourself to that particular job. Have a plan then make efforts to achieve that. If you enter a degree now then you will have peers who are younger than you but equally less experienced in work-life like you. Go ahead and live a great life.

EscapeVelocity83 · 2022-01-31T04:01:10+00:00

Youre 23, you havnt had a life

norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-29T17:12:50+00:00

Then stop wasting the other 70 years of your life. Start improving day by day now, and by the time you are 30 you will have caught up with the rest. If not sooner.

meteorness123 · 2022-01-30T08:58:33+00:00

I feel this way but I'm 29.

I never understand when when people in their early to mid twenties say shit like this. You havent even reached your physical prime

starsky333 · 2022-01-29T22:34:09+00:00

I can relate to this I am 24

quantumactual · 2022-01-30T02:05:20+00:00

I’m 22. Got the gf. Still not super content where I’m at. Just focus on where you are now and where you can improve. I’m trying to learn a skill currently. The gf takes up a lot of time! Love her though.

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