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LordCarnifex · 2022-01-06T17:28:29+00:00

You can break the ice in stupid ways if you can actually sustain conversation. A lot of dudes obsess over coming up with the perfect approach line but it's easier to just be organic and say something that makes sense at the time. There was one time where two friends were at a bar wearing the same color denim jacket as me. I just asked them if this was where the hot people in light blue denim were supposed to congregate. Other times when bars were super jammed I've asked a girl to weaponize her looks for me by getting herself and me a drink so I could skip the line and hand a 20. Purists will say shit like "wow lame dude you spent $5 on her" but it's that or wait 40 minutes, and my hourly is higher than that. Other times it's just a simple observation, but I don't compliment looks. Might compliment style or make an observation about shoes or clothes, but breaking that barrier will immediately let you know what's up through body language. The key IMO is to avoid seeming afraid, nervous, or intense. It's awkward for women when they can sense that you have your emotional net worth riding on their response. If you seem cool, you'll be amazed at how little it takes. And some days you will legit catch someone on their worst day and take a massive L. That's ok too.

PRSouthern · 2022-01-06T20:01:15+00:00

Maybe some unconventional advice, but then again I’m not a player/pickup type… talk to everyone. When I stopped discriminating in that sense, my social skills improved a lot. I learned how to read body language and the situation, and if my company/conversation was welcomed or not. It also made me more confident in that my outings were not defined on success with a woman. I met interesting people, I discovered a couple “gem” hangouts (sadly a couple are gone!). I was surprised to learn that when I gave people space after feeling like my company wasn’t wanted, they would sort of come back to me realizing I was just trying to strike up conversation but wasn’t being desperate. I think making the goal simply to go out, enjoy a hot meal (I always worked that in as a reward for exercise), and the possibility I may meet someone who I hit it off with..that worked for me.

You don’t have to be Superman, but put some effort into light lifting, light cardio, grooming on a basic level, clothes that fit well etc.. everything added up goes a long way. I recommend going out after exercise if possible.. you’ll feel better physically and mentally.

thelambofdeth · 2022-01-06T17:41:55+00:00

This is literally the biggest hurdle I have. It's like what if she doesn't have an eye-catching garment of clothing or something that easily strikes a conversation. It's pointless to compliment anything physical or say "you seem interesting" or "I wanted to talk to you" or the like since, duh she knows that bc you approached her. But it's like literally, how do you begin the interaction?

PimpinAndreTheGod · 2022-01-06T20:51:31+00:00

Dude, just go up to any woman and just say whatever is on your mind. Women love strange, funny or clever type of openers. Why? It shows that you don't give a fuck about what she thinks. If you can make them laugh right away, even better. Most dudes start the most fucking boring conversations with women- "Hello, how are you?"-How creative!

If you say that stuff that is interesting, off the wall or things that capture their interest, women are driven by emotions- saying "Hello, how are you?"- triggers no emotions.

jakkaroo · 2022-01-06T19:13:08+00:00

Get near them and make a comment about literally anything in the environment. If you notice something funny, share it with them (run it by a friend first to validate the humor). If you have an interesting observation, share it with them. Or ask if they've tried a particular drink you're thinking about getting. Anything along those lines. If all else fails, just get near them and let your presence be known for a while, don't stare or anything. Then just say hi with a smile and introduce yourself. There is really no wrong way to do this as long as you keep your cool and don't act like a creep. Just be genuine and friendly.

jjboy91 · 2022-01-06T19:57:58+00:00

Good question, where I live, all the people at bars are sitting down so it's super complicated.

777MK777 · 2022-01-07T02:46:25+00:00

If you give zero fucks you will get laid. I’ve gotten numbers by saying shit like “It smells like whores in here.” (Not seriously but in a fun “I love whores” kinda way)

Approached a beautiful Hawaiian woman by walking up to her and saying “What’s the deal? You only date black guys?”

If you are worried about what how or what you’re dead in the water.

Be you. Relaxed. Cocky. Funny…zero fucks.

ChicoBrillo · 2022-01-06T20:33:05+00:00

It’ll never feel like the right time and you’ll never have the right thing to say. So just do it.

Woujo · 2022-01-06T21:06:43+00:00

I made a post about this: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ra7c17/the\_best\_thing\_to\_say\_to\_a\_woman\_when\_you\_approach/

mjornir · 2022-01-06T22:20:02+00:00

I find something I like about them and drop a compliment. then ask questions and go from there

waanotherbrickll · 2022-01-07T04:17:50+00:00

"Hi, have you met Ted?"

TLu_03 · 2022-01-06T23:13:14+00:00

“You look like you’re having too much fun in here. Gonna have to ask you to tone it down a little bit please, ma’am”

stevelle174 · 2022-01-06T20:20:00+00:00

"Excuse me, I saw you across the room. You are so beautiful that I had to come introduce myself!"

Be bold

eatout2helpout · 2022-01-07T03:22:20+00:00

one foot in front of the other

burncushlikewood · 2022-01-07T05:59:03+00:00

https://youtu.be/9mVFtDiMyLY Best of luck to you! Here's rich aka gambler telling you the formula for night game, he has another video but it's over an hour

billyoatmeal · 2022-01-06T23:23:19+00:00

I don't, I let them approach me. If they happen to sit by me, I might spark a convo but that's about it. Trying to force anything is a bad idea.

5_7pickup · 2022-01-07T09:28:16+00:00

Refer to my field reports

Seauxsouthern · 2022-01-07T10:06:34+00:00

Eye fuck her. If she reciprocates…you’re in. I’m a very attractive confident woman and if a dude comes up to me without any eye contact first and just starts talking I would prob dismiss him.

Every situation is different. Is the woman alone ? Is she with friends? How do you even know if she’s single ? I feel for you dudes truly.

I’m open to give any of you a hot woman’s POV on how to seduce her…just ask.

thelambofdeth · 2022-01-07T08:02:33+00:00

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i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-01-07T03:54:42+00:00

I try and do “Hi my name is Omar”, then comment on the situation, comment on the music, talk about my week, my plans, how the night been going.

Whatever comes to mind, if anything. If nothing comes to mind, i try and slog through. Saying anything. Just try to say something. Tell her you’re nervous, and you suck your own dick if you can’t think of anything else.

denali_HD2020 · 2022-01-07T04:22:48+00:00

I just go up to girls and tell them that it looks like they' re having fun or I ask what trouble are they up to tonight.

Deep-Room6932 · 2022-01-07T06:36:02+00:00

From the front or the side... rarely from behind

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