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EstablishmentLimp477 · 2021-12-19T01:31:56+00:00

You complaining gives me bad energy too, so yeah, I would imagine them not fucking with this too.

Foolforthought080 · 2021-12-19T08:19:46+00:00

We all have a inner dialogue that we project out as vibrations. You stating that women don’t like you is bringing about that exact result into your life. Do some meditation on the ideal outcome that you would like to achieve, and envision yourself in that particular situation feeling the things you would if you were happy. Get better at small talk. That’s something I got better with, and it worked for me.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2021-12-19T12:06:21+00:00

Money, status, and looks aren't enough. For every woman (unless you're a billionaire) you need a degree of charisma as a basis. If you can't talk to them, flirty with them, and verbally excite them. You simply will not attract them.

It is what it is.

Radio_Unique · 2021-12-19T02:14:18+00:00

As a girl, you have to make me horny. So that’s what u have to learn, make women horny with ur vibe.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-12-19T00:19:57+00:00

It’s not about how you look or your possessions although they can help a bit. It’s about how you make them feel. Women are driven by emotions, not by logic.

What they like is how a guy makes them feel, not the guy in particular.

They like being roasted, teased, and provoked for fun. They like the sexual tension that arises from the presence of a masculine energy that certain guys can project.

They like how flirtation and sexualization makes them feel the spark, how it turns them on when it’s done properly.

They like it when a guy they see as attractive makes them feel special and unique, when the guy is interested in them, not based on how they look, but based on who they are.

Your posesiones can attract gold diggers, but when it comes to really being into you even when you don’t have much money, it’s all about whether you can manage to get them on the right emotional state.

It’s all about emotions, that’s what makes women like you. Emotions, feelings, sensations,…

tb12871287 · 2021-12-19T04:08:39+00:00

Get ur simp ass on bumble. Like everyone...and see who likes you back. Humble yourself buddy. Women care about money and stuff to extent but don't wana be with a bitch either.

anzelian · 2021-12-19T06:57:21+00:00

You think highly of yourself? Why? Isnt it single moms hot? Or what do you mean theyre not pretty? Yeah sure money can make you elevate your status in life but honestly, the attitude you have makes you uglier. Be a good person first. Not a nice one.

shaggy2gay · 2021-12-19T01:52:23+00:00

Looks and money don't mean nearly as much as actually having game. Learn cold approach. You'll fuck a lot and it's good for you.

introsetsam · 2021-12-19T13:43:12+00:00

your personality needs some honest work dude

junglekid1091 · 2021-12-19T15:02:26+00:00

What’s wrong with single mothers and divorcees?
Is looks all you really care about?
I hope when you say “I can light cigarettes with them” the “them” is money not the single mothers, divorcees and not very good looking women. Either way, this attitude is arrogance and you won’t attract long term relationships with that attitude.
I have neither money or status. I’m divorced and maybe a 6/10. I pull 6-8 routinely and an occasional 9 or 10; because I’m interesting and have a fun personality.
If you want love, check who you’re giving it to. The vibe you give off makes me thing you’re only going after the “hotties”. There’s a song by Jimmy Soul called “If you wanna be happy”; give it a listen. There’s a reason those girls stay single.
You don’t play games but you’re not authentic? So you lie about what you want? You can’t be straightforward and inauthentic they’re opposites. Be authentic and upfront.
Because money and looks matter very little to the types of girls you want to attract. They help you get laid, they don’t help you find a woman.

Do some charity, volunteer somewhere, give freely of yourself to others. Learn that what’s important in life is not what you have but who you are.

Taro8383 · 2021-12-19T15:09:50+00:00

It’s simple, you are boring and have nothing to offer other than money.

beans0913 · 2021-12-19T12:34:24+00:00

Ummmm, you sound like the douchebag. Sorry, but it’s truthful.

Women want more than money and decent looks. Surprise surprise! We want authentic emotionally intelligent men with depth.

And all it seems you have from your post is money, OK looks, and cigarettes

RPslimjim · 2021-12-19T06:19:26+00:00

I look decent

You need to look your best. Always. When you look your best you’ll get that confidence. Once you get that confidence you’ll get women. Continue to chase excellence and work on yourself. Money is good but discovery is much better than disclosure. But if you’re not confident enough they’ll never discover what you have to offer.

Agitated-Revenue3320 · 2021-12-19T10:51:00+00:00

You should watch Elliot Rodger's video tapes. Some of the stuff you're saying reminds me of his vibe.

stanthemilkman88 · 2021-12-19T11:56:43+00:00

You have no charm/game from the looks of it.

Do you have an active social life? Do you do anything other than work and home?

throwaway11zx · 2021-12-19T12:52:37+00:00

"I am not very authentic" that is your problem, say what you think, try it with 1 new girl, you will be shocked how much women appreciate an authentic guy

2021-12-19T01:11:21+00:00

Go for someone a few years younger than you. Age wise, you're alright. But females in their 30's and up tend to be burnouts if they're already single. They only looking to use you as a financial outlet. Avoid becoming a "sugar daddy" if you're looking for younger too, because the girl is just there for your money. The one thing douchebags do have is "stupid firmness", which is still firmness.

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-12-19T03:20:43+00:00

There’s no way money and status do not help so just keep plugging away this is not meant to be easy. You have a massive advantage. Now it’s just a matter of social calibration I guess

seattleinfall · 2021-12-19T12:26:25+00:00

At 30 the cards are already mostly played. What was good was taken in the early 20's by charisma and good looks. Now you get the leftovers and returns or escapees.

If you are buttfuck ugly no ammout of money will save you unless you accept a gold digger. And you really really shouldn't.

Expensive_Law_1193 · 2021-12-19T08:43:30+00:00

The material things and looks dont count for much. Its good to be good looking, but that doesnt meen you'll get girl. They might just be a bit more receptive to your Advanced at the start. Its all about how you act, what you believe about yourself and what you do to the girl.

Blackmetalpenguin90 · 2021-12-19T13:06:42+00:00

To everyone calling OP arrogant etc, I think you misunderstand where he is coming from and you've yet to experience the psyche of someone living with low self-esteem.

OP wants the same things that you and that are natural desires of every human being: connection with someone they are attracted to. The reason people with low self-esteem will list their good qualities and achievements in a context like this is not that they are arrogant. It's that inside they feel so unworthy of the fulfilment of their basic human desires that they will provide you with a list of positive things about them because they think without these, they would rightly be denied any experience worth living for.

I know this is pretty hard to empathise with for someone with a mostly healthy self-esteem, but people like OP are not trying to self-grandise, they are trying to justify their very existence. Attacking people like that is, while an understandable reaction from your mental framework, will just make them resent themselves and the world even more, because what they get out of it is "so even though I DID ALL THIS, you still say I don't deserve to be happy?"

While of course you're saying this because you think everyone deserves to be happy, but in OP's eyes, he doesn't.

2021-12-19T05:30:01+00:00

same man. can't figure it out either. i used to get laid ALL the time. then something happened. fuck if i know what it was.

ikatrambuthijau · 2021-12-19T14:52:54+00:00

You said it yourself, you are not authentic. You may come across as fake. And fake people are cringe.

2021-12-19T15:21:45+00:00

Whoa! I made it as far as your second sentence and realized you have a gold mine before you and you are clueless on what to do about it. You state that single mothers and divorced women like you. Single moms and divorced women are horny as hell, yet you complain that they like you?! These women want a man, and you are clearly that man. With an adjustment of inner game, you will rule!

alban1705 · 2021-12-19T13:27:26+00:00

Honestly, your 2nd and 3rd paragraph makes you sounds like a shallow douchebag and a jerk. Assuming that single moms or divorced women would only want you for "other reasons" as you so lovingly put it, is not only untrue, it's also disgusting.

You sound like the kind of guy that can't get a girl to love him and that must be because all women are faulty, right?

Get rid of your hatred, treat women like human beings, not like some possession you can attract with shiny things.

KYLE_FREELAND · 2021-12-19T10:40:58+00:00

"I look decent"

Decent is average, mediocre, lackluster.

You have to look great and feel great. There is no decent to this shit. Attitude is key. You know you're a stud, you just have to play it

Shit man from what it sounds like you're banking. Just do you for a while and they may flock your way

rickmackdaddy · 2021-12-19T10:48:42+00:00

So you made yourself a wallet. You still need to give them tingles. “Do you even lift, Brah?”

https://youtu.be/OloLS5kTrVs

politits · 2021-12-19T12:53:54+00:00

You’re bitter and impatient. And that comes across clearly in this post and I’m sure to women since they’re very perceptive and you’re blatantly advertising that fact. You don’t like “games” but it sounds like you’re describing dating, not people playing games. Sorry, but you need to be more patient in getting to know one another to allow things to develop naturally.

You also want them to love you but you don’t seem very interested in getting to know them. And you call yourself a good guy but admit you’re not authentic, which doesn’t make for a good partner. If you’re not authentic they can’t get to know you, so they can’t grow to love you. And if you’re not being authentic, then you’re either closed off or lying/pretending. Again, not a good or trustworthy partner, nor a “good guy.” In summary, you’re selfish and either withdrawn or putting on airs.

And the fact that you think money gets women means you don’t think of them as people, but objects to lire or pursue. You think they’re shallow and easily fooled by status and material things, but it’s you who’s being shallow by spending all of your time on money and status and not on developing your personality and social skills, which are what women really care about and the only way to have a successful long term relationship.

I’m not saying any of this to insult you. You asked what you’re doing wrong and I’m telling you: you need to work on your outlook and personality and views on women/dating/relationships because you’re missing most of the basics and all of the finer points.

MoStuntin · 2021-12-19T12:57:31+00:00

All I can say is start not care they can feel it and will be drawn to you look em in the eye and show them dominance

MomsSpecialFriend · 2021-12-19T13:23:31+00:00

The problem is totally your attitude. You’re 30 and won’t date someone divorced or with kids? Well, the pretty ones were already taken by 30 so thems the breaks.

You have money, you look okay, you smoke cigarettes and you judge women for having a life before you came along. It’s going to be an uphill battle.

GeneralMinister · 2021-12-19T13:47:42+00:00

Attraction isn't a choice. Read the ebook Double Your Dating

Xabierku · 2021-12-19T14:28:12+00:00

Stop the complain, you have money and I guess health too. So enjoy your time, your money and your things just have fun. Since younhave enough money enjoy your life to the fullest individually.

About girls, dont worry try to make them horny, thats what works in my short experience. Just do what you want.

seattleinfall · 2021-12-19T14:51:34+00:00

Start with NMMNG. Girls don’t like complainers. Also, I really hope you aren’t the guy who unironically shows off his bank account to women at the bar; because I’m catching those vibes. Gl.

Theory_Agile · 2021-12-19T14:51:52+00:00

Search dariusM on YouTube man, watch his videos fromna year ago

moderndayfez · 2021-12-19T15:44:36+00:00

Sound like it's probably your personality/ mentality. I assume bc you can light your cigs with your money you work . . . Alot.

Get a life outside of work or woman that you can invite them too

Right-Durian1685 · 2021-12-19T16:07:56+00:00

Your energy is negative..as is calling successful guys with girls douchebags...looks and status mean nothing if fundamentally, you are not a person whose company draws someone on and makes them want to choose to spend time with them.

AShar911 · 2021-12-19T16:10:48+00:00

Man do your shit and hobbies......don't ask them to join......they will join eventually.

Labranth · 2021-12-19T16:13:35+00:00

People who can’t look deep into themselves and accept harsh reality of things are often doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

Professional_Stick87 · 2021-12-19T16:31:56+00:00

just fuck around, give them some playful banter. try to get a little touchy during the conversation and good chance she reciprocates

something i found that has worked for me is creating scenarios like telling a girl we are going to get married and move to the bahamas. then build off of it and have fun with it

you got this chief

gregben77 · 2021-12-19T16:43:23+00:00

Just from this short post I'd say I (M24) probably wouldn't like you either.

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