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kacey- · 2021-05-19T02:49:36+00:00

My issue is I think lowly of myself already. It's the fear of someone else thinking if me the same way I think of myself. I have hit a pint where I think I need someone else to show me that it is possible to love myself

JayElectricity · 2021-05-19T00:35:09+00:00

Good job, OP. Keep it up.

It's funny, I'm not a huge fan of approaching when I'm out with people because then I feel like I'm putting on some sort of performance. When I catch myself thinking that, though, I tell myself "So what, are you afraid someone is gonna find out you like girls?" then laugh at myself.

snipe4fun · 2021-05-19T01:09:21+00:00

This is good advice and a really solid post for being so concise! Truth doesn’t need to be shined on!

loofyd · 2021-05-19T00:06:21+00:00

Thanks much !

I will keep this in mind !

SexyNuggetz · 2021-05-19T05:49:48+00:00

What’s the opening line you use I need a step by step lol

McWhiters9511 · 2021-05-19T06:13:11+00:00

2 phrases I live by. I only know my mind and only I know my mind. Failure is better than regret.

horses_around2020 · 2021-05-19T01:41:15+00:00

& to add to your " re framimg" .. I heard a motivation quote to do something( whatever action ) through fear...

undeniably_confused · 2021-05-19T02:35:47+00:00

Idk what to reply but I really want attention so thisll have to do

johannthegoatman · 2021-05-19T03:53:22+00:00

Well the difference is what other people think of me determines if they want to bang lol. People aren't crazy for caring what other people think - what other people think has a massive effect on our lives. With random strangers though it's definitely less important. The second paragraph is on point though.

Basic85 · 2021-05-19T01:55:26+00:00

Totaly agree.

RavDLC · 2021-05-19T05:50:44+00:00

Needed to hear this bro, I wanna start getting out of my comfort zone.

SaltyStrawbrry · 2021-05-19T07:38:43+00:00

My biggest issue is just startin that initial conversation with a women and gradually tryin to get them to open up. But you are right about approaching women and not caring about rejection OP

Pepper-Lion · 2021-05-19T17:03:44+00:00

You're the fucking man. Thanks for sharing bro & keep up the good work.

MixxMaster · 2021-05-19T05:38:02+00:00

Doesn't matter what I think of myself, when others treat me like shit.

choppa223kscope · 2021-05-19T10:39:36+00:00

?? We live in a socially judging society..... if you’re more attractive you will be more successful even if you’re not talented or skillful. You think a short person thinking that they aren’t short is somehow gonna make the world view him as tall? No lol that’s not reality, just like a ugly person thinking they’re attractive isn’t gonna be viewed by the world as attractive regardless if you “think” you are. If a ugly guy “thinks” he’s attractive but the rest of the world views him as ugly is he gonna be able to succeed? No........ more common sense dressed up in a over analytical perspective.

YourNewProphet · 2021-05-19T02:39:57+00:00

no matter what you are rationalizing but your subconsciousness thinks yes, other people opinion is more important

kitnb · 2021-05-19T03:35:20+00:00

Just no. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Stop walking up to random women. There’s apps for women looking to get picked up. Use them. Every woman every where is NOT open to be approached and harassed. Leave us alone.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-05-19T03:58:09+00:00

Its not one or the other. Both matter. Thats why you're offering what you think of others here, what you think they should do.

Glucksburg · 2021-05-19T14:58:07+00:00

My problem with this thinking is that I don't want to become known as "the guy that hits on every girl".

2021-05-19T15:15:12+00:00

Amazing post, thank you OP 💪🏻💥

MauPow · 2021-05-19T16:42:19+00:00

Well, I don't think much of myself either.

tehrealdirtydan · 2021-05-19T22:00:47+00:00

A no is better than a what if or maybe.

Youre just finding out if they're compatible with you. Worst case it's a no, then you know that it wouldn't work.

Leagues stuff is bull.

Go after people YOURE attracted to, not who you THINK you're capable of attracting. Yes it's a numbers game but personality is more important than looks. Go for it.

Chrchgrl85 · 2021-05-19T22:03:18+00:00

I'm on the spectrum....so men HAVE to approach. I will not. Eye contact is super uncomfortable for me, as is speaking to people I don't know and touching people I don't know and people that I don't know touching me. Makes for awkward meetings of the opposite sex. My current boyfriend had to approach me.

RebeccaTheDecka · 2021-05-21T18:01:26+00:00

“It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own. If a god appeared to us - or a wise human being, even - and prohibited us from concealing our thoughts or imagining anything without immediately shouting it out, we wouldn't make it through a single day. That's how much we value other people's opinions - instead of our own”

-Marcus Aurelius, Emperor of Rome, 2nd century

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